I'm 32 years old, in my 8 year relationship with my husband, only now that i suddenly become jealous.?

Question

it seems that my trust in him had lost and that i doubt everything he said.he said he didn't do anything to make me feel jealous but at the back of my mind always he is not saying the truth. this is very different from the way i treated him before as in i trust him so much but now its a different thing...how can i avoid this feeling and bring back the trust i use to have with him...we have 2 sons and he works hard abroad to give anything we wanted..i feel guilty at times but it doesn't cover up my distrust with him..please advise me...

Answer 1

Is it possible that now there is a reason for you to feel this way whereas before there wasnt?  I guess what I am asking here...   Is it possible you are feeling this way because he actually is cheating?  

If he really isnt, the only way to stop it is get to the bottom of why you are feeling this way and resolve the problem.  

Answer 2

If he works abroad and is merely providing money you have every reason to think he might want something for himself. Possibly you are growing up and realizing that money is not everything and trust, in that case, is as good as ones nearest option.

Answer 3

It could be just an insecure feeling developed by age however, if you clearly see some telltales of lies from him, don't make it worse by cornering him with difficult questions/showing distrust. Just try to revive your First Love condition with him and show more attention without exaggerating. Do not think of retaliation but strife hard to safe your marriage! I am telling you from my personal ruined marriage.  

Answer 4

do you feel unattracted because of the children...and notice him looking at other women who are better than you!!

Answer 5

Hi,

Everyone have solution for her/his problem in herself/himself, but he/she realises only when someone help her/him.Same is with you.

You know whts happening with u, u know wht the solution.

First of all find the first thing, on which you distrust him FIRST time.Was that valid?proved?was that one imp than ur married life?secondly, ur hubby is not with you ,you may missing him whole a lot that u wana complain him, but its going on in some other form of expression.Just relax yaar, forget him for sometime.Dont think abt him a lot ,divert your time for a while in other activities and people..before sleep say god that please guide me and protect my hubby there.

you seems to be possessive.start writing diary entry and vomit their all that comes in ur mind, this may help you.

take care:-)