I'm 20 and I can't get it hard for my girlfriend..?

Question

I'm 20 and I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now, we've tried having s*x but I get too nervous and I can't get it up. I'm still a virgin so I don't have any previous experience. I know my problem is nervousness and anxiety, because I have no trouble getting hard when I'm by myself, so I know I need to relax. Does anyone know of anything to help me relax and not be so nervous?

Answer 1

just wait a little longer and become more comfortable with your girl, no need to rush when you're not ready and you're still pretty young :]

Answer 2

RELAX MAN!  Why don't you try jacking off in front of her?  That might help you get over it.  Once you jerk it in front of an audience, you could have s*x in the front window of a department store and not go limp.

Answer 3

ok first off dont listen to mds... masturbation in public is extremely illegal... second your girl must be awesome to still be with you after you couldnt get hard for her...deffinately do what ever you can to stay with her, she sounds cool... finally.. i think you should just try again... you could just tell her that you last a long time and if you ask her to try doing something with you again also say that she will have to make you hard since it takes you too long to do it on your own... when you guys are alone first you need to do some foreplay for her.. then at the right time have her try to make you hard with her hands or mouth or whatever.... everything should work fine then :)  hope that helps dude... good luck

Answer 4

Good For you!   Keep trying........   have a couple of beers. or smoke a joint..........  that always helps us loosen up.

Answer 5

there isnt really anyway to stop it but u

Answer 6

you should begin practicing controlling your mind before you begin having s*x.  gain control of yourself and you will have control in all situations.

Answer 7

work your way up

I know it sounds silly but run around the bases before you get home, ask her to whisper into your ear during it too, nothing dirty, just so you can hear her voice (which after 2 years of dating probably has a calming effect) about how its the right thing to do

Answer 8

What makes you hard when you are alone?  Porno?  Perhaps try watching porno with your GF and when it gets hard, you proceed to have s*x with her.

Marco!

Answer 9

Just keep trying I guess... Have her give you a massage. Try focusing some time on just her and you could naturally and suddenly get there without actually trying. Be comfortable with yourself. She's obviously comfortable with you and likes you for who you are, so don't stress about your body! Focus! Good luck!

Answer 10

sorry mate a 20 year old virgin should have a problem keeping it down not up ---- i would suggest seeing a doctor no matter how embarressed you may be as there could be a medical condition rather than being nervous  

Answer 11

There are some capsules available for such conditions, happens with most of the guys during their first time. these capsules are safe and are also advised by doctors. you only have to do it twice or thrice before you would realize that you dont need the capsules any more. Trust Me, it will keep your relation alive

Answer 12

If you're not against alcohol, a glass of wine or a mixed drink will help you relax.  Good luck!

Answer 13

go to GNC and get ginseng, steel libido, or other male products. Try not to talk about it or plan when yall try again.  naked caressing might help out too...

Answer 14

you just need to think of how much she likes you and wants to please you... you have to think about what makes you ...um... then do that. maybe a cpl drinks together first

Answer 15

do you do foreplay?  If you know you are arousing her before you try to have s*x maybe you will be more comfortable.  Plus, let her excite you as well.  If you know she likes your goods, you will feel more confident

Answer 16

Try a s*x toy like a vibrating c**k ring or something. Don't over-dramatize s*x, you'll ruin it every time.

Answer 17

try some more foreplay. you'll be at it somewhat for a while and once uve been intimate for a lil u'll get more comfortable int he overall situation. you'll kinda get used to it. and i also think that once u actually do it once you'll be fine after that.