I'm 20, and is it alright to start thinking of marriage at this age?

Question

hey, I'm 20 and my boyfriend/fiancee is 25. Were getting engaged next summer, but our wedding is not for a long time. These days I am really starting to day dream about getting married to my hubby and starting a family and honeymoon and all. I can't stop lol. day and night its the same thing running threw my head. Waiting really really sucks. He's going threw the same thing as I'm but not too much like me lol. I talked to my friends about it, they think its cause of the age problem lol.

Sometimes I think I have no life I sit on my bed and think of our future kids names and places where we would go on honeymoon and how I'm going to run my family ans stuff.

all girls are like that. Is it true?.

Yeah, as you can see I clearly don't have a life lol. Please respond your opinions

Answer 1

good for you! if your priority is getting marry and having kids and your happy with your boyfriend then just enjoy it! it doesnt matter how old you are as long as that is what you want. i know some people that are in their late 30's and are still bar hopping and dont want to settle down... you sound like you know what you want. one suggestion, enjoy your husband, travel, have a girls night out and get other stuff out of your system before you decide to have kids... when you turn 21 go to a few bars with you hubby and enjoy being young together... after you have some fun then have babies!!! Congrats!!!

Answer 2

Sure . . . since you are sure you are in love, good luck!

Answer 3

have fun start making a plan book, cut out some wedding dress styles you may like, write down different colors  and flowers you may like to use, ideas where to get married, rec. ect.  look at different innovation's and put samples in your idea book also, your ideas and plans will change this will help make things easier to plan and plot out. start a guest list, but get real, write down how much you can guess to afford. early planning makes the budget go far, even if you buy little things now and put them in storage boxes, like favors for tables, your guest book, pen, garter ect.

Answer 4

I don't think there's ever any harm in a little self-induldgent daydreaming. Just make sure you see things for what they are.

Answer 5

No I'm not like that

I will  start thinking about that after i have my career

So like 5 years after being successful :)

Answer 6

I am 20, He is 25 and we are getting married in 8 days! We were together for three years, got engaged in October and had a 9 month engagement. No im not pregnant, and i dont want kids for another 4 or 5 years. I knew he was the one, and I saw no need to wait any longer. I wanted to be a wife and be married to him. So we got engaged. People who know us are accepting and are happy for us. It's the strangers who ask how old you are..."oh you are too young, you need to live a little." well my answer to that is, I want to "live a little" with him. I can't see a future without him and we are very traditional (not living together) before we get married. so i guess you could say we are more anxious then the average couple!

but when you know you know, don't let age or anyone elses opinions affect your happiness!! it's YOUR life my dear!

Answer 7

I have the same issue i'm 20 and been with my boyfriend for 5years!

Answer 8

yea youll be 21 its a little young but its not like ur 16 so yea i think its perfect

Answer 9

That's great. You should never get married before you turn 25, because you will change in the next few years and mature. Trust me.

Answer 10

I'm 20 as well. BF is 24 almost 25. I think of getting married ALL the time. I have alot this summer.

I want to get married and have a family but I ALSO want to finish college and go to medical school.

I truly believe it's all for me. But right now I know I'm not ready for marriage.

I live by "what's love got to do with it" I myself am not financially ready. I have a small job....live at home during the summer and am a full time student.

I don't want to get married with all of that. I want to be established and on my own two feet. BF is the same way. He just started his career and there is PLENTY of time

Answer 11

Yes, I think that it is fine to think about marriage at 20. I am 20 and just got married in June. I don't think that the age really matters as long as you are in love and truly know that person and know that they are the one you want to be with for the rest of your life. My husband and I were talking about getting married when we were still in high school. We have been together since I was 14. I am going through that same thing that you are except I want a baby but I know we need to wait until we have been married for at least a year. But what does it hurt to plan it out in your head? You should go ahead and start planning your wedding now. Pick your colors and start looking for things that you really like and keep them together for when you start doing your wedding. It will be alot less stressful trust me.