I'm Being Abused at Home?

Question

When a parent hurts you, its abuse right? There's verbal and neglect and physical. Well my dad has been verbally abusing me for years and Im about to go off the deep end. I am wound up in a knot and I dont know what to do anymore. I might leave. I have a job, thats close to a friends house (Brooke) and I will leave if things get even more out of hand. My dad has raised his fist to me as if to hit me before, and my mom works for the police department. It would humiliate him if I called the police, which I might do one of these days. His recent and seemingly favorite name for me at the moment is little 'witch' I know it means to him, *****, and it means the same to me. Im tired of feeling alone and hurt and I cant be as strong as I have been anymore, I am done with the stress, and my life is just beginning, Ill be starting school as a senior and I cant have this emotional baggage. Should I request counseling? Thank you to all who help. I really need it right now.

Answer 1

hi Kate, very sad to hear this. if you're frightened by what is happening then there are things you can do. child line is one, and as you're still at school, ask to speak to the ir counsellor. it helps to talk things out.  don't stay in a place where you honestly believe  you're in danger. lolx

Answer 2

yes you have needs to, and its not fare to be tolerating such sillyness, you need their support, not abuse, if it happens again i would simply leave.

i wish you lots of luck and happiness

Answer 3

First of all, I am sorry to hear all this. No child should ever have to deal with physical, mental or verbal abuse from adults. Have you tried telling him how you feel? How about talking to your mother about this issue? I think if you are truthful and completely upfront with them about it then something can be done. I would confront your dad and let him know how he is making you feel. But be mature about it and if he does not want to listen then take it further...go to your mom! And if for some reason Mom does not listen either...you can always go talk with a counselor or another adult that you feel comfortable talking to. You need to know that this is not your fault...you have done nothing to feel this way....it is their problems and they are taking it out on you. Don't  let their stress get to you....be yourself and make yourself happy!!!

Answer 4

What an awful situation.  I assume your mother is aware of this?  I would first suggest family counseling, with the entire family seeing a counselor together.  If your dad can't get his act together, then see about staying with your friend.  I hope things work out o.k.

Answer 5

Please tell your mom,teacher,our friend, that you are being verbal abused.I did not know I was verbal abused till it was almost to late.

Please get help right away.

Answer 6

Well running away isn't the answer.You'll think that you are running away from your problems when really,all you are doing is running into more problems.It seems like your dad is verbally abusing you more than physically abusing you.But this kind of behavior can lead to physical abuse.Is your dad under stress?Does he do this often?It seems that your dad is mad about something and he's taking his anger out on you.Until he actually punches or hits you then it's not physical abuse.But he is definitely verbally abusing you which still isn't good.You should pray to GOD about this.GOD is the only one who can handle this.Also,talk to your mom about this.Is she siding with him?Does she take up for him?This is serious.You are not alone though.Have you tried talking to your mom though.I think it might help if you did talk to her.If you think that counseling will help you then I guess it would be okay.But seriously pray to GOD about this.GOD loves you and GOD cares about you.GOD is the only one who can make this better so pray about this.Talk to your mom about this and see what she thinks about it so I hope that I helped so GOD BLESS you!

Answer 7

   SORRY YOU'RE HAVING TO GO THROUGH THIS.  I WOULD DEFINATELY GO TO A COUNSELOR.  AT LEAST TALK WITH YOUR MOM ABOUT IT.  NOBODY SHOULD BE TREATED WITH DISRESPECT .  I WAS ONCE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE WHAT ABUSE CAN DO TO YOUR SPIRIT.  IF SOMEONE TELLS YOU SOMETHING OFTEN ENOUGH , YOU BEGIN TO BELIEVE IT.   KNOW THAT YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON AND NOTHING THAT YOU DO OR SAY CAUSES YOUR DAD TO GET MAD AT YOU.  IT'S YOUR DAD THAT HAS THE PROBLEM.  GOOD LUCK SWEETIE.

Answer 8

Omigosh. I am very sorry to hear that. I would definitley try counseling before doing anything else.

Answer 9

I think counseling is a great idea. Have you ever told you mom? Surely since she works at the police department she would do something. If not, then the counseling will help you. It will give you a place to spill your feelings and thoughts out to a trustworthy person and your counselor will give you many different ways of coping with your abusive father. When things get rough just remember that you only have one more year left until you can leave and go to college or where ever you plan on being after school. I really do hope that things work out for you.

Wishing you the best.

Lindsey