I'm 17 shouldn't I be able to make my own decisions?

Question

My parent's keep arguing about my mom and step dad letting me and my gf move in with my cousin. My dad doesn't like that my mom and step dad let that happen. Idk why my dad even cares I don't really talk to my dad any more that much ever since he walked out on my mom about 9 years ago. Why should my dad care i'm 17 shouldn't I be able to make my own decisions? Who should I agree with? It's not like my dad even sated with my mon? why should he have a problem with what she dose in raising me?

Answer 1

Personally I agree with your dad.  I know he hurt you and you don't talk but 17 seems a bit young to be living with your gf already. YIKES

Your mom probably did a great job raising you but she should have kept raising you until you were 18.

Whats done is done but don't turn your dad away for good.

Answer 2

If you can pay all your own bills, have your own car, phone, money , food and a job. If you do not need them for anything- sure make your own decision but when it gets S****y- dont run to them for help..  

Answer 3

Well, the answer is maybe, maybe not.  It all depends on how mature you are.  

A lot of people will tell you that you can't because you are not 18.  There is nothing magical about when you turn 18.  There are no fireworks, there is no sudden divine intervention that gives you great wisdom, there is no epiphany that shows you the meaning of life.  18 is just an age that the law picked where you are considered mature enough to make decisions for yourself.  Personally, I've met a bunch of 18 year olds I wouldn't trust with a potato gun.

Personally, from the details in your question, my guess is that you probably shouldn't be making your own decisions yet.  You seem to be obsessed with putting down your father who disagrees with you.  You never say that you see his point or even acknowledge his concerns.

You also mentioned you moved in with your gf.  Cohabitation at a young age isn't really a good idea.  Love is a dynamic, constantly changing thing that is difficult to define and grasp.  At your age, love and lust feel like much the same thing.  Love may last thought the ages, lust will cool with time.

You never really mention why you left your parents' house to begin with.  Why the rush to grow up?  Work beings to suck when you have to work to survive versus working to buy things you want.  Rent and bills become a real downer.  If you aren't paying them, family or not, the people you are staying with will get tired of supporting you.  It doesn't get any better than when mom and dad are paying the bills.

If you are ready to work hard to survive, get good grades, and stay in school, then I guess I'd say knock yourself out.  Things can and will get rough (this is life).  If you are prepared to be a man and deal with these ups and downs on your own, then I'd say maybe you are ready.  Life Happens.  Think about how you'll handle things if you lose your job, your cousin kicks you out, your gf dumps you for your best friend.  These things happen.  If you think you can deal with these things without blaming others or running for help, then you might be ready.

Good Luck to you!

Answer 4

look im 18, and no you should not move with your g/f anywhere.

for one your 17

for two moving in with someone so young ruins everything.

for three. your parents love you

for four. think like an adult if you want to be one...

i mean really.

think really hard about anything before you do it.

Answer 5

well.. youre not an adult until youre 18, so technically it's your parents decision.. but then again MOST parents wouldnt let their 17 year old son move away with his gf soo.. who knows...

Answer 6

wtf..

dude your not old enough to make your own decisions

im 15..and im telling this to a 17 year old..woow

dude your not ever 18 so you dont have any say in it

and your dad cares cuz your hes son

you were in his nut sack!!

so he should care, hes being a good father unlike

your step dad

Answer 7

Sure IF you pay all your own bills, can make rent without help and buy food gas and goodies for your girlfriend.  

You want to be independent but you are not telling us how you will pay for it.  And If you aren't going to foot your own bills you best stay where you are.  

Answer 8

do what  you want  

Answer 9

wait till ur 18

Answer 10

No your wrong, you shouldn't be able to decide where you live... your not 18 yet, so therefore your not considered an adult, your mother and father are responsible for what happens to you, if you decide to skip school too much because you don't live with your mother so she cant make you go then SHE gets in trouble, they have to face the consequences for your actions until you turn 18, so I can understand them not wanting you to move... and trust me although you might think I'm wrong now, but if my parents would have let me do anything I wanted to do when I was 17 I definitely wouldn't be where I am today.

Answer 11

Ofcourse your old enouph to start making responsible decisions.