I'm 28wks pregnant and....?

Question

Ok I suppose I should give you all the short version of whats going on...

I live with my parents and currently a mum of 2 already. My children are not what sets me off. I have 2 younger siblings that are spoilt to the hilt and the olds will do anything for @ the drop of a hat. My little brother expects me to wait on him hand and foot, and my father is in the same boat. My father has one set of rules for his son (but rarely follows through with) and another for mine. I understand that I need to find my own place, but money is very tight. I have an ex partner who is manipulating my family into thinking like him, to the point where my father takes his side for almost everything.. I am stuck in a country where support is short also.

So from the info I have just given can you understand why there is aggression there?

Answer 1

when you get all worked up and stressed out , it stresses your baby out too. This is bad because it can cause premature labor. Try to calm down and remember to stay as stress free as possible for your baby.

Answer 2

Floods your baby with adrenaline. Not great. Some studies show that this can make your child prone to being high-strung or more reactive to external stressors. Not sure about that, but still doesn't seem like a cool situation for the baby to be stuck in.

But even more so than physically while you're carrying your baby, you need to get a handle on this before your baby arrives.

Trust me, when you're tired and haven't slept more than 2 hours at a stretch for months, you smell like breast milk and haven't changed jammies in two days and your baby is not happy and howling at the top of her lungs... that is not the time to BEGIN to practice patience and calm. Start now.

Good luck and peace to you and your baby!

Answer 3

I dont think the baby is being affected too much right now.  It is just your hormones.  Someone else is living in your body and you really have no control over what happens.  You are probably nervous about everything anyway.  It just seems as though you are getting angrier at things that normally would not have set you off.  Try to relax.  I have three children and at times things seemed worse than they really were.  Don't worry about everything so much.  It will generally work out in the end.  When you get upset you are the only one seething about it later.  It will affect the baby if you continue to behave this way after the baby is born but Im sure it will calm down for you soon.  

Answer 4

Its probably putting stress on your baby... whenever you get mad just walk away from whatever it is and take a breather. You dont need that kind of stress this far along. It could cause preterm labour.

Answer 5

Get therapy for anger management - it really helps.  Being angry all the time isn't good for you or the baby.  It increases your heart rate and blood pressure which can impact negativaly on the baby by causing it to restrict blood flow to the baby and premature labor.  You need to get help NOW before it becomes a real problem and you inadvertantly take it out on the baby after birth like when you're frustrated with crying or something.  You can get on mood stabilizing medications that are pregnancy safe.  I'm sure the woman who microwaved her 1 month old in Florida (i think) wasn't seeking help for her anger management when she got into an argument with her boyfriend.