I'm 19 and my curfew is 10pm...?

Question

my mom says if i dont like it i can move out but i cant move out so what the heck do i do?? this is so annoying, people dont even go out until 10 but i cant make my mom understand that!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

She puts the roof over your head and food in your stomach- are you surprised she has rules? You shouldn't be. It's her house, not yours. You don't like them? She's right, then move out.

Answer 2

long as u have a key who cares what she says, leave ya window unlocked if u have too, moms talk much sh** , after i turned 17 i was commin home @ 5 or 6 in the morning with no problem

Answer 3

Why can't you move out? I would move out. While your living in her house, you need to respect her rules, no matter how unreasonable they seem to you.She is right, if you don't like it, move out. No one says it is going to be easy, but if you want to run your own life, you'll have to make sacrifices. I moved out when I was 19. Worked, went to school, had three roommates, and could stay out all night if I wanted to (and did). Now I am successful, college educated and make good money and have a great life.

Answer 4

Well...your mom is right...move out. Why can't you? Are you pregnant?  I mean...it is NOT that hard to get a job at 19. it may be a job that doesn't pay alot, but if you live at home, rent free, you can save ALOT of money, and go from there.

Answer 5

I think she is trying very hard to get you to leave and when you decide to take a chance and stay out a little later than she will kick you out either way she will win.

Answer 6

Your mom puts a roof over your head, food in your stomach, pays the bills for all the electricity you use, probably bought you a car and probably pays for that as well. Are you honestly that amazed she has rules?

Do you realize how fast murders, robberies, drunk driving accidents, rapes, etc go up after 10pm?

Maybe 10pm is a little much for a 19 year old but you definately don't need to be out and about at all hours of the morning. You live in that home with you mother who works. The later you are out the longer she stays up from worrying about you. On the off chance she does manage to fall asleep I can guarantee you she wakes up the instant you come in.

The best you can do is act like the adult you are supposed to be. Nicely try to persuade her to give you an hour or two more. If she doesn't go for it then suck it up and don't whine about it. Whining won't do anything but p**s her off and make her consider not letting you out at all.

If you really can't stand coming home at 10 or any other time your mother gives you then your only other option is to get a well paying job, move out on your own and start paying for rent, medical bills, car payments, gas, insurance, electric and gas bills, etc.

A 10oclock curfew is not as bad as you are making it out to be. I grew up with my grandmother and siblings and it wasn't until I moved out at 21 that I was allowed out past 10 on weekdays but guess what instead of going out and doing all the partying and stuff I wanted to do with my freedom I was stuck working two jobs(and going to school) just to make rent and pay bills. It's not the glamorous lifestyle some want to believe it is.

Answer 7

Umm if your an adult what can she do? I would push my luck if she does not have any other reason to kick you out.

Answer 8

that sucks! 10?? i would def. consider finding a room mate an getting your own place or work something out with her.. good luck

Answer 9

You need to respect them and not be to hateful to them they only are do what they think is best for you. Get to know how they were raised and  you will prob. find out why they do what they do.  To me anything past midnight is trouble. I mean i had a 10 curfew during the week and a midnight curfew on the weekends until i got married and I'm 22 and have been married for a year now. So its not as bad as your making it.

Answer 10

Listen, pal- you live in your mom's house, she buys your food, pays your bills, and so forth. She's probably paying for your schooling too, because it doesn't sound like you have a job,although you need to get off your duff and get one. That means that your mom can make whatever rules she wishes, no matter how old you are. I agree with her- if you don't like living under her rules, then you DO need to move out and live on your own- and get a job so you can support yourself and pay your own bills like an adult. The world doesn't OWE YOU, or ANYONE ELSE, a LIVING, and it's way past time you understood and learned this lesson.

When you finally do have go out and get a job and go to work, you will understand what life in the real world is like. Until then, you need to can the snotty attitude and start acting like an adult, instead of like a whinny, spoiled kid. You're just lucky that your mom is willing to put up with your c**p- I know I wouldn't. You wouldn't last 5 minutes with that kind of attitude at my house.

Enough said.

Answer 11

ur over 18 ur an adult...

stay out as long as u want, it ain't like she's gonna kick u out.

Answer 12

your 19, a legal adult,

you sound quite dumb to me.,

Answer 13

oh im really sorry try to make a list of reasons that you should be able to go out longer but dont use the reason she or he can! good luck

Answer 14

Get a job and move out.  

If I have an adult child living in my home, they'll be expected to not party all night, either.

Pay for everything yourself, including college.  Pay that with grants and loans.

Answer 15

Get a room mate and move out.

It's expensive, but rewarding to have your own place.

I don't understand why there are curfews once you turn 18. You are a legal adult.

They say their house, their rules, but it's not effecting them, so I don't understand either.

Answer 16

Well as much as I hate to say it if you are under her roof and she is paying your bills then you pretty much don't have a choice. Especially if you are not in college and just living off of her. If you are in college then it's a little different because you are working to improve your life and she should take that into consideration.

There is another option. You can always sit down with your mother and talk to her. Instead of complaining about the curfew you can explain your side have her explain her side and negotiate a fair time for you to come in. (This is fine when you are 18+ if you are below 18 then suck it up and wait till you are 18+) If that doesn't work you have two other options: 1. go to college away from home and she won't have a say in when you come in. 2. If you are not going to college suck it up go to college or make some money and move out.

Answer 17

I think that is a good rule because most of the bad, perverted dudes go out at night and I think your mom is afraid that something bad would happen.

Try being more responsible around the house if you can't move out.

She'll eventually see it and will let you go out.

Also make a compromise, instead of 10, make your curfew 1 hour later.

See where that takes you.

Answer 18

wow when i was 19 i didnt come home till like 4 every morning tell her your an adult and if she wont listen then school starts in a few weeks and she wont know what time you come home assuming you wont be living at home while in college

Answer 19

move out because if you stay out late she might just kick you out.

Answer 20

Start paying her rent or move out. She's right, her house, her rules. She probably doesn't want you to wake her up when you're coming in at one or two am. I don't blame her.

Answer 21

You're in her house, you have to respect her rules. Sorry.