I'm 14 years old and i was adopted by my grandparents i want to now to know how i can be un-adopted by them?

Question

i don'tt get along with my grandparents and i just hate being here. it is driving me crazy and i feel i need counseling but neither of them ever take my needs seriously what can i do?

Answer 1

well i'm going crazy with my guardians so your not the only one! just talk to friends! be nice to them and obey them for a while then see if you can spend the nite with friends or cusions!  

Answer 2

If you live in the US...

Adoption is permanent.  As long as it was legally done (and it’s very rare that there was a mistake made, because the court is very careful about these things), then it can’t be 'un-done'.  

As far as emancipation (since others have mentioned it)--there is only one state in the US that will even consider emancipating a 14-year-old (it’s too young), and even if you happen to live in that state unless you're a professional actor/athlete/musician/etc making BIG bucks, the court won’t even consider it.  ONE of the requirements for emancipation that the minor must earn enough money to fully support themselves (paying for rent/utilities/food/medical expenses/school supplies/etc completely on their own).  The average 14-year-old can’t even come close to doing that (in part because child labor laws greatly restrict the number of hours they can work).

If there’s not abuse, your only option is to try to work it out / seek help from a counselor.  If they aren’t willing to/can’t afford to pay for it, then see your school counselor.  But honestly, there’s a good chance that all the counselor will do is work on helping you to change your attitude.  The bottom line is your grandparents have the legal right to determine where you go/what you do/etc, and all teenagers at some point feel like their parents don’t understand them (when you grow up you’ll realize that they understand a lot more than you think).  However, if there really are issues that need to be addressed with your grandparents, then the counselor can help with that/can provide guidance.

  

Answer 3

Talk to a school counselor that's what they are for. Tell the them how you feel and they should be able to help you.At least by doing this you will be able to get headed in the right direction to getting where you need to be.

Answer 4

you can get an emancipation from them my sister got on from my mom you just have to make sure you can take care of yourself

Answer 5

i use to be the same way when i was your age--wanting to get out.

if they are hurting you then you could call social services.

if you think you can suport yourself then you can be imancipated.

its sucks but most likely you're just gonna have to stick it out, try to not let them get to you. and for counseling just try to find a good friend to talk to

good luck

Answer 6

It all depends on your complaint about them. If it is abuse, then that is illegal and you can report them. If you are just unhappy and have nothing to really base your needs on, then I doubt if you can do anything.  It  won't be long until you'll be of age to leave on your own, until then just try to get along the best you can. There is life after 18.

Answer 7

Most 14 year olds feel like you, wait till you grow up, then you will see you are being stupid.

Answer 8

Okay, let's talk about being 14.  Being a teen is a really rough period in life.  You are trying to figure out who you are.  The problem is to do that you need to develop a separate identity from your parents.  Ideally, that means the parents give you enough room to try new things.  But what often happens is that the parents are scared to let you do this.  I'm guessing that your biological parents weren't able to take care of you for some reason and as a result your grandparents adopted you.  They might be double panicked because of the reason your biological parents aren't raising you.  I could be totally wrong on that.  Still they aren't giving you a lot of freedom, are they?  Hence, why you don't get along.

If you are being abused that needs some serious intervention.  If you are depressed you need some intervention too.  Look, you are 14, at your annual physical ask to speak with your doctor alone.  Let him be the one to suggest counseling to your grandparents.  Alternately, I would suggest seeking out your school counselor.  Failing all of that, stay away from home as much as possible - but do it in a way that your grandparents can't complain about.  Volunteer at your local hospital, animal shelter, museum, etc.  Tell your grandparents you are doing it for you college applications.  Get involved in afterschool organizations.  Again, this is all going to help you go away to college (just think in 4 years, you could move miles away and get a good education and have your freedom).

I do feel some sympathy for your grandparents.  They raised their kids and thought they were done and now they are back at it again.

You do realize that they weren't legally obligated to adopt you or even take you in.  They must love you.  It's just their way of loving you is causing stress.  Cut them and yourself some slack.

Best of luck.

Answer 9

run away

Answer 10

First off, I know what your going thru. I lived with an Aunt and Uncle after my parents died and it didn't work out well either. First off, if you really feel you need counseling, look into your school guidance counselors. They can find you someone thru the school or possibly get it thru to your grandparents that you want/need help. Luckily, I had brothers and sisters that were willing and able to take me in and assume guardianship when i was 15. And I can say now, its the best thing that could have happened for the relationship between my aunt and uncle. Its been 10 years since i lived with them and now we get along great, lol. Just keep in mind, it does get better, no matter where you are...you just have to give it time

Answer 11

Either talk to your school councilor, or get emancipated.

Answer 12

Why do you hate being there? Sometimes adopted persons just want to get out of their homes for curiosity, nothing to do with any cruelty or mistreatment. Later they learn that it is the best place for them. More details could help, pls.