I'm Hurting So Much. PLEASE Help.?

Question

Hiya,

Im 13

Ive Been In Pain For about a year now. I got My Heartbroken by this lad called Andy Lots Of stuff have happened between us, it went WAY to for with me trying to kill myself. The School got involved I starting texting him 24/7 BEGGING Him To Talk to me but he wont talk to me and saying I was going to kill myself. I worried him a lot. His mom phoned my mom and told her that I had took an overdose. Her dad went up the school terrified I was going to do something bad. I hurt him a lot, so I think he does care about me a little bit but I need to talk to him or something and get everything sorted. Not talking to him is killing me. It hurts So much, My friends and family think im fine now but im not I cry every night and just think of killing myself but I cant do it because it would hurt my brother so much and I love him a lot. Everyone saying his ignoring me so I get over him and get better, I feel like im mentally ill because im behaving like this and seeking a counsellor and he talks to me like ive got a problem, He has to be so careful of what he says to me. Is He ignoring me for my sake? Or His? Smoking and drinking doesn’t get the pain away. Im Just in so much pain. Everyone’s like your get over him but I cant a whole year of not getting over one boy. Ive tried slitting my wrist that did nothing either. I lie to my counsellor telling her im happy and im just living a fake life, My dad always lashes out when he’s angry my mom only cares about my dad incase he leaves her or something, I cant take it any longer I want everything normal, I want me and Andy to be mates again. I could go on for hours about how im feeling but all i can say is it hurts so much.

Answer 1

You need to let go. You cannot make someone like or love you. It is not healthy, what you have described. The past is gone. quit living in it.

Guys are turned off by this kind of behavior. You have made yourself into a problem. You do not need to talk to him to get things sorted, you need to get a hold of yourself, on your own.

if you really care and ever want him to see you the same you have to, stop this... When he sees that you in control... He will no longer see you as this problem person.

Think about it If you were a guy... would you rather be with someone fun and care free or someone who has a ton of issues?

It is your choice how he sees you, You need to change your behavior.

And Here is another tip. You can never, never let a guy know how much you want them.

He will take notice when you go on. He will be like what is going on? Right now he can predict your ever action.

Answer 2

getting your heart broken is not an easy thing to go through but you just have to keep telling yourself that everything will get better and that there is a bright light waiting for you at the end of this painful tunnel. you have to be strong enough to keep your eyes open for new hot guys. and by the way has he had any girlfriends after he left you? if so its time to move on. if not play it cool and be mysterious (guys like that). if your yearning for his attention like that he could get a restraining order against you. hope you listen to my advice. good luck!

Answer 3

Why would you want to kill yourself over some boy. Your 13. You have many years to find another. So every time you get heartbroken are you going to want to kill yourself? That's silly. I think you need to grow up and stop seeking for attention, seriously this is ridiculous.  

Answer 4

Aw a broken heart is the WORST. You need to tell the truth to your counselor. I think you need to just talk to her though for Andy's case, don't want him to go crazy too. Good luck, just talk it out, go for a long run, walk the dog, punch a pillow, get a stressball, or eat :-)

Love Haleigh<3

Answer 5

There is no such thing as normal.

I know the pain and the desperation I got over it. Here is how. Yes you feel pain and you can make it better.

One you have wrapped up everything you are into this lad, so now you feel you are lost and don’t exist unless he is there for you. What you have done is given your self away. Now to get all your bits and pieces back. If you were here I could do some thing for you . but you are there so you must do it for your self.  So you must ask your self some big questions and answer them truthfully. Never lie to your self.

1.) Ask your self why do you want to be with some one who does not want to be with you?

2.) How does it make you feel about your self?

3.) What do you think you deserve in life and love?

4.) Are you getting it?

5.) What is hurt? Pride? Self worth?

6.) Does he define who you are?

7.)Why?

8.) You are still a child, with big emotions true, but you have so much to learn still.

This is part of it.

9.) When we don't get what we want, often it is because there is a lesson we have to learn. We keep repeating the same mistakes till we learn the lesson.

10.)So what is the lesson?

When we are truthful, we listen to the answers. And you have all the answers you just need to listen to them.

First) honor your emotions. Acknowledge them and let them pass or check out what is below the current one. For that a Journey Worker will be the best help for you. if your mom can help you find on in your area that would be very helpful for you.

So here are some the keys to happiness.

1.) I can control only what I do and how I react to what someone else does.

I can react in a negative way and hurt myself or in a positive way and help my self.

2.) The law of attraction says that what we focus on we will always get more of. So If you don't like what you are getting, CHANGE what you are thinking.

How?

Write down two columns of all the things you don't want.  On the  opposite side  re-word it to something you do want in your life.

Try to leave out words like don't, not and no.

example\negative statement

Don't panic,

Don’t forget

I don't want this to hurt.

Positive statements

Stay calm; Remember to....I'll be fine.

Most important.. What are you eating? You will need lots of vegetables and fruit. Cut out the sugar and chemical food for a bit and make sure you are taking vitamins and calcium, and some B complex that will help you with your brain chemistry. Get out to the house and run or walk fast, swim, be as active as you can.  Remember cut out the chemical foods and sugars. Let me know how you are doing. Express about how you feel give your self a time allotment to grieve like ten minutes to day less tomorrow. And so on  YOU control it.  Remember it is not about him it IS about you. Love your self take all that energy you are wasting and re focus on your self and love your self. You deserve the best. This is not the best for you are you would be happy. Think about it. What is this doing for you? Make a list of all the good it is bringing you.

Do something to make you feel good about your self every day. He is not your life, the best is yet to come, get ready for it

Answer 6

family therapy...

get help from a psychologist

cheese.....

lots of therapy from every1.......

u need a break like a day you n your brother can go do something together.

Answer 7

I know how you feel. What I tell you is this. You CAN revel in the pain for awhile but you have to understand that he is not the only boy on Earth. You're 13 and if you dont commit suicide you will be able to live longer to GET OVER it. What your friends are saying are true. Tell the boy the truth. I mean that you can't stand him ignoring you. Just continue to be friends. Or you can take a hobby just to let out your anger or depression. It worked for me. ^^  

Answer 8

I'm really sorry to hear that but you will move on. You are sooo young only 13 years old. You have the rest of your life to find another person. Also if this guy doesn't want to talk to you, than he doesn't deserve you. Just focus on more important things in your life like your true friends and family, people who actually love you and want to talk to you. Don't waste your time on this Andy. "Don't worry and be happy" before you know it you come across another guy who will most likely be better than Andy. Give it time and you will heal. Best of luck to you.  :)