I'm Jealous OF My Boyfriend.

Question

I'm jealous that he has a perfect life and family.

I'm jealous that he's going on a trip to California.

(That he asked me to go on with him, but I couldn't afford)

I'm jealous that he lives close to the beach.

(A personal thing that I've always wanted)

I'm jealous that he gets to go out with his family all the time.

I'm jealous he has a better personal life than me.

I feel less than him. I feel like there's competition.

Does anybody else feel this way?

Is it normal? What should I do to fix this?

I've tried talking to him about it and all he said was, "I can't really argue with you, my personal life is better."

Answer 1

Whoa he sounds like a s****. person judging from that last line. I think what you're feeling is normal. I too get jealous of my boyfriend because he has a much better social life than I do. I'm sitting at home in front of the computer doing homework, or I am at work and he's off with his buddies going to parties and going to the beach. I feel so crappy sometimes and, yes, little.

You just have accept it and try to make your own life a little better. Go find more friends. Join a club at your school or something. That's what I did and I feel a lot better. Don't get so down on yourself about this. K?

Answer 2

Somebody once said that "Love is not jealous".   Jealousy will not permit you to get closer to him, help him enjoy his family or anything else.   They call jealousy " The Green-Eyed Monster".  Sounds like you two need to talk about "where you're going in this relationship"--scary words.   He's comfortable with himself, and you are not the same way with yourself.  He doesn't seem to want to help you GET what you want, so what are you doing?   You can change what you do to get what you want--go to school to get the education, get the training, etc.  You can't change him.  Think about these things and talk to him about everything.  Good luck.

Answer 3

yea- i understand some. you shouldn't be jealous of the opportunities that he has, because if all works out to planned, they'll be all yours some day too. The one jealously that I have trouble getting over is the family. Mine is very dysfunctional and well his is pretty much perfect. I just have to remember that we are really one and it's me, not him. I don;t even say stuff to him about it because I don't want to put such a thing on his shoulder. I love him, so I am VERY happy for him.

Together 7 years, living together 2. Happy :)

Answer 4

it would be normal in any situation - you wish you had things that he has...what you need to be careful of is you need to not resent him for the things in his life that you covet.  aside from working on your own life to make yourself more comfortable with it - you can't "fix" how you feel about what you want out of life. instead of focusing on what he has that you want though - try focusing on what you have or how him being in your life makes it better :)