I'm 14, He's 19 could we get in trouble?

Question

I'm 14, He's 19 could we get in trouble?

Ok so im seeing a guy whose 5 years older than me and im a teenager.

We are seeing eachother in secret in different towns so we dont get in trouble..

But i wondered could he get in trouble if someone found out we were dating even if we wernt having s*x? Im from Scotland btw

Answer 1

yes, i think it's illegal, but you may want to check. with that age gap, him having s*x with you could make him a child offender.  

Answer 2

ahh lol thats almost my situation as well. im 14, he's 18.  im in Australia so things might be different, but over hear you its legal to go out aslong as you don't have s*x. And i think i'd be about the same over there

don't think i was any help but yer

good luck

Answer 3

Same with my situation. I'm 13, she's 16 (this happened 3 years ago btw, now we broke up). I told my mom and promised to go on the safe zone. If possible sign a contract to go on a safe zone. or just hide it and if someone catches you just have an excuse of "adult supervision" hehe.

Answer 4

Heya

The only way he could get done is if you both have intercourse and someone presses charges. just dont get pregnant.

=] x*x

Answer 5

Only if you have sexual contact

Answer 6

ur obviosly having s*x cuz he would dump you and u gunna get in trouble know what i mean g

Answer 7

no he can only be charged by you if he had intercores with you  

Answer 8

Nope you can't get into trouble for just dating.

Although any sexual activity under the age of 16 is illegal, so you could get in trouble for that. But if you're dating in secret and nobody knows, how are you going to get into trouble?

Answer 9

it depends if hes legal and your not.

if hes of the legal age and your not than theres a strong possibility he will go to jail.

Answer 10

Jamee, are you from Scotland but you are now living in the USA?? The reason I ask is because what you are thinking of doing with your boyfriend is considered to be statuatory rape in most US states- you are way underage and he's a legal adult. If you go through with this, be warned that if your parents or the authorities ever find out about it, your boyfriend will go to PRISON, most likely for a very LONG TIME, and will have to register with the police as a convicted s*x offender for the REST OF HIS LIFE, even after he gets out of prison. That means he won't be able to vote, hold a job in certain fields, and he will be prohibited from holding public office of any type. There will be restrictions on where he can live and with whom he can associate- and YOU will be prohibited from ever seeing him, Jamee. Most convicted s*x offenders usually must undergo court mandated counseling, and a lot of them are also required to undergo chemical or sometimes, surgical castration as a condition of their parole from prison. These restrictions will make getting and keeping a job very difficult, and be warned as well that employers generally will NOT hire any man who has been convicted of a s*x offense- it's too much of a legal liability for them. If you get pregnant and have a baby by this man, then how is he going to pay the child support he will be required to by LAW, Jamee?? THINK about that one for a moment.

Besides, sweetie, this is not a normal or healthy situation for you to be in- your boyfriend is only paying attention to you because he's looking for s*x, and because you come from another country, he probably considers you to be an easy target. You need to tell your parents about him, and what he wants to do, and let them help you. If you have s*x with him and get pregnant, then there will be a whole new set of problems to deal with- at your age, there's no way you can support yourself, not here in the US. You aren't even old enough yet to have a driver's license, much less a job which pays anything, and in any case, US employers don't hire pregnant girls under 18 to do anything. You need to have finished high school and preferably, some college level work before you stand much of a chance of finding work. Are you even sure that he won't dump you as soon as he finds out you're pregnant with his kid? A lot of guys will do just this, you know, because the LAST THING most of them want at that age is the responsibility of being a daddy. As for his marrying you, the likelyhood of that is slim to none, because again, almost no guy that age is ready for the responsibility which comes with marriage and having a family. Bet you haven't thought of any of this, have you. You need to pay attention to it, though, or you are going to really REGRET what you are thinking of doing- possibly for the rest of your LIFE, Jamee.

One other caveat for you: there is NO SAFE TIME when you can have s*x and not risk getting pregnant, NO MATTER WHAT your boyfriend says to you. Guys use that line ALL THE TIME to trick girls into jumping into the sack with them- please, be SMART and DON'T FALL for that trick. Keep in mind as well that it only TAKES ONCE to get pregnant- and YOU CAN GET PREGNANT the first time you have s*x- a great many girls DO.

I hope, after reading this response, that you will stop and think for just a moment about what you are planning to do, and decide if it's worth it. Getting pregnant and 14 is NOT a cool thing to do- it can and will rob you of some of the best years of your life, and cost you your education as well. Be smart, not STUPID, Jamee. You have all the rest of your life in front of you, and there will be plenty of time for marriage, s*x, and a family once you are out of high school and college, and have a good job.  Good luck.  

Answer 11

everything is fine as long as you dont have intercourse.

Answer 12

no but you should definatly not be seeing someone that age! I'm 14 too, and i couldn't imagine going out with a 19 year old. also I'm surprised that your 'not' having s*x if he is 19. you are a child he is a man, its just wrong.

Answer 13

just don't get pregnant or get pressured by bad things, if you feel somethings is wrong get the heck away!!.

Answer 14

You being 14 and dating a 19 year old could get "Creepy". Boys, or even already men at that age are just looking for s*x. Yes if you get sexualy active with him he can be charged,

Answer 15

If you have s*x it's illegal. If you perform sexual acts it's illegal. At least here it is. Do you know the age of consent in Scotland. If you are both over it, it is legal. Or if he is not yet over it, it's legal.

Answer 16

ummm im sure you could hunny and seeing as how your hiding it you may not be mature enough to handle it sooo i would let it go. Generally men who mess around or date lil girls are sick in the head. Honestly you think you the first young girl he has been with?? come on now be smart!

Answer 17

You can hangout but avoid doing more than that until you reach the legal age. He can be accused.

Answer 18

what you are doing isn't illegal.

Answer 19

first you must concern about yourself becau se you a so young and have long enought to dating or s*x in you live.  

Answer 20

that's a crime, and it's one thing if you;re an adult who is dating an older person. you're only a kid. if you had s*x it is a felony and considered statutory rape, and other than s*x, sexual harassment.  

Answer 21

I have no idea what the laws are but something is wrong with a 19 year old that is interested in a 14 year old.

Answer 22

nope, that's normal if you'd ask me

well, i'm also 14 and turning 15 this coming march ..

i had a M.U. with a very same age 19 year old guy

and our relationship lasted for almost 2 years.

uhm, of course others may say "wtf"

but that don't matter

if u really love him.

but u should know your limits.

and he should know his limits.

since we're just teenagers and he's already an adult.

i think he won't get in trouble if someone found out that

you two weren't having s*x

i mean cmon you're too young to settle for things like that

and my last advice is this

go for it and tell your parents about it

i'm sure they're the one that can really help you

so you and your bf can always see each other

without any "problems"

your friends can understand this if they are your true friends btw,

hoped i helped.

Answer 23

If you got caught you would most likely get in trouble, especially this guy you're seeing - he'll get it the worst because he's supposed to be the older more responsible one. You mean trouble with the law? Well, he can't get in trouble with the cops unless you've had s*x, but if you do have s*x he will get into a LOT of trouble (he'd be filed for rape)  even if he had your consent.

But you're hardly going to stop seeing him, it's the age difference that makes it more exciting, isn't it?

Answer 24

The fact that you are both keeping it a secret should answer the fact that you both know you are doing something wrong. He certainly is and should know better! Dump him

Answer 25

why would a 19 year old want to date a 14 year old?

Answer 26

as long as ur not doing anything sexual ur okay but if u do have something sexual he would be charged

Answer 27

yes he could if they found out you were then having s*x he'll be saying hello to some prison time even though he is only 5 years older its your age that is the problem for example in 4 years time you would be 18 and he would be 23 and no one would care less and it would be perfect ally acceptable. but as your still under 16 and he's over 18 makes it a big problem. i know i got loads of stick for going out with my girlfriend when i was 17 and she was 14. i got so much stick from friends and teachers who were worried that i could get in trouble. we decided to carry on anyway. now im 24 we’re still going strong and no one has ever brought up the age difference up again, infact some of my friends are seeing 18 and 19 year olds and nothings been said and thats 6 years difference the real problem is because your under 16 and no one is going to believe a 19 year old is going out with a girl and not having regular s*x regardless of the age difference.

Its up to you if you carry on it could work out or he could get in serious trouble but regardless you'll both get stick from friends and family i know we did

Answer 28

As long as you're not having s*x, it's ok. Do please make sure you know what his intentions are.

I live in Glasgow.

Answer 29

Most likely it is a problem

Answer 30

5 years is too big an age difference when your still in your teens. You wouldnt be interested in an 11 year old and he shouldnt be interested in you at 14. I know its difficult if you love him but really try to stay with people closer to your own age and at least people that are still going to school or involved in the same things that you are. I dont think legally he would get in trouble if you arent having s*x but i do remember a case when i was in school and someone being ordered to be seen by a Doctor to verify that she was still a virgin, so if you are its not like you can deny it and save him getting into trouble. I think he would really get ragged out by other adults for it and starting a relationship in secrecy really isnt a good sign for it lasting or for it being good.  

Answer 31

well just as long as yooh dont have s*x and underage stuff with him cause he could get arrested for it. he could get done for rape even if yooh wanted him to do it.