I'm 15 years old and i just told my dad i was g*y..?

Question

hi, just a little while ago i told my dad that i was g*y

i started off saying

what would you think of me if i wasn't attracted to girls?

he didn't say anything

then i just said it.. that i was g*y

he got really mad at me and started yelling.. and swearing..but why?

you would think he wouldn't care because i'm his son..but that's not the case

i have no clue what to do in this situation and he WAS the only person i could talk to and I'm afraid he hates me now

i kind of knew that he never liked g*y people and kind of made fun of them but who was i to go to?i have no brothers/sister and i have no aunts/uncles and i haven't seen my mother in 6 years and have no way of contacting her..besides that i do home schooling and haven't spoken to anyone my age in 3 years?

anyway he was really pissed at me and i'm just worried about what will happen..

my question is what should i do? and if you don't mind posting your story about how you told you parents please do.. im curious to what happend and how they took it

other then that i guess i just have to wait and see.

Answer 1

WELL I dont have father.. my mom was angry at me.. but she didn't hate me.. she hates my homosexuality lol.. well the case it's.. a father will take maybe years or months to understand.. if you show to your father.. that you are not the same.. there will be bad reactions.. but if you show him.. that you are with him the same person before and the same now.. he knows that you are g*y.. so you will be patient...he loves you.. he is angry now.. but he will be Ok.. I am sure.. even parents don't like being g*y... they feel love for us.. because they know we are their children.. even we are g**s or not..we are bad or good.. we are killers or not.. I am not saying killers and g**s are the same thing.. but they support us.. even they are angry with us at the same time but the love will overcome this anger when he realizes.. you are the same person.. he knows..

Answer 2

thts y u tell them after ur 18, anway he cant stay mad forever, hes ur dad he has to accept u no matter what i guess, but put urself in his shoes, his family name and generations stops with u now, tht must be a shock to him, so jst give him sum time.

Answer 3

I'm really sorry. A lot of people have a rough time. I just told my parents a couple of months ago. My parents are my mom and my grandmother. My mom and dad divorced when I was still a todler.

I knew my mom would be okay with it, so I told her first. My grandmother, I knew was a little homophobic. I was sitting on the floor next to my couch when my mom came in the room and sat down on it I said, "would you be freaked out if I told you something?" She smiled and said she wouldn't. I told her that me and my best guy friend were g*y. She asked questions and took it fine. Later that night, she told me she was bi, and I told her that I already knew. My grandmother was in bed at the time, so I went into her room and said, "I just told mommy that I'm g*y." She said, "well, it is the way it is."

In the next few days, thigs blew up. My grandmother threatened to shoot my gf and I was so upset, I had to spend the night at my mom's p**s *** bfs house. This is because all f my friends live far away and I'm too self conscious to ever spend the night at any of their houses. Plus, I only have one good friend who would understand, and he's not even out yet. Anyway, I upset my gma so much that she started having chest pains and had to be rused to the er. She stayed in the hospital for about 5 days. Her ticker was all messed up. When she got out, she apologized, and now all is good.

Everything had to get worse in order to get better. Just think that way. That there's a light at the end of the tunnel. It's cliche, but its true.

Tons of luck to you :P

Answer 4

Not all parents take it alright. They should. They should love you for who you are. You are still the same person. It is hard to say if he will come around or not. Why are you so isolated? You need to have interactions with other teenagers and other people. Do you have any family to turn to? I would do nothing for now. You will have to wait and see how he is going to deal with it. If you can talk to someone else for moral support I would. Good luck to you son.

Answer 5

I'm 15 a girl and g*y too but i haven't got the guts to come out yet so if you ever want some one to talk to feel free to send me a email.. I'm not quite sure what u should do as I'm not in the same  position ...yet.. but if u want some 1 to talk to feel free

Good luck

Answer 6

I think that maybe you should have tested your fathers reaction towards g*y people a little more before telling him your orientation.Now that you have confided in him your orientation I guess you'll just have to see what happens.I really don't think he would kick you out although it's possible but,considering your situation you shouldn't be kicked out since you won't have anywhere to go.Just continue going threw out your day and act as if it were a normal day.I guess he needs time to soak it in.Just leave him be if he's going to be belligerent.If you need some more advice just contact me and I'll tell you what to do.I'm 15 as well and will be more than pleased to help you.

Answer 7

First of all I want to praise you for having the courage to come out to your dad.  It works differently for every person.  I am 35 and I just came out last year.  My dad lives in another country and visits the US once a year, so I never felt the need to tell him, because we didn't live together and I felt that was my life.  But when I told him, he said that he wanted to be a friend to me and that he wants to support me in anything I want to do with my life.  I have a L*****n sister and that kind of open the door for me.  I came out to the rest of my family  around my twenties and they accepted it.  I now live with my partner and visit my family and they are pretty much okay with us.  He's reaction is quite normal and it will take him some time to accept you and feel comfortable with you. You have to keep in mind how he was raised and how he feels about homosexuality and all.  When you have s*x, (If you haven't).  Make sure that you wear condoms so that you don't get any STD's.  Best of luck. Welcome onboard of the big g*y ship!

Answer 8

I give you props for having the courage to tell him. Just be wary and if he starts getting abusive towards you, don't hesitate to contact the police or run to a neighbor's house to protect yourself.

You're right, as your father he should accept you as you are, but there are still a lot of people who thinks it's a choice and will hurt you for it. Be careful and good luck.