I'm 16,no license,crashed an old lady's car yesterday?What shall I do next.?

Question

I am 16 and have not own any driving license.We managed to get a friend(Howard) who has a license to rent a car for us (four male friends).I personally drive the car yesterday as Howard didn't join the party.

Unfortunately, I crashed a 40~50 years old lady's car.After few arguments,she decided that I have only two option.Either she press charges on me driving w/o license or give her my address,ID number so that she will come and talk to my parents about it.

Situation in my home.I am third among 5 brothers.My eldest brother(Mike) is our legal guardian for certain reasons.I finally gave the lady my ID and address because police report may ended all my younger siblings in foster care.

The lady will be coming over tonight.Mike has no idea what's going on.Im shaking waiting for her.Mike will kill me if he gets this news.I've told my 2nd bro(Matt), about it and he suggested to tell Mike so that Mike can get himself prepared.The thing is, Im so scared to tell Mike.Sometime, if he's mad, he can be very physical.

What should I do,tell Mike before the lady come or just let the lady tell the whole history.

****...I hate what haas happened to me.

Answer 1

Tell your brother that is the least you can do. It is going to be very embarrassing for him if the lady comes over and he does not even know what is going on. I would have called the police and let them handle the problems (it depends on the damage of course). Your problem is not unusual the system is prepared for it, you won't go to jail, but probably have to pay a fine. Get a job and pay for the damages and expenses. If the damage is minor I would definitely would leave you alone and hope that you have learned from what just had happened. It is not so expensive or difficult to get a driver's license. Take a written test about 30 dollars at your local DMW then you will receive a learner's permit. With that you can drive with a responsible licensed driver sitting next to you. Good luck. Don't be scared. Things will get better. Be a man, take responsibility for what you did. No big deal, things happens.

Answer 2

take responsibility for yourself. if lie or don't tell him he'll find out soon and you'll be in even deeper trouble.

Answer 3

your oldest brother will probably be more upset if he hears about it from some old lady instead of you.. he prob get upset with you anyway but you should at least warn him someone is coming... good luck  

Answer 4

You should get pregnant next that would be the icing on the cake.Don't ever Drive with out a Permit or license.

Answer 5

You got off VERY lucky

Answer 6

you should talk to your brother, face up to it, you made a bad decision and this lady seems to be giving u a break, what about the rental car? what have they said?  if you are old enuf to drive, you are old enuf to take the responsibility of your choices.  That is the best u can do.....face the music and hopefully u will learn from your choice and learn to make better choices in life.

Answer 7

its ur own fault an ur gna hav 2 just get on wid it on do wat ur bro tells u until he feels uv been punished enough.

Answer 8

I don't feel sorry for you. Your stupidity to drive without a license!! And yes, you need to tell him, and maybe this will be a lesson learned

Answer 9

Don't do the crime if you can't do the time.  You are the one who messed up. Now take the punishment.   If it was my car that you wrecked you would be in jail right now.  She is most likely going to demand that he get her car repaired or replaced.  She legally could send you to jail.  The company who rented the car to your friend will hold your ffriend responsible and the insurance at the car rental place will probably not pay because an uninsured driver was driving, and you were not the one renting the car anyway.  So old son, you are in deep sh--.  You had best tell the brother now and get it over with.  I'd hate to have the "old" lady see you getting the pooh beat out of you.  Why did you do such a dumb stunt?

By the way, this "old" lady who is coming is a lot younger than the old lady who is writing this.  Old is 90 and up.  I am 58, youngster.  Watch who you're calling old.

Answer 10

Wow you're in ****.

You'll be charged with driving without a licence, probably theft of a car because YOU weren't the one who rented it (not totally sure though), reckless driving or speeding, no insurance, and who knows what else. If you managed to crash it already, you shouldn't have a licence to begin with.

Answer 11

Tell the woman what happened and perhaps Mike would agree to say that he was in the accident.

I scratched a parked car when I first got my license and to not get any points my father agreed to say he got in the accident.

Answer 12

I think it would go down better for you if you tell him and not the lady that you hit.

maybe go in with a plain so that you can also have a solution as to how you are going to pay for the damage to her car... it would not go astray at lest.

your 16 so your know better anyway and if you are so afraid of him then way are you still in his care maybe you should look at going on your own if your that scared of him...

you will have to pay for all the damages that has been coursed anyway (well your brother will be liable for it anyway) but morally your should just take the responsibility for your action god your almost legally responsible for yourself good time to start trying to take that responsibility for your action now and maybe get less trouble!

Good luck  

Answer 13

You are obviously aware of the greater implications of what you have done.

And you realise that what you have done puts your family at risk.

There is obviously a sensible caring man inside that is sometimes over ruled by the silly kid and persuasion from your less than sensible friends!

Sometimes being able to go home to a loving family (whatever form that family takes) is more important than trying to avoid being ridiculed by your peers when you say "no" to getting involved with their stupidity.

Your mates may laugh at you when you say "no" but they have a lot less to lose than you and your actions could affect your 4 brothers too.

Sit Mike down with a cup of tea and talk to him.  Let him know you are sorry and that you understand the implications of your actions and that you want him to work with you to help put it right with this woman.

Before this woman arrives, smarten yourself up a bit.  Let her see the sensible man not the juvenile teenager!

When this woman arrives tonight open the door to her, shake her hand, introduce her to Mike and apologise and say you want to resolve this issue.  Then sit down and discuss.

If Mike can see that you are handling this maturely he may not be "physical".  I can imagine that having to be a "Dad" to his brothers must be so much hard work.  By working with him to resolve family issues you are more likely to have a calm older brother and a more settled family life.

I think this could be a life changing incident for you and I'm sure you can handle it.  Be calm and be mature.

Answer 14

well noob for crashing lolz funny

did u ever hear of a little thing called run away wats the old lady gona do

get the plates wow rented car as long as its not in ur name and no 1 snitches then ur safe but now ur dead hahahahhaa

wow ur bro gets physical thats were u gota step up brother dont b a scaredy kat lolz

ur dead hahahhahahhahaahhhhhhahahhahahahhahahahh...

Answer 15

Tell Mike, and hope to God that the old lady isnt a cripe about it and blow it out of proportion.

BTW Kudos for looking out for your siblings on your choice...

Answer 16

I think you should feel lucky this pady will be coming to talk to your brother & gave this chance because a heck of a lot of people would have just gone straight to the police...she is obviously reasonable.

Did you tell this woman your home situation? Women can often be suprisingly supportive & helpful.

I think it best that you DO tell Mike first, but just before this lady comes around- that way he cannot do too much harm to you. And hopefully will have had long enough to calm down by the time she goes.

Now I do not condone violence and this is wrong but i would say your life has been clearly difficult up to now and these are seperate issues to this immediate one; i honestly think that a beating is better than a police record because that will be gone soon, the police pressing charges could stay /will stay with you for life and ruin your future.

Don't drive again until its legal!