I'm 17 and want to have a baby?

Question

i cant stop thinking about it. i love babied, and cant stand not having 1. i was preg last year, but miscarried. it was a year on friday. i know how to take care of a baby. i worked in a daycare for about 4 months, and babysit all the time. i know i'm not ready for a baby. what do i do?

no rude coments.

Answer 1

Uhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

Are you craaaazzzzyyyyyyy?

Ok. Let's replay your situation.

You had a baby last year, and it DIED.

You KNOW YOU'RE NOT READY FOR A FREAKING BABY, YOU TARD.

and you wanna know what to do?

answer the question yourself.

it's quite obvious.

Answer 2

I agree with Kelsey. You probally feel like you really want a baby to replace the one you lost, particually because its close to the anniversary of your miscarriage. I too had a miscarriage last year and I tried to convince my boyfriend to get me pregnant again straight away. I am so glad I didn't as that relationship soon broke down and I realised I wasn't ready for a baby. I am now 28 weeks pregnant with a little boy and consider him to be a blessing. I am in a stable relationship and although I am only 20 I feel this is the right time for me. It wasn't planned and very unexpected but I am so glad its happened. I feel I have had enough time to get over my miscarriage and to me this is my first pregnancy. I will never forget the baby I lost but I know deep down I wasn't ready. You are still only 17 and having a baby is a big responsability. I think you need to get over your miscarriage before deciding to get pregnant again as nothing will replace the baby you lost. I also think you need to be in a stable and safe relationship as being a child into the world on your own will be hard. You have plenty of time to have babies so enjoy life while you can.

Answer 3

OMG U should totally Go for it if u think ur ready then go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

take the time and be a teenager and young adult.  babysitting and working in a daycare is completely different for being responsible for a child 24/7.  kids are very expensive. i commend you for recognizing you're not ready yet.  go to college,  find a nice career and THEN have children.

Answer 5

I'm 18...i got preg.& miscarried when i was 16...I had money and i knew how to take care of a baby and still i wasn't ready...and now i have a 2 year old baby brother to raise and i know it's not easy...you should wait a little longer.

Answer 6

unless you're really rich, don't have a baby at 17. Babies are incredible hard work, how long do you think you can stand screaming babies? I could stand it with my nephew for like 15 mins, and i was homocidal after that.

And DON'T think YOUR kid is gonna be any different and not cry a lot, because, why? are you super woman?

Answer 7

Just enjoy your time being a teenager. Think about babies when you're older.

Answer 8

i want one too im 14 but im gonna wait until im 30

Answer 9

ok so you want to be a mother...you do realize that being a mother is a 24/7 365 days a year job. when your friends want you to go out and have some fun, maybe go someplace for the weekend you will have to say no because your have a child and you have to care for it. you lose out on a lot of things in life! and if you go and leave your child(they do grow up, there not little babies you cuddle very long) with somebody all the time. that is so unfair to your child. you are only 17 for gods sake! have some fun in life before you have children, because once you give birth your whole life changes. all your friends will be having a good time and you will be changing dirty diapers, bathing, feeding, going to dr appts  etc. you have a long life ahead of you, there will be plenty of time to have babies. have some fun in life.

Answer 10

i think you are probly readay but you have to consider everythinbeing wid it 24/7 nappys no sleep criying etc also 17 u have a whole life infront of you and realy if you cared about kids you no that 17 isnt right get a job get some money to be able to provide for it not to mention how quick they grow = more money for clothes mony for food  housing not being able to go out enjoy being young if youre that een then if you are going to do it find the right person to have it with that will be there for you and support you and your child hope it helped:D

Answer 11

I suspect that you want another baby to "replace" the one that you lost.  You need to talk to a therapist and grieve for your miscarriage.  Also, it might help to think of the things you're doing right now- i.e. getting an education, saving money- as "pre-parenting."  You're doing them so that your child, once conceived, will have a stable environment.

<3 Kelsey

Answer 12

Hmm..okay

well how do u plan to support this baby? do u work? if so does this job pay good money, u say u know all about takin care of a baby well then u should know there expensive then, and if u do  work who's gonna watch the baby?and are u gonna have the money to pay for that on top of all the other things u have to buy for the baby like food, diapers,clothes,bottles etc...

Is there gonna be a father around?

where exactly do u plan to live, ur under 18 so u can't really get anything in ur name, will u be able to pay ur bills and rent?...

do u drive? have a car? how will u get to doctors appointments, bus ? do u have the money for it, do u know which one to take?i guess u like never being able to go out, when u wanna go out who's gonna watch the baby?Are u still in school?, if so who's gonna watch the baby then?,if not what kind of living do plan to make without an education?what kind of furture do u have planned for ur child?.....

i don't really think u thought this through,No 17 year old is ready to be a parent, yeah many are and some do a really good job but they will even tell u its hard!!!, save yourself the trouble have kids when ur ready, it will be a lot easier and much more enjoyable.

Answer 13

I fell pregnant unexpectedly at 17, im now 18 and due in 2 weeks.

There is a difference to working with children to having your own, because you NEVER give them back, they are with you for the rest of your life. are you ready to give up a third of your 'friends' (coz i can promise you, you wont be seeing much of them once your pregnant) as well as sacrificing your looks and weight, and postponing any further education?

do you have some where to live? family support? im not trying to be negative, but it just kills me seeing other teen girls out there who WANT to fall pregnant but dont realise what they are actually going to go through.

Answer 14

well, they'll treat it as an adult pregnancy since by the time you're baby is due, you'll be 18. so, do what you wish if you think you're ready

Answer 15

I was desperate for a baby when I was 18. Now I am so happy it didn't happen. I realise now I wasn't ready, though I thought I was.

Wait untill you finish high school at least, and untill you can be financially independent

Answer 16

Having a baby is serious stuff.  But think about it this way...do you want what is best for your baby? Would it be best for your baby to be born to young parents who are unwed? i don't mean that in a bad way. I am 21 and got pregnant at 20 with my now 5 month old son. Although i love him more than anything I wish i could take back having him so soon, I feel like i have failed him already.  plus i never got to finish college and what kind of example did that set for him?