I'm 15 and I'm pregnant. Help!?

Question

I know that I'm going to get slated for having s*x at this age, but it was my choice. Not yours. We did use protection, before you ask.

I've worked the dates and I'm 2 months pregnant. My boyfriend left me when he found out. I'm just scared of having a baby to look after so young. Obviously, it's my mistake, so I have to face the consequenceses, but do you have any tips to get through the next 9 months. How do go about telling my parents? Please, any advice would be REALLY helpful.

Thanks.

Answer 1

another troll tryign to get attention there is a REASON you made all of your ?'s private

Answer 2

Sucks for you

Answer 3

So sorry to hear that you're in this situation, I became pregnant at a young age as well, so I understand a little bit of the anxiety you're going through. Your parents, should be your best friends going through this ordeal, they know more than you could possibly imagine. Don't take their suggestions or expectations as criticizm, they just have experience and want you to do well with your life and this childs life. So listen to them. Be prepared for them to be shocked, disappointed, hurt and betrayed at first. But once it has sunk it and a little bit of time goes by they will be excited for the new life you have created. You should think about your options as well, I don't agree with abortion, so I would never offer that as an option, but there is adoption, or the possibility of your parents co-raising your child with you, and then when you are 18 you would be the sole guardian of your child, and then there is always you raising the child alone. Which is very scarey, but doable if you can get your life straightened out.

Someting you need to think about is making a good life for you and your child, you need to stay in school, possibly get into a school that is for young mothers, if you're going to keep the child. They will teach you life skills, help with your aducations, you will have lemas class, and parenting classes.

As far as telling your parents, what I did was I went and told my older brother and his wife first. He was shocked and angry, but excited for me and very protective and ready to help. I asked him to tell mom and dad that he and his wife needed to have a family meeting...so we were all there and then my brother said, I didn't really need to talk to you, she did. So then I just looked at them and said...I'm pregnant. It was very hard, my mom wouldn't stop crying, my dad was furious, but kept everything inside. My mom of coarse said why didn't you use protection, how could you ahve let this happen? All the things a mother would say. My dad didn't say anything, and I have to say that hurt worse than my mom saying everything. But then my dad got up and gave me a hug and said this seems like a bad thing right now, but I know very soon we will all be excited about this baby, Congradulations.

So....just a few things to expect...I hope that you get through this, Congradulations on the sweet life inside you. God Bless you and Keep you.  

Answer 4

Well hun , i'm not gonna slate you for getting pregnant young, as you seem to have a mature attitude about the situation.

I would tell your parents immediately, as you will need support from your parents throughout the pregnancy, and will need to see a doctor asap.

I would personally sit them down, and explain that you regret what you did, but you are willing to live with the consequences. State that you know they will feel disapointed, but you've learnt from your mistakes, and your willing to take full responsiblity for this child.

I would also ensure you get keep from the father, since he's enough of a coward to bugger off when he found out you were pregnant.

Answer 5

Well, I am your age. And I have to say, I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. But, I do know it isn't at ALL what it's like in the movies. You have to come out and tell your parents, no matter how ashamed you are, because you need to think about the health of your little baby, and get the right vitamins and know what not to do. I think that you should tell your parents that they should be supportive, because this baby is a part of you, and needs love. I hope that it goes well for you, and I would like to hear how your parents take it. If you need any other advice, feel free to email me. [e-mail]

Answer 6

Just tell them. Im sorry your boyfriend left you. I dont understand why they do that because it was their fault too, they make it look like its all your fault. Running away will do nothing cuz he is still a father and he will still have to pay child support if you get a DNA test after he.she is born. Hopefully he will come around.

But telling your parents:  well if your parents like babies thats a plus. Do you have older siblings with children? Explain to them about how it is your fault but you are excited it has happened to you. Make sure you show them you want the baby! Once the baby is born they will love to be around. Explain to them also that you will continue school while pregnant or after you have the baby. Most parents want their children to succeed and graduate high school so let them know.

Good luck! I'm 18 and I just had my 2nd pregnancy scare. 18 is young nevermind 15! HAVE FUN WITH YOUR BABY!

**tell parents ASAP! and the babys daddys..

Answer 7

Oh funny, you're gonna have a diaper bag instead of your bookbag.

Ps. Keep the legs closed.

Answer 8

pray to God that He will help you through everything. He will!!!, God can do anything

Answer 9

One your not alone. Im 16 and 6 and half months pregnant. Telling your parents has to be the hardest part but you need their support! Just simply tell them you know theyll be dissappointed but your pregnant and you take full responsibility for it. They will be upset at first but eventually they will come around to be excited. Thats what i told my parents and at first it was tough but now my mom is as excited as i am.

The next 7 months will be totally different. You'll get bigger, hear your babys heartbeat, feel it kick, and see ultrasounds. Its an amazing experience. You'll wish you waited but you wouldnt change anything for the world.

You do need to tell your parents soon as possible. You need to get started with pre-natal vitamins.See a doctor and all that. Everything will be fine though just dont stress. It will all work out for the best.!

Goodluck

Answer 10

just get through the pregnancy and tell your parents straight up. what other options are there? i don't know of anything else you can do...

Answer 11

Yep, you did make the choice. The choice to risk this happening. That means you were prepared for this, for the bf to dump you, and to raise that baby all alone with no help, cuz you were ready, right?

Guess not. Put on the big girl pants and tell your parents. If you can get naked and allow a boy to do it to you, that should be way less embarassing. Unless you're ashamed of yourself. They are SO not letting you go to the mall now. Grounded fer sher.

Tips? Say goodbye to fun teen years. They are over. You are a mommy now and that baby is priority #1. Don't do it again. Learn from it. Hope it was worth it.

Answer 12

stay off of s*x for now, k?

Answer 13

Tell your parents  you don't know how it happened try watching tv shows like secret life of the american teenager it is on tonight read stories like jamie lynn spears find others that have your problem your parents will help you

Answer 14

ok.firstly go to your gp.have a proper test done,then talk to her(gp i advise a woman because of personal experience) about all of the option open to you.Ask to discuss all of them in detail.

then make up your mind what is best for you,baby and although hes not with you your boyfriend.

dont forget it is your choice no matter what anyone else tells you-yours alone,you will live fully with the consiquences and you must make sure you choose whats easiest and best for you.

one option is termination: this is the one i choose, if you are 8 weeks pregnant you can have a medical termination however if you are 12 weeks pregnat you will need a surgical termination.it doesnt matter how may weeks less you are you can always- up to i think its 18 weeks have a surgical termination.so you have plenty time to mull it over.Take a parent with you or a close family friend that will support you and hold your hand etc.

If you cannot tell your parents tell a close family relative that will keep a secret untill your ready to tell your parents.

if you decide to keep the baby then you must tell your parents when they are calm and in a good mood.dont drop it on them at the dinner table or let a friend let it slip or anything,if you cant tell them on your own ask a close relative to help you through telling your parents.

they will prob be very upset and angry at first and mad at your bf especially since he ran away from the problem (coward) but it will settle down.

i Know this because my little sis has a baby of 1 now and she was in the exact same position as you.

Just stay Calm and remind them of the reason you are telling them-you want their help to sort it out and for them to help you be a good mother for your baby.

If you decide to have the baby but give it up for adoption: I dont know much about this but it has happened in my family.all ill say is if its right for you then youll know it prob straight away,dont rule it out atomatically-think everything through properly and fully inc the possible reaction to your action(a piece of philosophy i believe in).

you may be young but that doesnt matter. some of the best mums are young and some of the worst are older. its how you treat your child that matters.love him/her and youll be rewarded.

all new mums are scared no even if its theyre 2,3,4 child.

As for your bf he needs to grow up and take responsibility for his actions,i know it was an accident but its still his responsibility and if you keep the baby its his duty to help and provide for that child till he dies whether he likes it or not.

you remind him of that and make sure its fullfilled.

once youve told your own parents tell his also if he refuses to do it.they are adults they can help too.

consider all your options.

good luck and i hope i helped. god bless.

Answer 15

Next time Keep your legs closed.

This is what hapens when you make

stupid choices.now this is your consequense

Just tell them

Answer 16

SIt your parents down one evening and just tell them. It's not going to be easy at any time, but the sooner you do it, the more time you'll have to plan.

If you decide to keep your baby, do NOT expect your parents to be  live in baby sitters, do all the night feeding, change diapers etc.

Answer 17

Just tell them as soon as you can. That baby needs to see a doctor right about now. Let them know who the father is and tell them he has already left you. You need their support and love right now. You will get through it, so just try. Make sure to get to the doctor, that is the most important thing right now.  

Answer 18

well, your parent will be shocked when you tell them but they cant really do anything to you. And i'm verry sorry that your boyfriend left you. But if your wrrying  about taking care of a baby since you are soo young. You can hand the baby to an adoption place. the baby will get a loving family, who will have enough money to take care of it.  plus, if you keep your baby you probably wont be able to go to college at get your dream job.

Answer 19

Well Tell your parents ,

They can help you the best way .

and telling your parents ,

I know its weird ,

but Pull a Juno ,

Sit them down ,

Come up with ideas on what you could do .

and just blurt it out ,

Its the only way .

Your parents may be a bit mad ,

but they love you .

and  they will support you .

and if they don't ....

Go to a planned Parenthood with a friend and they will sit down and talk to your parents for free .

Good Luck .  

Answer 20

I'm assuming you haven't taken a test yet or you have and didn't post that. In the case that you haven't then obviously you should. If that comes back positive then make a doctor's appt. as soon as possible. You're next step would be to tell you parents. If you feel like you can't then tell another adult you trust and ask them if they will help you tell your parents. Then you and your parents together can weigh your options and decide together what you should do. BUT remember the decision is ultimately up to you. Do not do something that you do not feel comfortable with because it's something your family or boyfriend wants you to do.

Seriously weigh out all your options: The pros and cons of having an abortion, putting your baby up for adoption, and keeping your baby. In the meantime if you choose to continue with the pregnancy then you need to keep up with your prenatal care. (doctor's visits, prenatal vitamins, sonograms, etc).

Good Luck you and keep me posted.