I'm I making a big deal of this?

Question

Okay so I was at work my husband calls me to invite me out to lunch with him today, we hardly due lunch cause he works far from where I do. So he said he will pick me up at 1130a. I waited for him cause he always calls me and lets me know when hes outside and didn't want to call him cause i know it might take him few minutes to get here. so I called like 20min after to see whats up and he's like "where were you at I went and I didn't see your car out their so I left" I was like are you serious my car is park at the other side of the building cause we hired some more employees and our company parking lot is small so I have to park on the other side sometimes. I was like you always call me when your out their so why didn't you" he said I should of called him and let him know that I had park somewhere else" I told him that I didn't know he was taking my car out to lunch also" Omg! he pissed me off so bad I was really looking forward on us having lunch together I really felt bad and tears came out. He's a great guy and everything is that sometimes he act like an ***. Why are men like that what is wrong with them sometimes, what do they think. I'm I making a big deal about this, should I just forget about it?

Answer 1

well your right he could have called you if he didn't see you instead of just leaving..it probably made you feel like he put little effort into having lunch with you.something you two don't really get to do, but now that its happened and its over with i would let it go no sense in fighting over something you cant change.from now on just call him and say let me know when your outside,that way he cant say he didn't know.

Answer 2

Forget about it...obviously it was just an honest misunderstanding.

Answer 3

Let it go. Boys are dumb sometimes, and they do stupid things. As women, it's our job ot deal with this and tell them to shape up.

Don't worry you'l get over it.

Answer 4

men just dont think at all sometimes.  its ok, maybe instead of getting mad, make this a "learning experience" for him, thats what i do and it generally work out better cuz you dont get in a huge fight and each person learns what they can do to make the relationship stronger :)

Answer 5

IT WAS A LACK OF COMMUNICATION HUN.. ITLL BE OK..

Answer 6

I think you're both acting like children and that this is a pretty stupid discussion in the first place!  It sounds to me like there's another issue involved in this and maybe you guys need to have an adult discussion about it.

Answer 7

Eh. You should just blow it off. But he also should have called to let you know he was there. I know if I was going to pickup my gf from work and I didnt see her car I would have called her cell to see where she was and if she left without me.  

Answer 8

Frankly, you're both to blame.  You both made assumptions without attempting to confirm the facts, and then you blamed each other for not making the right assumptions or reading the other's mind.

You need to stop laying blame on each other, and start creating solutions.  Talk with your husband and agree that from now on, you call each other to confirm things instead of assuming - when he invites you to lunch, you should specify if you will meet him at the door or if he should call you when he arrives or if you should call him or whatever.

Answer 9

He should have been a bit more responsible.  I have timing issues as well.  If someone doesn't show up or call when they are over 20 minutes late, I leave.  They are the irresponsible ones.  Since he is your husband, I'd let it go this time.  But be sure he knows you were upset and that it should never happen that way again.

Answer 10

i get you..if a girl would have done something similar i would me mad about it. talk to him about it..he should understand...and plan a next lunch ASAP so you can finally have lunch

Answer 11

Yup. Just let it slide. It's a little thing. Little things don't matter.

Answer 12

He left a bit too easy . I would have thought he would have checked out why you weren't waiting for him before he just drove off. A simple phone call. To then turn round and blame you is wrong.

He needs to make it up to you. I would have been annoyed as well.

Answer 13

No, your not making a big deal about it. You were disappointed and I don't blame you. He should have called you right away when he got there and told you where he was so you could quickly find him..I have been married for 35 years and it does get better. Some men have a hard time with thinking about more than one thing at a time. My husband is an exception because he would have made sure he found me and we had lunch together. But, he was always like this. Even when we dated if he told me he would be some place at a certain time, he was always there. He never once let me down. But, I have friends who's husbands do this to them. Just so it never happens again, have a talk with him and tell him how bad you felt that you didn't get to have lunch with him. In the future he needs to remember to call you as soon as he gets there. Then give him reminders when the day comes when you can do this again. You have to give him credit for the thought though.  

Answer 14

It sounds like he was outside at 11:30 and you stood him up. Maybe you were too busy flirting with coworkers to realize what time it was.  

Answer 15

I think you are making too big a deal of it.

What you describe is a slight case of miscommunication.  It happens, there is not much you can do but learn from it.  You BOTH made incorrect assumptions (and you know what they say about making assumptions).  

Next time, you guys will be a bit more precise when it comes to planning

Answer 16

Totally let it go! Sometimes things like this just happen! If we make big deals out of little things all the time then we'd always be fighting! : )

Answer 17

You husband is being an idiot.

He makes a lunch date and, on the basis of not seeing your car, assumes you are not there? Please. That is about as lame as it gets.

He could have called you and said "I'm in the parking lot. Are you here? I don;t see your car."

He is 100% in the wrong, and I suspect he never showed.

If he took the trouble to drive out there, why would he just leave without making a simple phone call?

Very fishy if you ask me.

Answer 18

Ain't nobody dead---just shrug it off---not worth getting into a fight over.

Answer 19

Total miscommunication. Honestly, this is not a battle, just let it go...