I'm 15 and I want a baby?

Question

My boyfriend, actually fiance (he proposed to me! :D we're getting married in 2 years, or sooner, we have to talk to my real dad. Stepdad and mom said it's okay if he moves in with us), is 17 years old, I'll be 16 in 2 months, and then he'll be 18 in December. We love each other sooo much, we already wrote our vows, he has the ring.. I have his heart. He has mine. It's not just puppy love or scool boy crush. so please don't judge us, love has no age limit. Anyway, we've been talking about a child for 4 months now, and we really really want one. He's been away for 2 months (Coming home in 3 months! :D) and I miss him more than anything. I told him, that I really have been thinking, and I want a baby when he comes back! He told me he's been thinking alot about it also and said yes originally but now, after thinking more, he told me no, and I was shocked and sooo mad, I yelled at him and got really upset. He told to me please understand, he said "We're too young, we have our entire lives together, let's not rush into it. Let's be mature, we can't really support it and I don't want to rely on anyone else (like your parents), I really want one, please believe me, but, we're not ready okay, let's get settled first, we have to give it a good life."

Was I out of line for getting mad? I guess I was.. why am I asking? I'm just really disapointed, I know he's doing what's best, I love him so much what should I do?

Answer 1

Your boyfriend is right to say no. You're too young to have a baby. No ifs ands or buts. You /are/ too young, no matter what you may think or believe you know about life, because you don't know.

Answer 2

He's right

wait a while, enjoy life

the times are tough right now to bring a baby in just yet

It's a 24/7 365 responsibility

Try marriage first

Answer 3

i think you're both a little "off".

This is really the boyfriend posting isn't it? lol

Answer 4

Sweetheart, your boyfriend is right! You are waaayyy too young to take care of a child right now! When your boyfriend does move in, do what the other person said...get a puppy and learn some responsibility first. Take care of something together and see how it goes! You have your WHOLE LIFE to have babies! I love babies too but you just have to be realistic! Good luck hun and don't be mad! Sounds like you have a wonderful guy who not only cares about you and cares a lot about your future together. Take his advice. I hope I helped! :D

Answer 5

I understand why you got upset but he is right. You have a long time to have kids, don't rush! Enjoy each others company before you go and add a baby to it1

Answer 6

Seriously, buy a puppy.

Answer 7

Dont rush into it,  i can see he said no because he really cares about you and he doesnt want you or himself to struggle in life, in which all young couples DO! things like raising a baby costs so much money! one of my rules is i must have a home OF MY OWN to bring the child up in aswell as a stable income to support our lives. listen to your man he is smart!

Answer 8

You're not even an adult and you're getting married, wanting children? Please, put your life in slo-mo, you're too young for this. Listen to your fiance. You'll know when the time is right, and it's definitely not now. If anything, go volunteer at elementary schools, orphanages, or just at animal shelters.  

Answer 9

youre not young to have a child.... but might be not financially stable to have one right this moment..  you and your " husband" have not even graduated from high school and its important that at least one of you have a professional career.. so you have money to buy food and give your baby a shelter.. if your parents are rich and can support your family thats great but its reality.. doesn't work like that..  it would be wrong of me if i told you to just get a puppy without a explanation... so i will give you a reasonable why you should get a puppy until you two are ready to have a child.. ( and please dont even get a puppy if you cant take care of it )  Me and my husband had a dog way before we got married.. this special dog now a soon to be my baby girls big brother is part of our family . it helped me and my husband become closer .. i think i am more ready to have my baby girl and raise her well because i kind of have idea of loving and caring for something so small and fragile.. good luck!

Answer 10

You're 15 and you are still this stupid?

Answer 11

I think your trying to grow up too fast. You should maybe slow it down a bit and not move so fast. 15 is a little young to be married and you may think you are "in love" now but you have a whole future ahead of you. And you have to think about if you are truely ready to have a kid, It's alot harder then it may seem. I am a 20 year old single mother of twin girls and they are a hand full! Even if i just had one it would still be hard. Babies are very needie and you have to grow up alot faster then you would have to without a kid. My opinion is wait until you actually grow up. You two are still kids yourself.  

Answer 12

look seriously don't be that 5million people that have kids and abuse them so in other words don't get pregnant so you don't become a bum in life(your to dam young!!)

Answer 13

hello dysfunctional family

Answer 14

You are too young to have a baby and it would be a good way to ruin your life and disappoint your parents and have people think you are trashy.

Instead, why not spend the next couple of years building a better relationship with your boyfriend, get engaged if you like and spend that time getting things that you will need for your life together - furniture, appliances, bed linens etc.

Get married a couple of years from now if you like, but do it properly, not getting pregnant at 15 or 16 and possibly regretting it for many years.  You can still be together, but you need education and full-time, well paying jobs before you bring a child into this world - if you love your child you would want it to have the best chance in life, and being born to two teen agers is not the best start for a baby.

Answer 15

I agree with the puppy answer, I bet you couldn't even handle it, I don't care how much you love someone it is very selfish of someone of your ages to bring another life into the world.How do you think you will support this child you want ? At 15 you probably don't even have enough education to work at burger king. Seriously kids cost money and need all the support of mature minds not children raising children.

sorry to put a dampen on things but it's the truth

Answer 16

15, engaged, and wanting a baby?

What on earth is this world coming to? :(

Answer 17

These people are dickheads! It's not that you're too young to have a baby because my sister got pregnant at 15, had her baby at 16 and is thee BESTTT mother I know. She's more of a mother than most adults so these people have no right to judge you based on age. BUT on the other hand I would say that maybe you two should learn to be around each other all the time before bringing a baby into the situation. Because seriously once the baby is here you guys will have to ALWAYS be around each other and if you're not used to it then you will be VERY stressed. Like I said I'm not saying this based on how old you are, just get used to each other first and make that your first commitment. Then if you feel you may be ready then try raising something else together FIRST [like maybe the puppy?]. Good luck and I hope you make the best decision for yourself, not based on what others think. =]