I'm A USAF Wife, PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!?

Question

Can anyone please explain to me this:

My husband is in the Air Force. He is currently stuck at his training base because he's having an issue in getting his orders. He graduated over 2 months ago and still waiting for his orders.

Due to this inconvenience he requested that he be allowed to take a few days of leave to come home and celebrate our first wedding anniversary together. His MTL told him that it shouldn't be a problem considering he has been there much longer than he was supposed and still has no idea when he's going home. That the only way he would get denied is if they knew for sure his orders were ready.

So my husband follows all instructions and then is denied. He is told he cannot take leave because it isn't a critical and life threatening event. HOWEVER, this is the real kicker and why I need an explanation. LAST MONTH FOUR GUYS TOOK LEAVE. ONLY ONE OF THEM WAS FOR A LIFE THREATENING REASON!!! The other three went home just for s***s and giggles...No anniversary, no wedding, no funeral, nothing of the sort. They went home just because they had been there a long time.

Can anyone help me? Does anyone know of a way to get a commander to change his mind? Are there any tricks?

Answer 1

Well to me it sounds as though there is something to this story u are missing... And all else i can say is if u cant handle being apart on your first anniversary when he is in Tech School then u need to start preparing your self for other deployments or Duty's where u will have to be apart.. If he cant come to u, you go to him!! But good luck on what ever happens!!

Answer 2

go to him...its that simple..you will love misawa japan..take all the mail order catalogs you can though..we were there for almost nine years and loved every minute of it.....oh  yeah get some nice winter clothes boots..shovels etc...you will need them

Answer 3

Grow up.  He joined the military and your joint convenience is not an issue.  He belongs to them for as long as they want him or until he bails out.

Answer 4

He’s not even in the Air Force yet tech school is still very strict go see the base priest he’s a commander he’s probably the only one who will help you tell him your problems

Answer 5

There is more going on there, which is why he hasn't been given any orders.  That is very uncommon and that is the reason why he was denied leave.  He needs ot be straight with you and tell you what is going on there.

Answer 6

Nope, there are no tricks.

Something else is going on here,

There is a reason your husband is being held at his tech School.

I would find it almost impossible to believe, that he does not know that reason.

And that reason, is probally why he has been denied leave.

You never play the " the other guys got it card " while in the military.

Mainly, because you do not know all the facts.

Just how would you or your husband, know why they got leave ?

PS: the military does not care about your anniversary, they don't even care if your about to give child birth.

My dad missed all three births.

Answer 7

Several things here don't make sense:  

1.  He has an assignment to Misawa. . . what is this "scheduling"?  I've worked in and out of assignments for 18 years.  What is scheduling?   When you get an assignment, you get a report date.   You have so many days of travel, so many days of leave, so many days of proceed time.  All of that is factored into the report date.  If I don't turn the orders around in time, Airman Snuffy isn't getting to Japan in time and I have some serious 'splaining to do.

2.  You know four other guys got to take leave. . .how do you know this?  Did you meet these four guys?  Have you spoken to them personally?  

3.  Tell  your husband you are coming there to visit.  If he graduated two months ago, he's in Phase 4 and can have visitors.   You really want to spend your anniversary together.  So go there.

4.  If all else fails, post the tech school he's at and depending where he's at, I'll have one of my peeps look in on him.

Answer 8

I hate to say it, and I'm not bagging the AF, but...It's the military and sometimes it really sucks.  In my 12 years I had a blast, but at the same time there are just moments when there is nothing you can do about a crappy situation.  It is the military and you jump when they say jump.

BTW, I was stationed at Misawa for 5 years. I had a friggin blast.  Enjoy it and get out to see the sights. Please don't be one of the people that just stays on base and b*****s about everything. It's an awesome opportunity to see and experience what most people never will.

Answer 9

Could talk to the red cross or chaplin, sounds like he might have crossed sabers with a power person, (power person, any person who has control of your life in the military, could be a buck pvt. working on paper work), have to try and get around this person or over there head.