I'm 16 on Monday and I have an 8 1/2 month old..?

Question

I am a very good mother and i've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. Yes, he's the babies father. He'll be 20 in a couple weeks. He works to support us and so I can stay at home with our daughter. We plan on getting married with in the nexy couple of years and eventually want 3 more kids.

I just want people to see that all teen mothers are bad mothers. I'm so sick of the strerotype.

Any other teen moms know what I mean?

Answer 1

Heya

Yeah i know what you mean. All 3 of my sisters had babies before they were 16 and the looks and the abuse they got was ridicoulous. Teen mums are just as good as any other mum. Age is just a number. Well done =] x*x

Answer 2

I don't say teen mothers are bad mothers! I do believe they are not ready to be mothers. When I was 14 I wasn't having s*x. I was involved in school. My highlight was going to a football game and I am 22! I just can't believe how many young girls are having babies and aren't ready. Trust me when you get to be 22 your life will change dramatically and you will look back and know you weren't ready to be a mom.

Answer 3

How do you feel? Do you feel overwhelmed sometimes and is there anyone to help you when that feeling happens?

I believe you are a good mother and I commend your babies father for hanging in there with you. But I don't think that you as a person should get lost in the mix. I suggest you look for a parenting program to go to a couple days a week or even for one day. while you learn and share they watch your baby giving you some time for yourself. good luck. and if you need to talk check out my profile.

Answer 4

It doesn't make you bad people.  You are looked down on because in the US, birth control is readily available so there is no excuse for an unwanted pregnancy.

I am glad you are raising your daughter and her father works.  Are you still in school?  If not, you have a long road ahead of you.  

I don't really care how old you are when you have a baby, as long as you pay to raise it and love it.  If you can't do those things, you shouldn't have a baby at any age.

Answer 5

You're too young to relize what you are doing, 15-20 yrs down the road you'll understand others views.

Answer 6

Im a teen parent and i get what you mean random people come up to me and say how i ruined my life and give me dirty looks and rude remarks all the time

some teen parents DO give us good teen a bad name like the girls that put there babies in the trunk of there cars or in dumpsters after giving birth and putting the baby in the microwave

also when 14 year old girls purposly get pregnant cause they think its cute

Answer 7

I have no problem with teen mums and respect those who do what you are doing. I'm not a teen mum but i am a teen and i hate the way they are stereotyped. If you want to have a baby at that age then why should you not? And if the baby wasn't planned, well then what's wrong with having a baby, if you are willing to bring the baby up and love him/her? Nothing!

Don't listen to those who say you have made a big mistake or whatever. As long as you and your baby are happy, that's all that matters!

I hope you, dad and baby are well and that you have a happy future together.

:)

Answer 8

i can't say im a mother but i am a teen and i think its awesome that you have done this! don't listen to people who tell you that you are too young they don't even know you.  good luck with your family!

Answer 9

im 17 and ttc ill be 18 in august and i was on another site and asked a question and they flipped out because i was "so young" and ttc but i know that having a baby is what i want to do... so congrats to you.

Answer 10

I understand at the age of 16 i had my daughter quite school and went to work b/c her dad and I could not make things work.I went and got my GED and stated college.I am almost done, about 1 more semi and I will have a degree to become a x-ray tech.So keep your head up you will make it.People just like to judge .Well what help me make it was lookin a my daughter and saying f**k it when people talked about me.

Answer 11

I can see both sides of the argument!

Im 21 now but I had my 1st children - identical twin girls - when I was just 17 years old. I had a 3rd daughter 18 months later, one month before my 19th birthday.

They are now 3 and half years old (twins) and my youngest is 2 next week.

At the time I thought I was ready and I was eager to have a child.

i hated people telling me I was too young and looking down their noses at me.

My twins were born 12 weeks early and I had to grow up overnight. I was no longer a pregnant teenager, I was a mum of 2 very sick little babies who needed me 24/7 to care for them.

I was still the same when i had my youngest daughter.

Now that im past that 'teen' status. Im beginning to see the other side.

As much as i dont regret having my children, part of me wonders where i would be in life if I hadnt had them.

Would I have gone to university? Would I have a car? Would I have a successful career by now?

And now all my school friends are just finishing uni, i feel left behind, but on the plus side, I can budget and run a home better than most people my age!

Also, even thought I have missed on a few wild nights now, once my children have flown the nest and Ive had a good few years of working under my belt, i can enjoy my retirement, rather than waiting later to have kids.

Im sure you are a very good mother to your child.

Young parents can be good parents too.

Its nice that your baby's dad is very supportive. Im not so lucky.

My children all have the same father, but im not with him anymore.

I got a new partner when I was 12 weeks pregnant with my youngest and we've been together ever since (2.5 years now!)

Best of luck to you both!

Take care

x*x

Answer 12

im 16 and im a d**** good mother i love my son with all my heart me and my boyfriend  do our best to take care of our son    we love him so much

Answer 13

I'm 16 but not a mother.

Although, I do agree with you. A lot of people seem to judge because your at such a young age, they think your incapable of living your life sensibly and that girls go off without a care having s*x with any man, ending up pregnant.

It's wrong for them to judge.

I'm proud of you for getting through it. It must have been a hard situation to deal with. And having the father stick by you is wonderful!

I wish you all the luck for the future! I'm sure both of you make great parents! (:

Sarah.

Answer 14

I'm sure there are lots of good teen mothers - in fact there are some who are likely better than older women are as parents.  One of my good friends at university was born to parents who were both under 18 and her parents are great.  Her and her siblings are all smart and well behaved and balanced.

On a sidenote, I'm sick of people thinking just because I'm holding a child its mine and I'm some sort of teenage slag.  I was at the marina with my two neighbours and these abominally rude woman was talking loudly to her companion about all these teenagers running about getting themselves knocked up.  How we have no sense.  I had a friend get lectured in the MALL by an older woman because we was holding her baby cousin.  Geez people.  Back off!

Answer 15

yes i really do know what you mean!

i am 17 and i have a 6 month old baby girl

but i had her a month before i turned 17 though...

its hard work but it doesnt make us bad people!

things happen for a reason

Answer 16

Did you mean to say AREN'T?

Answer 17

I think you mean "all teen mothers are not bad mothers."  I'm not a teen mother but I am a mother and I agree with you.  You said you get to stay home with your child which is awesome but I hope you are still going to school.  You can do both be a good mom and finish high school.  There is daycare assistance out there to help you. Good Luck