I'm 14yrs. old and I am pregnant. I don't think I'm ready. How do you know when your ready?

Question

I'm 14yrs. old and I am pregnant. I don't think I'm ready. How do you know when your ready?

Answer 1

there isnt a age limit to when your ready to be a parent it comes naturally if you feel as though you can not provide, pay and put everything aside friends, school, parties ect... to look after your child then maybe you are ready. Although huni i think if your old enough to have s*x your old enough to know what consquences can and will be! I am not going to tell you wtf where you thinking or your stupid just that next time! BE SMART AND BE SAFE X good luck  

Answer 2

Sweetie no one can tell you when you are gonna be ready but yourself. I became a mother at 18(I know a bit older than you) But it was unplanned, and the father didnt not like the idea and wanted an abortion, I refused and now I will be 21 in sep and have a beautifull 15 month old daughter that I Can not picture living without< I have no help from her father>I also just recently had another girl in june and although it may be the hardest thing you will have to deal with in your life, Just remimber there are several girls out there in you same situation that keep there children wether or not they were ready, regaurdless of the situation, just remimber the child desirves a chance.Dont think of it as a mistake , just as a supprise. If you still think you are unable to support a child physically or emotionally, remimber there are several familys that are unable to concieve and would love the chance to be a mom and dad.

Answer 3

If you weren't sure you were ready for a baby you shouldn't have been having s*x.

As far as "knowing" when you are ready, this is very subjective.  No one really knows for sure until it happens.  Or doesn't.

If you really are pregnant you need counselling immediately.  See a doctor or a clinic and get some assistance in making whatever decision is right for you.

Answer 4

When you can support yourself and your child. When you want a child. When your life is stable. When your out of middle school.  

Answer 5

i cant  even believe that i am reading that at the age of 14 you had s*x,Why on earth did you have s*x at 14 yrs old,where are your parents,unfortunately you thought that you was ready when you had unprotected s*x, i guess you just have to learn to be ready since you decided to do this early,But i suggest to talk with your parents and let them help you -good luck i hope you make the right decision and take care of your responsibility..baby having babies,so sad..

Answer 6

if you're old enough to be having s*x, you're old enough to take care of a baby.

14 is too young, wtf are you thinking?

Answer 7

Unfortunately, no 14 year old is ready, but that doesn't mean you can't cope with it and still be a positive example to your baby.

Talk to your parents and get medical support which will help you prepare properly.

Good luck

Answer 8

First, go to the website below. Get all of the facts. After that, talk to your parent/guardian, because its the only way that you can really get through this situation. Be mature about it, but be totally open and honest. They may be mad at first, but they'll only want to do what's best for you! You know you're ready when you feel yourself capable of raising a child and being a mother. Best of luck to you.  

Answer 9

Having a baby is hard enough under the best of circumstances.  There is no way a 14 year old can be ready for parenthood.

Answer 10

do what ever is best for your baby, but don't ever ever have abortion. adoption is a option or u can ask your mom to help u raise the baby

Answer 11

I suggest you evaluate your relationship with your family.  Are you on good terms with your parents?  is there an aunt or a grandparent who's especially fond of you?

Then, talk to the people in your life whom you trust the most.  Ask them if they will help you in raising the child, in babysitting it while you are in school.  If you have good family support, even though you are young, your motherhood experience might end up being a beautiful one.  

On the other hand, if you can't depend on your parents or close relatives for help, if there is nobody you can trust to help you in raising the child, and if you are still early in your pregnancy, you should ask your medical practitioner about abortion.  It is far better than dropping out of school, or neglecting the child once it's born.

Either way, get yourself to a counselor right away.  This is no time to be on your own.  Many girls have gone through what you are going through, and it helps to talk to someone who's talked to many others just like you.

Answer 12

Sweetie, I am so sorry for all the negative and hurtful replies to your question! I am sure you know by now that perhaps 14 was too young to have s*x, and you might suspect you are not ready to have a baby. BUT, you can't go back and change that now.

First, you need to find a support group--whether this is your family, your counselor at school, your church, or whoever. You need to have someone to talk to.

Secondly, you need to take really good care of yourself, no matter what you decide to do. If your family is supportive, you can go to the doctor, have a checkup and get special vitamins. If not, you need to eat as healthy as you can--milk, water, fruits, veggies. Take a children's chewable vitamin once a day.

Next, you need to decide what to do. Many young girls are just as physically "not ready" to have a baby as they are emotionally or mentally. Your body might not be able to handle a nine month pregnancy. If you decide to keep the baby, (and my personal opinion is that this is usually a RELLY GOOD choice--but I do have a little sister your age who weighs about 80 pounds and I think her body couldn't handle it), you need to make sure that you see a doctor immediately. If you don't have insurance, or supportive family members, you can go to your local health department for free. They are there to help, so don't be scared t go.

Next, you must decide quickly what to do. Since youa re so young, if the doctor says your body annot handle the pregnancy, you need to discuss your options. It may be a planned labor inducement at 8 months, or any number of options. But if you decide to terminate the pregnancy, you need to go to whomever you think will be supportive ask for help, and take care of it as soon as possible--do not put it off.

If you can handle the pregnancy physically, you need to decide if you will try to keep the baby. You can let the baby be adopted by your parents, who will have custody as if it were their baby, not yours--and this can be tough. Or, you can go through an agency and let a couple who cannot have a baby adopt yours. I personally think that because of your age, this is the best choice. You are still a baby yourself, and have a lot of growing up and experiencing to do. But, your baby can grow up loved as if it were the family's biological child, and be well provided for. It will be hard to let go, but you will probably be doing the best thing. Then you can finish growing up yourself, focus on learning to love and respect yourself with out having s*x--you do not need to be having s*x this young--and figuring out who you are and what you want to be. THEN you can find a man you love--in several years-- and have another baby if you want. No, it won't be the same child, but you will know that you did the right thing for your first, and you will have another chance.

The most important thing is to NOT PANIC. You can figure this out, do what is right for you and your baby, and move on. It might have been a mistake that go you into this situaltion, but that doesn't mean you aren't worth anything as a person. Learn from your mistakes, use them to do the right thing and become a better person and you don't have to regret anything--you will have tuned a negative into a learning experience.

Good luck, and please know you are not all alone in the world. There are people who will help you even if your family does not. I hope they do, of course, but it not, you can find others. There are guys out there who will still love and respectyou if YOU DO NOT SLEEP WITH them--and those who do not are trash. STAY AWAY FROM THEM--you control when you are ready to have s*x, take the chance of getting pregnant and grow up. Don't rush it. Trust me, you have the rest of your life to be grown up--enjoy your last few years of childhood. Go to school, make some new, supportive friends, and continue school--there is a ton of financial aid for you to go to college. GO TO COLLEGE! Give yourself the opportunities you need to succeed in life. THEN you will be ready the next time you get pregnant.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers!!!

Answer 13

Sweetheart, you are most ready when you have completed your education, married a wonderful man and the two of you greatly desire to share your love and your home with a child.  With that being said, you are to young to have to worry about such big things.  I know it must be terribly frightening.  Reach out to an adult in your life who loves you and will be supportive while you determine what your situation is and what to do next.

Answer 14

when you can support it on your own without having to have food stamps, welfare, afdc, rent assistance, free child care, wic, parents watchin your kid while you still finish school...you need to put this baby up for adoption and not let it happen again...your not jamie lynn...and she is a horrible example....I don't think 14 year olds should be allowed on here...just for that fact...their not even grown up enough to keep their legs closed...

Answer 15

Honey I am 27 now and had a baby this past March.  I wasn't completely ready then.  I am a single mom and was really scared to "do it alone."  Once my baby boy came into this world my life was changed.   For the better of course!  Once your baby is here you will want to do everything to make life better for the two of you.  Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.  You will never really know when you are ready.  I applaud you for having the baby.  Many people freak out and make rash decisionis that they later regret.  Good luck, you will be fine!

Answer 16

You'll know when you're ready. You don't seem to be ready, but you've done it and now you have to deal with it. Did you tell the possible father? Did you tell your parents? If you didn't you might want to tell all  of them to get the help and support that you can get.

Answer 17

What a difficult situation to find yourself in!  I'm sorry to say that at 14 there is no possible way that you are ready to be a mother. You are still a child yourself. You have neither the knowledge nor the life experience to adequately care for and raise a baby who will soon be a child.  A toddler, a kindergarden student...

  

Raising a child is difficult and demanding. Your teenage years will be spent changing diapers and waking up for night feedings. While all your friends are off at the prom, you will be at home putting your screaming toddler to bed. You may feel resentful towards your child.  

Hormones connected with being pregnant may make you feel confused and emotional, making it even harder to make a rational decision.  If your instincts tell you that you are not ready,listen to them. Your whole future is on the line. This is a BIG decision.

But unfortunately the decision isn't only based on that. There are other factors to consider, like your religious and personal beliefs and those of your family.  Include them in the process. Get their feedback.  

I can tell you from my own personal experience of finding myself pregnant at 16 that I was not ready and I have never regretted my decision to abort. I am now 34.  My parents were supportive of my decision and i thank them profusely for their guidance. When I finally did become a parent at 22, I learned first hand what a BIG decision having a child really is. It is a hard thankless job, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week... for 20 years. So far I've only made it through 12.

This will be FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!!!

Answer 18

A 14 yr old now a days is not ready--talk to a doctor so they can tell you your options before it's too late and do what is best for YOU not whats best for your parents, your boyfriend or your best friends...Remember you're the one who will have to raise this baby for 18 years...you're the one who will have to get up 2-3 times a night if not more to feed the baby and change the baby...In my opinion a 14 year year old should either give the baby up for adoption or abort...you're still a baby yourself!

Answer 19

If you have to question it- you're not ready.  If you don't a stable income- you're not ready.  If you didn't plan it- you're not ready.  If you don't have a stable support system- you're not ready.  AND people are rarely 100% ready no matter what the situation is.  Once you are in a secure loving relationship, have a good job, and home to provide for your child then you will have a better chance of being ready.

Answer 20

you are never really ready im 22 and still dont feel ready thats life and you have to deal with the consequenses best of luck

Answer 21

When you are old enough to give your child all the love and support and time a baby needs. At 14 you are not able to do these things you aren't even old enough to work more than 20 hours a week how can you expect to raise a child? You also should not be having s*x if you can not deal with the outcome

Answer 22

wat were u thinking im  da same age and im not even thinkin bout dat stuff u jus screwed up half ur life and if  u knew u wernt ready then y did u do it? now u hav to face the conseqeunce to ur problem. nice one.

Answer 23

You are ready when you have the support of your spouse and the financial means to support the child. You are obviously are ready since you were trying to get pregnant by having unprotected s*x with your significant other.   Good luck.

Answer 24

at 14 your not ready, but you have no choice but to be ready

you wont know what to do until it happens, thats how you learn

if your mother is supportive she can guide you and help you out in any situation...there are books on parenting and pregnancy..you should look into them

Good Luck

Answer 25

well...i had my first child at 17 years old...it was hard..its not gonna be easy...i tell u that now...i wish you would have used some protection or at least talk to your parents and got on birth control..i dunno what to say...yea you may be thinking awwww a lil baby..but when your waking up every 3 hours at night when the baby is crying bc it needs you to feed it and change it..or when the baby just cries for no reason and you cant seem to find out what the cause is....after you have that child..your heart leaves your body..it now belongs to your child...everything b4 what you use to do...is now all about your child...i would continue with school...and do your best..get a support system going talk to your parents bc your gonna need help...and u may say now u wont..but believe me you will....and as far as how do you know when your ready...well..the positive way of being ready and most realistic...way...is being married...with a home..and finacially able..to be able to support a baby..thats the best way..but we all know included myself sometimes it doesnt happen that way luckly for me when i got pregnant at 16 and had my baby when i was 17 i had a good man by my side...and has been by my side for 8 years and we have a home now and 3 kids...and i went on got my GED and went to college...for a nursing degree and got that too....dont ever let anyone tell you ....YOU cant do something your young...but having a little one inside you can wake u up in a heart beat some it dont but some it does like me...and makes you grow wiser as the months of pregnancy come to an end....think with your head...think smart..dont do anything you will regret years later...and you know what im talking about...

Answer 26

well you never really know when your ready to ahve a baby. im 14 and also pregnant i think. look you may not be ready but their options you can look at. but when you have the baby their beautiful bunddles of joy. there nice to have  around and everything.  but make a choice on what you want to do cause u want it to ahve a beautiful life.

        i wish u thhe very best of luck.

Answer 27

why would you want to have s*x before you are 16?

You weren't very clever now, were u.

it's too late to have the morning after pill

Next thing you do if you don't want it is to have an abortion

Answer 28

Fourteen is young. You are probably immature your self yet. I cannot tell you if you are ready or not. It is my opinion at 14 you are not. Usually if you are ready you are not asking strangers. I would think about what is best for your baby at this point. I wish you luck though. I hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 29

you're ready to have a baby when you're married and have a job and a place of your own and when you're financially and mentally ready. and when your husband and you decide that you want to try for a baby. since you probably meet NONE of these requirements, i'd say you're not ready. go for the adoption route. there are tons of couples in the country that can't have children on their own that would love to take care of your baby. make good choices. God bless.

Answer 30

Hi Jesse, I'm sorry 2 hear that u r pregnant at such an early age..u did not say how far gone u r...u seem NOT 2 b ready 2 me, as ur asking others if u r...I cannot advise u more until i know how far into ur pregnancy u r, so please send me an E mail & let me know if u want some advice from me...

Answer 31

I don't think any first time mom goes their entire pregnancy without that thought.especially around the 7-8 month.. if you have a strong support system at home I am sure you will do just fine.. if after the baby is here and you still don't feel you are ready you can consider adoption.. they do open adoptions so that you can still be apart of your baby's life but let it have great parents that can give him/her a great life.

Good Luck.. only you knows what is best for you !