I'm 9 mos. pregnant, alone, & really depressed...sometimes I want to give up. Is this normal?

Question

I don't have a partner, someone tried to break in my apt. the other night & it made me really scared b/c I'm by myself. I've gained weight, and I cry all the time. I'm scared about being a mom & don't want to resent my child. I don't even have friends to talk to b/c I just moved to a new city. What should I do...is this all normal?

Answer 1

It is definitely normal to feel emotional and to be scared.  

What should you do?  Find some support and friends.  

See if you can find a "new mom" groups.  There are lots of them around and it is so nice to be able to talk to other moms.  Ask around your community.  Someone is bound to know about them and share the info with you.  

Pregnant moms are also welcomed at La Leche Legue meetings (these are groups that support women who want to breastfeed).  You might not end up breastfeeding, but you will get to meet some other moms and moms-to-be.  (BTW,  breastfeeding can help you bond better with the baby - so if you haven't considered it, maybe think about it because it can really help, especially if you are really scared and stressed... .it's just one more way to make things easier for yourself.).

The public health nurses in my area run groups for new moms that meet weekly.  The moms just talk about different issues and I found that it was really nice to be around a group of other moms who had just went through the same thing.

But do as much as you can to make connections and meet other moms.  We humans are social people, and if you're in a new city, it can be really hard and scary feeling so alone.  But I guarantee you that if you let people know that you want to be involved, they will welcome you with open arms.  

Take care of yourself, because being a mom is one of the best and most important jobs you'll ever have.  Good luck.

Answer 2

yes but maybe you should of thought about that before you had s*x !