I'm 25, with a strict father, and doesn't know I have my belly button pierced?

Question

Ok so you must think I'm nuts, but it's true. My father is a great dad but he's also very strict and I'm 25. I have both a Bachelors degree, and a Master's degree. This Fall I'm going for my 2nd Masters!

I'm not working at the moment because the job market is horrible and I haven't been able to find a decent job. But I am aggressively looking.

Anyway, I just got my belly button pierced. I paid for it with my money that I made and saved up from my last job. I feel so bad about hiding this from my father, but I did it because I wanted to and not as a form of rebellion or such.

So what do you suggest I do? Tell him and be ready for the yelling and the guilt he'll place on me or not say a thing? How would I tell him without him getting overly upset?

Please help...thank you

Answer 1

your a ****** g adult

Answer 2

What he doesn't know won't kill him. But then again, if you tell him now, it won't be as bad as when you tell him later. He'll think you lied to him and stuff.

Answer 3

You're 25.  Get a job, move out and pierce anything you want.  In the mean time, don't tell him.  

Answer 4

Tell him the truth. I know it will be hard at first but he should understand. It is your life and he can't control it. It will be better if you tell him than if he finds out. Good Luck!

Answer 5

You're an adult, you can make your own decisions, I wouldn't let my father boss me around if i was 25, but fathers can be really protective and i would know that. You don't have to tell him, but if he asks, tell him the truth- don't lie.

Answer 6

Do you still live with him???

I would just tell him, and if he gets mad, tell him you are old enough to decide **** for your self.

And if he yells at you, oh well, he has 2 deal with it.

Answer 7

I think at 25 you have the right to do whatever you want with your own body. You're a year younger than me and I can't imagine being afraid of what my parents would think at this point.

Answer 8

You are 25, you make your own decisions, and you made one that you wanted to make.

He may be strict, but he's also your father, and he loves you. Be open and honest with him. He will probably get upset, but if he loves you then he will accept the decision you made even if he disagrees with it.

If you try to hide it, and he finds out on his own, he will be far more upset than if you just told him about it.  He should respect your honesty and accept it.

Answer 9

WOW! Just dont tell him, you are grown... but if you want to tell him tell him.. only you can be the judge...  

Answer 10

just go with life day by day. if the moment comes up then tell him.  

Answer 11

Just tell him and duck...It's true that you are an adult but its also true that you still live with him so that kind of negates the effects of the first. So maybe if you told him but you weren't wearing the ring so he couldn't see it, it would lessen the blow?  

Answer 12

You are an adult! Tell him then leave.  

Answer 13

id say you should do whatever you want because your an adult.

Answer 14

Your 25?!! Why do you 'have to tell him!' OMG! That's the answer.

Answer 15

wow.. well i mean i think its understandable for parents to hate piercings.. my parents would think it has something to do with being rebellious or something, but he has to understand youre not a girl anymore..and you're welcome to make youre own decisions.. i def. think you should tell him and expect him to be mad.. but then get over it.. good luck :)

Answer 16

You're 25...he cannot do anything about it. Don't lie to him, but don't just out and say it. If he asks, tell him.

Answer 17

umm..why would he be yelling at you? your 25 i think the yelling and the lectures are supposed to stop once you turn 18, i don't see what the big deal is YOU paid for it with YOUR money, so you shouldn't feel guilty, besides if you decide you don't want it anymore or if the guilt is killing you that much, you can always take it out, no big deal.

Answer 18

Your 25 by now it doesn't matter what your dad says he stopped having control over you at 18.

Answer 19

It's your body - you can do with it whatever you want.

Don't make an issue about it - just go about your business.  If he has a problem with it - tell him you love him and you're still his princess.   Remind him that one of these days, you're going to come home with an engagement ring on your finger.