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I'm 22, i have a male friend who is 64 he asked me to move in with him since I want to move out. What do I do?

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Its not sexual AT ALL, he'd have his own room and I would have mine. I am female he is male.H e sayys hes trying to help me out since my rent would be cheap.

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dont do it your bfs will be creeped out when they know you live with an old man and i wouldnt trust him if i were you
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I know he is probably your friend, but I wouldn't trust the situation. It would be better to get your own. If you're in school they have student housing(apartments) that is cheap or if not, you can check local apartmentguide.com to check out places to live that will fit into your budget.
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if that is the case, u can...

he also needs a company, and maybe he treats u as his daughter?
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DON'T DO IT!

Sexual or not sexual, friends or not friends, whatever your situation may be...  don't do it.  why on earth a 64 year old guy wanna live with a 22 year old girl!?!?  Doing you a favor?  Helping you? I don't think so.  Trust me, your rent is the absolute last thing on his mind.
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nothing's free hunny. 64 year old men DO NOT want to just be helpful to their young female friends that way...
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You can ask some Islamic fundamentalists. They can answer your question well because their prophet Mohammed showed them how to handle little girl of 7. Mohammed married his wife Aysha in her 7 th age and he was 54 then
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He may be asking you with the hope that your friendship will develop into something more .... just be aware of that if you move in with him.

You should also consider of how it will look to outsiders who do not understand your arrangement.
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Do what your gut instinct tells you to do.

I have never heard of a 64 year old in search of a roomate.
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There is a 50 - 50 chance that his intentions are pure or may not be so pure. Be realistic and do some investigation from his past behaviors. Ask his friends, neighbors or whoever you can access before you make this decision.
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It may not be sexual for you but I would have my doubts about his motives. If he's wanting you to move in with him and isn't going to charge you rent,he's probably expecting more. That's how they lure you in. After you live with him for a month or two he'll start complaining about the costs and making advances toward you. If you don't give in he'll either ask you to pay or move out. If you want to move out find a girlfriend to move in with. You'll avoid what could be a bad situation. This guy sounds like a creepy old man.
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Wow... seriously laides, not EVERY man is evil and wants to take advantage of you.

I found a female roommate on craigslist a while back in college, it wasn't sexual.... it just cut my rent in half, which was badazz.

Its kind of offensive that everyone is assuming the absolute worst.

"OMG MEN AREN'T GENEROUS THEY JUST WANT TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU!!!!!!"

I'd get some life experience...... like, now.
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Good for you.
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I sorta agree with rec - nothing is for free.

But we don't know this guy and you have to make your own judgements. We could be wrong.
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I don't really see the problem here, but if you're as nervous about it as you seem, perhaps you should reconsider.
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EDIT: Don't just assume he wants to take advantage of you, there are many good reasons someone wants to share a house, even if they are 64! Maybe he sees it as a great way to beat the mnortgage, PLUS have someone who will water the plants and feed the dog if he goes away for the weekend! Use your common sense as you would with anyone.

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Could you do it on a trial basis ~ say a three month lease to start off, to see if you get on with each other?

I've known lifelong friends to become deadly enemies after sharing a house for a few months, people are not always easy to live with even if they are great people!

BUT, if you can get on and the rent is cheap, it could be a great way to take the first steps to independence.

You might want to have a serious discussion first as to exactly what his (and your) expectations are.

He might feel that because the rent is cheap, you should do all the housework. You might feel that's OK, or not ~ but it's something that needs to be decided BEFORE you move in.

Also, such things as can you have visitors, how many at a time, what if you want to throw a party, would he expect to be included in your social life or just be a share-house mate, plus all the typical legal stuff ~ is there a signed lease, what are your obligations as a tenant ~ that type of thing.

Sharing can be a great way to find nicer accommodation than you can afford as just one person, and it can work out really well, but it does have pitfalls (we've all been there, lol), so it's worth having a realistic down to earth discussion before you move in, and also to have a 'fall back' position if it does not work.

The link below is to an Australian site, but it has a lot of useful information for people considering sharing a house with someone else.

Cheers :-)
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