I'm 17 and I want a baby is it bad?

Question

I'm 17 and I think I want a baby.. I am not in a relationship or anything but I just want one.. my parents would freak and kill me but they would get over it and help me out probably I just idk why I want one.

Answer 1

No, it is not bad and it is not uncommon.  However, you need to realize that at 17, even though you could be a great Mom if you wanted to be, you are not in a good position to care for this child.  A child needs security and stability to grow up properly.  It is not impossible but it is extremely difficult for someone as young as you to provide those things.  You do not have an established career, do you?  Are you finished with your education?  Can you provide a stable home for this child right now or do you still live at home?  No one should have children until they are ready to provide for this child without outside support from parents, family or the state.  I had a child at 19 and although I wouldn't trade the world for him, he certainly paid for my immaturity and the fact that I just wasn't ready.  The guilt alone that I carry around because of this......  Jut wait until you are truly ready.  For now, if you have strong maternal instincts, join the Big Brother/Big Sister organization, babysit, volunteer at your hospitals maternity ward, anything that exposes you to little ones.  You will feel great about yourself and this is a good way to see if you are ready for everything that a child will require of you!

Answer 2

Hey honey...

first of all, it's totally normal to find that you are feeling more "maternal" in your desire to have a baby. No matter how much logically it doesn't make sense (and I'm sure you understand all of that), it is part of being a woman that makes you want to have children. It's important to remember that although in society you are still young, your body and your insticts are fully developed at 17, so you will want children...it's completely normal.

That being said, there are a lot of other things pulled into it...like someone mentioned...the desire to care for something else, the desire to have someone who depends on you and fully loves you...all those things are important to giving us motiviation to reproduce.

Don't worry about changing how you FEEL, nothing is wrong with it, just focus on becoming patient and loving your future children enough to make sure you are in a stable relationship and can provide them a good life before you make any decisions to have them.

You're only a year away from being 18, I know a lot of people argue that in your early twenties, late teens you are to young to have children, I think this is dependant on each individual person. You're a fully grown woman by then, capable of making your own decisions and capable of ignoring everyone else who think they know better.  

Answer 3

"I just want one", you said it so lightly not realizing how much responsibilities and efforts it takes to raise one. It isn't the same as wanting a handbag where you get it and you can just leave it in the closet. A child, once you have one you will be responsible for him/her 24/7, for the rest of your life. It takes a lot to care for one. Sound like you'll be those kind of people who wants one just to have one and leave the child in the hands of family so you can do whatever you want, and only care for the child when it is best for you. What a shame.

Answer 4

You are sounding a bit selfish.  Read what you have written.  "I just want one".  Why?  If your reasons are selfish and not long term, you should wait and live a little.

"Your parents" would freak.  This statement means that you are still a child yourself.  

#1 rule with becoming a good parent is having the ability to support at least yourself.  You are clearly not there yet and bringing a child into this world would be selfish and irresponsible to the child.  This would clearly not be loving your child.

Get a job at a day care for at least a few months and then see if you still "just want one".

Answer 5

Hi ;)

it's not bad to want a baby but what do you have to offer to this baby? no stable relationship, no financial stability (a baby is verrry pricy and depending on your parents forever is not good)

I'm not judging, but you should think of how you are going to make it through school with a baby, if you can afford one, etc...

You're gonna have one... but just wait until the time is right ;)

Good luck

Answer 6

I think it's how you feel, Doesn't mean it's bad, I'm no one to judge. I was pregnant at 17 with my first daughter. However, if I could make a suggestion, would be to wait.

Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter and wouldn't trade her for the world. But had I of been thinking correctly and clearly I would know that 17 is too young to support a family. It's hard to take care of baby and much more responsibility than you'd think. Even I thought I knew what I was in for.

But if it does happen and you do get pregnant, it's possible to be a great parent at a young age. And there will be hard struggles, but it's def. possible.

I would make sure though that you can support your family on your own, and not depend on your parents, not only will you feel better about it, but will benefit your child in the end. I say that because you say your parents would help you out.... Don't look at it that way..... you should be thinking you want to do it all on your own, when you financially stable. Which isn't at 17.

Either way, good luck on this situation.

(have you ever watched Baby Borrowers, check it out)  

Answer 7

okay, be specific realizes something if you want a baby at the early age. don't you realize how much does it risk to take care an infant. there are lot of do's and does to take of the baby.

Answer 8

Saying that you would automatically need your PARENTS help should tell you SOMETHING! Why on God's earth would you want to punish a child with an uneducated,unemployed,single,dependent on her OWN parents mother?

Answer 9

I think you want one because you like the thought of having to be a babysitter 24/7 with no chance of parole for about 18 years.  Or maybe you want to have NO time to yourself, just being able to go out whenever you please and do whatever you want without having to be a parent.  Or maybe you just like spending ALL your money on baby things and not having enough left over to buy yourself something nice.  Oh wait!!  Maybe it's the sleep deprivation and absolute dog tiredness that you're craving!!  Could be any of those.

Answer 10

You're 17, still in high school and if you WANT to go off to college and become successful.. it will be EXTREMELY difficult if you become pregnant.. most teenage mothers drop out or don't continue onto college. some girls your age sometimes wish to have a baby because you wonder 'what if?' and you might think it would be lovely but you might soon realize you would also NEED to grow up. no more hanging out on friday night with the friends. no going out AT ALL. your life becomes revolved around this baby.

I honestly think its a want to take care of something and 'grow up'.

my mom and dad would freak too so i took an easier route and got a puppy. believe me lol its like the same thing and i feel like a mother.. in a weird way :) he comes with me everywhere and you constantly have to watch them, bathe them and h**l they can sleep with you too if you want.

dont jump to something because you 'want' one. think about it for awhile and you'll probably after awhile decide you dont want one.

Answer 11

you want one because you dont realize how much time, money, and patience they take. at 17 if you decide you have more time to give, lots of money to spend, and the patience of a saint.. go ahead.

most likely you aren't ready.

Get a babydoll.

Answer 12

You don't want a "baby".What you want is someone to "love" you and pay attention to you.As weird as it sounds its true...

*EDIT*:Even if the guy was in his 20's,its still not going to make the situation any better.Enjoy your teenage years.YOU HAVE PLENTY OF TIME FOR KIDS!