I'm 15 and I need help. How can I move in with my Dad without telling him about my alcoholic step dad?

Question

How can I tell my Dad I need to move in with him without telling him about my alcoholic stepdad. My parents are divorced and I live in NY with my mom and sister. My dad lives in MI with my stepmom. My sister and mom don't want to live in MI and she doesn't want me to go, but I am very sad in NY. It's not really my place and I miss my friends in MI. But I'm afraid my Dad will say no because he's kinda tight on money right now and he and my stepmom probably don't want to take care of a 15- year old. I can't tell him about my stepdad, but how can I get it across that I need to be there?

I wanted to move there last year but my mom said no, so I couldn't. Finally she gave in in December because she saw how much I wanted to go, but my Dad told me to finish the school year. He hasn't talked about me moving there for a while, and never brings it up. I visit him every summer but for some reason I couldn't this year, and I'm thinking its because he doesn't want me to live with him.

What should I do? I'm so depressed in ny.

Answer 1

To be honest, he wont take your plight seriously until you tell him the truth, about your step-dad.

He probably thinks your living a good life in NY. Or his wife might be telling him she isnt sure about the situation of you living there, which is sad, if true...

Good luck and try telling the truth. Hes your dad. Its his job to rescue you from this. And step-mum will get on board too, hopefully.

Answer 2

you have to tell your dad about your step dad unless there is a really bad thing that would happen to you if you tell you really have to!!! why can't you tell him?

Answer 3

Tell your father the REAL reason. Do they have children together? It may not be your dad. How is your relationship with your step mom?

Just come out and tell him.

Answer 4

Call your dad and ask him why you couldn't visit this summer. You in NY State or the City?

You don't say how long you've been in NY, but I think you have no choice but to explain to your dad the real reason you want to come live with him. I'm all for what ever goes on in this house hold stays here, but this is affecting your emotional well being, and from a "parents" point of view not too safe having you being around an alcoholic. Tell your dad you'll get an after school job to help out around the house, be mature about it. Tell him to give you a test trial for this school year, if it doesn't work out then at least you both tried. You're gonna have to tell him about your step dad tho, he has a right to know. Hugz to you~    

Answer 5

If your stepfather is an alcoholic, you definitely need to tell your father.