With my dad's 2nd wife and girlfriends, I have dealt with quite a bit of drama. My dad is one of those men who can't survive without a woman in his life. My dad and I agreed to get an apartment together and split the bills/cleaning responsibilities, so he wouldn't have to invest in real estate again before he moves out of the country next year. The apartment is just as much his as it is mine. Now, his 29 year old wife (I'm 24) from Vietnam comes to the United States, marries my dad. All she does is sit around and do nothing. Seeing how my dad and I work, I think she should take on the majority of the cleaning responsibilities since she's living for free. So I decided to boycott and stop cleaning the "common" areas. Now my dad is getting on to me for not doing my part. I work 60 hours a week, he works 40 hours a week, and she works 0 hours a week... how fair is that?
She also dresses very risqué, and when I go out and about with them it's embarrassing. She will do things like go grocery shopping with us, and then not help take in the groceries; she just walks inside and sits down. My dad continues to make excuses for her, like "it's a cultural difference." I personally don't see where being rude, trampy, and lazy has anything to do with her culture. I'm never rude to her, I just don't go the extra mile to reach out to her and be close to her, and this infuriates my dad. He told me, and I quote... "You need to reach out to my wife and be her friend" Basically now, my dad has gone from being one of my closest people in my life, to us barely speaking at all.
I have tried to keep these concerns to myself, in hopes of not causing too much of a rift between dad and I, but he can see on my face that I'm pissed off... when I tell him my concerns, and tell him that I think she's rude (with the following examples I mentioned above) - he says things like, "she doesn't mean to be like that, it's not in her to be rude" -- what the F*ck EVER!!!!
I also can’t talk to my dad about my day, work, school, life, or anything for that matter, without him interrupting me to tell me something cute that his wife did or said, or something about Vietnam. It’s like he’s obsessed with her, and I promise I am NOT being the jealous bratty little daughter, it really is going over board. For instance, after knowing her for less than 6 months, he told me that if anything happened to him to make sure she got half of his life insurance money. (I’m sole beneficiary). For me it’s not about the money, but at this point, I had never even met this woman before. CRAZY!!!
Oh and she logged onto my computer at work with out me there, and managed to download a virus, and completely s***w up my hard drive... and I never got an apology from her or my father.
Tell me if I'm over reacting here, or if you have had a similar experience.
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