I'm 14 and I just lost my virginity.. scared?

Question

I just lost my virginity, a couple days ago. I know i'm young, I didn't plan nor want it to happen. So I'm not here to hear how stupid I am. I got taken advantage of. Anyways, lucky me, gets the guy who didn't use a condom. Great, right. Anyways. Heres the facts. I got off my period sunday, it happened tuesday. He didn't "ejaculate" in a week. & he "pulled out". I would just like to know how high the risk is of me being pregnant. I feel very ashamed, and couldn't tell my mom. I have been in this very depressed, guilty modd since it happened.

please & thank you for all your help.

Answer 1

First of all, you said you 'got taken advantage of' and that you did not 'want it to happen' - this makes it sound like rape. If it was indeed rape, you shouldn't be feeling guilty! You really need to talk to your mom about this and seriously think about taking legal action against the person who raped you. I'd also be going to the ER so they can do an evaluation of you.

*Edit - oh okay, be careful the way  you word things though, seriously, you could put this kid behind bars if you say it that way! *

Answer 2

My darling the chance is EXTREMELY low but you still need to do a test, you gotta tell ur mum, she will look after and protect you, thats a fact.

You need to take more care in the future my darling because there are lots of nasty diseases out there, its not just pregnancy you need to worry about, please go to ur mum xxxxx

Answer 3

Of course, anything is possible and I can't say 100% for sure but, I think the possiblity of you having gotten pregnant this one time are slim.

Answer 4

Hun listen... A lot of guys think that the pull out method works, however, the pre-ejaculant that comes out before the actually ejaculation has a highly concentration of sperm in it them the other stuff. I would say get tested for this reason and two other reasons. 1. you can get pregnant the first time you have s*x...

2. I have a child who was the result of the "pull out" method.

Just check your bases and get checked...but most importantly talk to your mom...she really needs to know that you are sexually active and that you have questions...trust me she will feel a lot better finding from you wanting to tell her.

Answer 5

take birth control pills

their r alot of girls like u

dont b scared

and if it doesnt work out, theirs always adoption

but dont kill ur baby

good luck

Answer 6

I think you need to tell your mother. She will take care of you. For someone who gets "taken advantage of" you need to get an STD/HIV check and a pregnancy check. Those are very important and need to be done. You do not know what the other person has done, despise what they say. I would also suggest telling your mother because your friends may not have all the answers to the feelings you will get about this event and your mother could be of vital use to you.

Answer 7

You were not taken advantage of...It would have been so easy to say NO....So do not blame everything on the guy. You should have known to use condoms...Lucky you should have said use a condom or get out. You could be pregnant or you may not be.. However you can use a pregnancy test 19 days after that happened (when you had s*x) and it should show up by then if you are or not.

If you are not then you should make an appointment at the health department and get on birth control. It is FREE and your MOM does not have to know about it if this is what you are going to be doing is HAVING s*x.

If i were you i would be all torn up too but i would have no one to blame but my ownself.

If you are pregnant then you will have to tell your mom.

If you have learned your lesson now then maybe you should not have s*x again until you are older or atleast on birth control.

The guy that you were with could not even afford a 75 cent condom so what does that tell you about him?

All you can do is wait and dont do it again.

Good luck

I lost my virginity when i was 16 to my now husband but i made sure i was on birth control first before we had s*x so you should have really thought about it more than you did and you would not be having to worry right now.

Answer 8

Get Tested.     Dont let men take advantage of  you. I Say Chances are 30% you can get preggy.

Answer 9

well, first i would pray and ask God to forgive me.

then i would tell your mom. she loves you, she doesnt want you to get hurt, she will be disappointed in you, but she will forgive you.

i dont think there is an exact "percentage" of the possibility of you being pregnant.

but definately get tested, it IS possible.

Answer 10

You made a choice, now you have to find the best way to deal with it.  TALK to your parents.  If you don't feel comfortable, TALK to a friends mom who you trust.  TALK TO YOUR PARENTS!!!! They may be upset for a while, and they may not love the things you do, but they love you.

Answer 11

There is a chance you could be pregnant but right now it is all a waiting game. You just have to try and relax, talk to someone you trust and in 2 weeks take a pregnancy test. Don't be ashamed, you cannot blame yourself or allow anyone to put you down because someone else did something horrible to you. I say call the police.

You, might still be able to take the Plan B pill ... if you can find it at a pharmacy near you.

Good Luck.

Answer 12

if your period ended sunday and you had s*x tuesday, i highly doubt youre pregnant. you see, girls cycles are every 28 days. approxiamately. so if it just ended youre not scheduled for another ovulation for another what 24 days. so you wouldve been safe on sunday.

next time, use protection and you wont have to worry like this and come on here and ask stupid questions.

Answer 13

d chances of being pregant is very high bcause u said he didnt ejaculate in a week n that increses d chances so i think the best ting 4 u to do is to get a home preganancy test done n fr the test u will what step to take next ok

Answer 14

How old was this guy?

If you said the word "no" or "I don't want too"  it is rape.  

You need to talk to your mother.  I know you don't want to tell her, but it is the best thing to do.  Parents have unconditional love.  She will be upset at first, but she will be the one person that will always be there for you.   It is playing on your mind and you need help to get through this.  It is hard being a young girl in todays world.

Answer 15

stop having s*x now. seriously. just wait. everything will be better that way.

Answer 16

get tested  its possible

Answer 17

IT CAN HAPPEN BUT I SAY 20% CHANSE.. LETS HOPE YOUR NOT

Answer 18

dont be ashamed if it wasnt ur fault.

im not sure if u cud be pregnant. the best way to find out is to buy a pregnancy test. they r not too expensive.

whether u r or not, ur mom wud still love u and help u and evrything will work out.

good luck.

Answer 19

i know it would be hard to tell your mom cause i know what your going through but your mom should know. go today and get the morning after pill. I am sorry to hear that happened to you. but you should also go and turn him into the police because he will do this to another girl. well then do not say you were taken advatage of, because that means rape. your just sayin now that you were just scared but wanted it. if you didnt you would have turned him in or something by now. ive been through it.