I'm 14. & i want to runaway .?

Question

my mom doesn't want me. She would leave me for days on end alone , & stay @ her boyfriends house. I'd have to find ways to school & places to sleep. I came home one day & she was moved out of the house & into her boyfriends. after a month of dating him, & she's an alcoholic i think. i then moved in with my dad & things were good until my dad got custody of me & my brother. now, everything that goes wrong in his life is our fault, SOMEHOW, SOMEWAY. His & my stepmom's marriage is falling apart because we live here, my stepmom told me she wasn't in love with him. & my dad told me he thought she was insane & they were getting a divorce. i'm expected to be the adult here. it's ******* ridiculous. i do GREAT in school & i get into some trouble, or i used to, but i haven't in a while. & nothing is EVER good enough. I am always doing something wrong, & everything in their lives is my fault. i'm a parent to my brother. & i'm only 14. he's 11. i'm constantly being screamed @. my dad everynight he has rage fits. & go crazy & start screaming like he's phyco. & he'll get in our face & tell us how ungraateful we are. & how he can't handle us.& he understands why my mom doesn't want us. he's starting to drink alot latley too. my stempm isn't home @ night because she works as a bartender , but she thinks he's changing also . my mom used to hit me, & it used to be worse @ her house. she would kick me out @ 12 am. & then punch herself. & say i did it ?! & now that i live here, i thought it would be SOSOSO much better. & it's not. it's like they were being so nice to me as an act to get me to live here ?

i moved here & it's an hour away from where i used to live, i live in florida btw . & i had to start at a new highschool where i don't know anyone, & this is my 14th school. yeah 14th ! & i hate being the new girl. my mom calls me a s**t. & everythingg you can think of. or she used to. she tells everyone how happy she is without us. & my dad tells everyone how he's going crazy with us. & only tells people how bad i am.

i'm really not bad.

all i've ever wanted was for them to be proud of me & love me ?! wtf.

anyways on my question !! !!

if i were to run away , how much money would i need do you think ? & where could i stay ? could you guys give me the all the details ?

& please don't tell me to talk to them, they really honestly don't listen to me. & i'm not one of those kids that wants to run away because i didn't get what i want. this has nothing to do with anything like that. i want to leave because i can't handle this. or them & they don't even want me. so why be here ?

please & thanks in advance.

Answer 1

I guess you ought to start saving your money..cause it'll cost you a lot..

~train/plane/bus ticket

~food(meals etc)

~lodging(hotels and stuff)

~and all the other stuff you'll need

I'm 15 and I always think about running away...I tried when i was like 11 and i got as far as our barn...i just hid the horse trailer...for like an hour...went back..and my parents didn't even give a flip..

Do you have any distant relatives(aunt, uncle, grandmother that lives a ways off)....you could always call them on your schools phone(tell em' it's an emergency) They might be willing to let you live with them...I would try your grandmother first...she might need hep around the house and old folks are a whole LOT sweeter...

Good Luck!

Answer 2

oh WOW. don't you have any relatives to tell you this problem too? l:

well i understand why you are trying to run away but you'll be alot of money to survive. your only a freshman so you are not able to work or own anything. you can't rent a motel room also. i think you should go to one of your relatives and tell them about your problems and also tell them to try and hide you from your parents. if your parents are like that, you deserve alot of money from what you suffered. i wish you the best

Answer 3

If you have any really good friends you should go to them and tell them, ask them if you and your brother can stay with them. I think you should probably get a job and if they do let you stay at their house help out with chorse.  

Answer 4

I am very worried about your situation. Running away is not the answer you will not be able to support yourself. You said you are doing well in school in spite of this terrible home life, I am impressed. Are there any other relatives who could help you out? Lets be honest at 14 you can't live on your own. You need a social worker to look into your home life for your sake and your brothers. Go to your school counselor on Monday and show her/him your question. You sound like a great kid don't ruin your life by trying to live on the street. Believe it or not it would be worse. Please send an update to let everyone know you are OK.

Answer 5

:( that is awful.  I'm so sorry you have to go thru all that.  no one deserves to go through that.  Do you have any family or friends you could live with?  Could you take your brother? if you are being the parent to him, what would he do without you?  I think you need to be there for him, but if there is any way you two could live with an aunt or uncle or cousin or ANYONE besides your stupid parents, that would be the best.  even if you could find a friend that you could live with for a week or two and see if your brother could do the same with one of his friends.  then maybe your dad could see how much you really do for him.  I mean, where would you go if you ran away?  you can't even get a job yet and there is no way you could survive on the streets at 14. as for how much money you would need, that depends on how long you want to be away.  if you're planning on being gone forever -- you would have you have a full time job.

wow.  I am so sorry you are going through that.  what stupid parents just to neglect their children.  

Do you have a teacher or any adult that you look up to and trust? is there any adult that you could talk to about your problem and see what they say? maybe a counselor at school or one of your friends mom and dad? any adult that you trust could probably help you out.  even if it means turning your parents in to CPS (child protective services), which they deserve.  talk to an adult that you trust and see if you can't change arrangements.

Answer 6

is there a grandparent, aun or uncle that you can live with until your parents decide to get their S**t together? A 14 yr old can't make it alone out there, and what about your little brother? his life will only get worse without you. talk to a teacher or school counselor for help. That's what they're there for.

Answer 7

i tryed that once...

couldnt make it past the mailbox.

so i hid in the back yard.

yea i know. .

when i came back, my parents didnt even bother go ing out looking for me. all they did was punish me, and my mom said "fine, you wanna go run away, then go. no one out there is going to take care of you, and next time you try to leave, i'll make sure you never come back"

WHO THE F says that???

they didnt even look worried. I HATE HER!!!

Answer 8

Call Child Services Or Something Like That. Common Man Thats A Obvious Thing To Do!

Lol I Tryed To Run Away Once, I Was 10 And I was In my 3 Story Apartment, I Cut The Window Open (It Was Like A Fence)

And I Was Out Of It, I Was Too Scared To Jump Though! i Needed To Land In Only One Area, Cause if I Landed More To The left, I would Either Land In Very Steep Floor Or The Parking Lot. Dont Run Away, You Will Run Out Of Money In No Time.

(Sorry if i write with caps, its just a habit.)

Answer 9

i don't no your name, however I'm not going to advise you to run away because that doesn't seem logical. but i did look up a child protective service in florida and hope that helps. but the reason for me telling you not to run away is because your only 14 and may not have a job which means no money, food, transportation, or housing. I would hate to no that u would be left alone out in the cold and living on the streets. you sound like a nice girl who doesn't deserve this kind of outrageous treatment. I also advise you not to run away because in my opinion that would be very selfish on you part towards your little brother. if your going threw these things I'm sure he would be to. which means when your gone hes left to fend for him self. although i do advise you to check out my link and find some alternative help. also ask some Friends to stay at their house for a while. also its not a bad idea to tell some of your teachers about whats going on they are there to help. i wish you the best and hope you take my advice to heart.!  

Answer 10

aww well im 14 too..and i think you really cant leave you have a brother that looks up to you maybe you should call child services. its not fun but in the long run someone will take you and love you...idk if you have ever watched gracies choice but it sounds just like you..and your family.. you shouldnt worry about there marriagw it would fall apart evenually. i mean they dont love eachother if there calling them names back and forth.. if you get kicked out again i say make there life a living h**l just like they made yours that way you should like call the suicide hotline or something and tell them everything