I'm 18 and never had a boyfriend...?

Question

I'm a bit shy I admit, but I know girls who seem alot shyer than me who get guys all the time..I'm nice and I have a sense of humor..This probably sounds so clich'e but it's really getting to me.

I didn't care for the longest time, I'd always say "I don't care, If I date someone I date someone, If I don't, oh well"...but my friends keep talking about their boyfriends and I feel like I'm missing out....I've had guys like me before, even held hands with a guy (woop-dee-doo) but I haven't been kissed or anything. What do you think could be the problem?

Answer 1

maybe it's because of the guys.

some guys probably like you alot but are just too shy to let you know. There's no problem with you. Just be yourself and some guy will love everything about you and he will find a way to let you know.

Answer 2

um not to be mean dont take it that way but umm if u like a dude ask him out dont be shy or afraid just go for it if u wana talk more about it email me [e-mail] ill be here soo...

Answer 3

your too s**y and intimidate the guys!!

and don't listen to scarlettpanther. she's foolish.

if she was wise, instead of bashing men/boys , she would guide you to find the right one. everyone needs a lover/spouse.

I also agree with "faithful" about about what she said how the traditional engagement and marriage way is much better than dating and pre-marital s*x. save it for your husband.

Answer 4

Hey take it from me as Im old man compared to you and I say thats only normal. And its a bit like shaving, once you start, you cant go back and the journey begins. Hold off until you are ready to start taking all the world has to throw at you. Your not missing much, for sure it can make a women, but if you start too soon, you can come across stuff before your time and you become to harder person because you are too young to handle such stuff. Dont be affraid to ask yuor folks, the more straight up with them, they can help you. There been there and they know. Its a special time and dont take it too serious as guys can bull c**p so much and have you believe with all your heart you  are the best in the world so they can doit to you. Be you and dont follow anybodied foot steeps as you dont fit there shoes. You will know when its right and when it happens say to yourself so dont get hurt if anything shell happen, say this, Im doing this because I want too and it for my enjoyment, as Long as Im happy thats all that matters. Stay away from guys who like scoring brownie points. They never change, they just get worse and better at it.Find yourself and your heart will draw the same. You see ive had the chance a few time to go with young lovely ladies like you in the past and Ive turned them down because I knew there hearts were too pure for me and I would bad in life to bring them down to my level so I would not let it go that far and just be a cool dude and make a mate rather than a dirty minded jurk. Speak to people who have wisdom, dont ask anybody who doesnt have it. People who speak wisdom, there words come true. Good luck, kia kaha (stay strong) your so lucky to be your age.

Answer 5

i do not see any problem.  Boyfriends, kissing and others stuff leads to distractions from your life goals and purpose.  i agree with the old school ways where people did not date they were courted (engaged) and got married.   When you look to your friends that have had boyfriends and had s*x how do they really feel when the dating is over.  I believe the most precious gift you can give your husband is your virginity - all others try to get it but none of them deserve it without a true commitment.  Having a boyfriend puts that in danger and makes the temtation to much to pass.  Best wishes to you.  Stay single and special - your prince charming will come.

Answer 6

there is nothing wrong to be single, wait until you find some one best for you.

Answer 7

i think you need to stop worrying love!

if you go out looking for a boyfriend you will end up with a boyfriend not a boy you really like.

dont take it so seriously, go out to clubs or gigs and meet some nice boys and see where it goes from there.

Answer 8

honestly, it's not like there's anything wrong with not having a boyfriend. I think of singlehood as a gift a lot of the time; we are given it, and if we are given more time with it, then we might as well take advantage of it, right? So I know that you're looking for a, "what is the solution" answer, but you could think of this whole thing a different way. If there's not real reason that you don't have a boyfriend, then there may be a reason that's bigger than any of us. So take advantage of your singlehood to do things that you couldn't do if you were taken; appreciate your singlehood while you have it.

Answer 9

I don't know. Its the same story for me, except with where I have never had a girlfriend and I'm actually 19. But I am glad that I am not the only one out there who has always been single. I don't know about you but for me I just never got around to it. And I was shy for most of my life.

Answer 10

I am also 18 years old. Never had a boyfriend had a guy like me once but nope never went out. Nevetr had a boyfriend and people always question it think im not striaght cause of it. I just feel that I have to worry about finding myself before I find that one person in my life I wnat to spend the rset of my life with. I'm not in a rush. SO if your worried don't be your not the only one I promise.I am also shy girl.

Answer 11

I think that's not a problem....good relationship doesn't require you to do what ever you wanted to !! Even you  are always mess with voices around you..... just forget it.. keep up thinking only positives that would make you feel happier...you should believe and be more patient.....one day you will be meeting a guy that you are dreaming of.....just around the corner.....

Answer 12

even m shy ...ur fortunate that u atleast had someone before u ...but in my case , I hve never been in a relationship....and even i use to feel the same ...but then I realised that if something like that has to happen ...it will happen I dnt need to think on those lines....but still m a normal person ...sometimes ....this inferior feeling arises of not having a girlfriend...I think if the relation is genuine and true and worth going for .....than its fine...but just for the sake of having a boyfriend ...just because ur all frnds hve one...doesnt mean that even if u dont like the person ....u'll stay with that guy.....there are h**l lot of things in life better and interesting than havcing a boyfriend......hope u got my message ....nyways all the best ....

take care

may god bless u !!!!

Answer 13

I've been in your situation before, in fact I have my first relationship when I'm 23. So, you still have time. There's absolutely nothing wrong with us. It's just we don't find any partner that match our preferences yet and so does our match. Not have opportunity to meet us. Believe me, when it's time then it's time. I feel annoy before, but now, I'm with the man I loved and I feel worth paying all the time waiting ;p So, just chill, hang out with your friends, enjoy life,,,,  it does work, when you're not worry of anything, good things appear

Answer 14

Don't worry about it...It's 100% normal. You are only 18 and this too young to worry. You will have a boyfriend sooner or later when it is the right time for you...Just be friendly and open with everyone...There is no wrong in waiting till you find someone you really like and you do feel something special for him...I'm sure a lot of your friends are dating just because they want to say they have a boyfriend.Being single is wonderful, you have time to explore yourself and your  tastes, you can have fun without being commited and you seem to respect yourself. Start searching for a boyfriend is soo wrong because you are wasting too much energy. Love will surprise you and just be prepared to accept this change in your life when it occurs. Human relationships aren't a game as many people like to see it but you shouldn't be too anxious about this stuff. Try to have friends from the opposite s*x so you are familiar with talking to guys.Go out and have fun :)

Answer 15

It's probably your shyness. Try smiling and talking more to guys. I didn't even have someone ask me out as a teen until I was 17. When I got older I got more confident with myself and had many boyfriends. I also regret not giving guys who were nice to me not much of a chance because I thought that my friends wouldn't approve. And that was really dumb of me. The next guy that gives you a smile or attention, give him a chance.

Answer 16

Honney ur 18 ur young, dont dwell on the whole boyfriend thing.

all they do is hold u down, its like havin a ball and chain attched 2 your leg!

Who cares bout who ur friends are dating? are they really as happy in these "relationships" as they say they are.

Dont b desperate

theres so much more 2 life than boring old boys who only wana use u for a good selfish ***** and get u pregnant anyway!

Not speaking frm xperience here btw, just observation!

Answer 17

I think is the vibe and body language you give off. You already admit that at one time you could careless if you have one and it shows. They see you as standoffish and no one give you the time of day. Its not the end of the world. Being in realationships is something you have to be emotionally ready for. You have to be responsible when having s*x and know that no matter what you do there is still a chance of getting pregnant. These are issues that alot young people dont face head on. Don't let the peer pressure of your friend make you get into a situation you are not ready for. If you are ready for then you will have to show the world that you are ready. This means you might have to make the first move asking a boy out or talking more to them and seeing if they want to be more then friends. Take your time and be responsible. You dont want to be the 22 year old with 3 kids and no fathers or more then one father.