I'm 14, my parents don't want me dating a 17yr old..?

Question

i've been hanging out with this guy for a while, and i really like him

i just recently became a freshman, and he's a junior.

my mom DOESN'T want me dating him because i think she's

afraid that i'll get pregnant because of him just like she did when she was 15.

but i told her i'm not going to make the same mistakes as her.

every time i even bring his name up, my parents go ballistic.

it's so ridiculous, and they won't even give him a chance.

now i'm dating him behind my parents back.

any advice? preferably if you've been in this situation or you're a parent?

thanks.

he's a great guy, and he gets good grades.

doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs, the only bad thing

that they have heard is that he has a tattoo.

they let me hang out with him before they found out

he was 17, and i think it's so unfair that just because

there is THREE years a difference, they won't let me

even be friends with the kid at all.

ugh. someone please help.

thank you so much

Answer 1

i think its fine as long as hes a respecatable guy and wont force you into anything, your parents are just worried about you, but you need to let them know how youre feeling and that they need to give this guy a chance

x*x

Answer 2

Well I'm definitely not going to get best answer but I'd have to say your parents are right...

You asked for previous experiences, well when I was 15 I dated an 18 year old and it just isnt the same as dating someone my age as I later figured out. I mean he'll be really charming and stuff but its just not the same as dating someone my own age. Now I'm dating a guy that has just turned 16 and and Im 15 10 months and he is so funny and adorable. He's my age and we get along as friends almost companions, we work together to get things done but before when I was dating the 18 yr old it was just him giving and me receiving and eventually he turned into a huge controlling jerk, also the relationship can turn awkward with such a big age difference. It happened to my friend once who was 14 and dated a 17 yr old. She got pregnant and it was all bad. Plus, I just think guys my own age are just a whole lot sweeter and more fun to hang out with but if you're the kind of girl who wants to be watched over and protected (which can be cool) then you may like him but I dont think you'll like him for who he is. Also, he will be going to college in a year and he'll be doing college things. Do you really trust him when he is that kind of environment or do you think that he would rather have a girl his own age. I doubt it. Also, you will have a reputation for whatever reason as a s**t cus thts what happened to my friend. Anyways, it may be different with you but thts my 2 cents on your question.

Answer 3

Aw! I think that's sweet! He sounds like a great guy! Your parents are just having a hard time letting go. You ARE only 14. But they shouldn't keep you from him even if he is 17. I can see how your mom is worried just because she was a teenage mom at 15. She just cares about you and doesn't want you to ruin your life like she did hers. Don't worry about your parents. Follow your heart, but make wise decisions. If he ever does get you to have s*x with him, even if you did it willingly, you can go to the police, tell them what happened, and he would be named a s*x offender for the rest of his life. Have fun, be careful, and think before you act! Hope I helped!! :)

Answer 4

you're parents want what's best  for you. i'm not saying they're totally right, I mean, I don't even know the guy. But those three years can make a difference. Teens mature so much in those three years, and normally, not in all cases, guys that age, that are much older than the girl normally want a girl for s*x. not all but quite a few. he might pressure you to do something you don't want to do, and once he's 18, it'll be illegal. Hey, I'm 14 and my parents don't want me to date at all.  

Answer 5

I think you are too young.Understand where your parents are coming from. She knows how guys are these days. You should focus more on school and less on older guys.

Answer 6

Look, all that about him not drinking or doing drugs, how in the world do u know that's true?  He could do it behind ur back.  Since ur in different grades, he could be talking about scoring.  Be very careful.  

Answer 7

Oh I'm 14 too so i know what you're going through. Your mom is probably scared that since he is older than you ( 3 year difference isn't bad) that he will pressure you into having s*x or doing something that they won't want you to do. It's not fair that they aren't giving him a chance only because he's older than you. You shouldn't see him behind your parent's back though because if they find out somehow then they'll never let you see him again and they'll start accusing you of things. Tell your parents that you want to have a friend over for dinner. Make sure both of your parents are home though. Don't tell them who the person is just that he's a male and that he's really nice and you'll like them to meet him. Then once he shows up they'll be shocked and all but it's not like they're going to kick him out. They'll be forced to sit down with him and actually get to know him. Like I said before, the big reason they are so against him is because he's 17 and they thing he's going to have s*x with you or be a bad influence. Prove them wrong and show them what a nice guy he is. He seems cool, Good Luck =)

Answer 8

i know wat you mean im was in the situation as you before i was dating an older fella and my parents didnt like it at all but i invited him round to the house for my parents to meet him and they found out that he was a really great guy and they trusted him with me so maybe you should tell you parents or bring him around without asking so they cant say no! that way they can get to know him!

the only thing i will say is that there is only 1 thing on a guys mind at that age about what they want out of a girl so be carefull!!!!

hope that helps good luck and be safe!!!!

Answer 9

i understand your moms worried but you haveta live your life.

i do the the age difference is kinda big though..

but you should no doubt be allowed to hang out with him!

hope it works out!

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Answer 10

Some boys at 17 have expectations that 14 year old girls are not ready to deal with. Just because to your knowledge he does not do all of these different things does not mean that he won't have the same expectations and that things won't get hot and heavy. If you really want to date this boy, ask your mom to come along on a few dates or whatever. She will either trust you, and eventually let you two go out alone or she won't. either way, you will get to date him and if he doesn't have the expectations, he shouldn't mind. I know the whole idea is kind of silly, but so is being 17 going out with a 14 year old.