I'm 18, should I move in with my boyfriend and his family?

Question

My parents seem to be asking me to do a lot and although I do them they say I don't do a lot around the house. My mom and I can't seem to just get along, it's hard when I live with my parents and work with them too. It seems like I can't get away from them. My boyfriends parents are really understanding and they told me I could move in with them. I want to but I don't want to feel like I would be taking advantage of them and what if me and my boyfriend broke up? I don't know if I would be able to go home because my parents don't like my boyfriend and I think they would feel like iI'm disobeying them. What should I do?

Answer 1

since you're 18 you are like an adult but you might not want to move in with your bf already you should wait a while and then once you feel comfortable with everything then you should move in. =]

Answer 2

Absolutely not.  If you are living at home as an adult then yes, you should be helping out as much as possible around the house.  If you work, you should split half of your checks towards rent/utilities.  You should help buy groceries, cook dinner, clean after yourself, etc.  You shouldn't only do things because you were 'asked'.  

If you are unable to move out ON YOUR OWN, or with a friend as a roommate then you should suck it up and stay at home.  You need to learn responsibilities and gratitude before you can go moving into someone else's home, doing nothing there, too.

If you don't have a job and are out of school, then go get one.  Even if it's McDonald's, get one.  You can't have other people paying for you forever.  

Answer 3

Moving in with your boyfriend wouldn't be a great idea. His parents may seem nice now, but they might change their attitude when you move in. Just like your parents they may expect you to do things and still not appreciate it when you do those things.

How about you find a different job for starters? If that's possible. Then save up for your own place. Then you see where it can go from there.

Answer 4

If you want to improve your relationship with your parents then don't move in w/ your boyfriend, especially if your parents don't like him. Maybe you should have a talk w/ them & let them know how you feel. If nothing helps then find a place of your own or move in w/ a friend. Good luck!

Answer 5

the answer is NO!!!! I did it and it turned into a nightmare. I ended up marrying the son , and we still have resentment from incidents that occured during the time we lived with his parents. i still have emotional issues from that as well.No privacy, you can be the cleanest chick on earth, but your still in another woman's home,boundaries will be crossed for sure. Just get another job and start paying rent to your parents until you and your bf can get a place together. Your relationship will last longer and have less toxins if you have a place to go if there ever is a fight.Plus, you sustain a great relationship with his parents. Be thankful that your parents are still around and that they are near you. I have a baby, on the verge of divorce and my mom is thousands of miles away and a dead beat dad.

Answer 6

if you take a break from your parents they might realize just how much they lost and want you back. I bet then you would be a lot happier!

Answer 7

If you're going to leave home then maybe you should get your own place for a bit.  I wouldn't recommend moving in with the bf at your age.