I'm PREGNANT and I miss my husband so much!!!!?

Question

I am about to be 4 months pregnant and It's been 3 months since the last time I seen my husband. I miss him so much and when I most need him, he is not here to enjoy are first baby together. He got punished 6-8 months because he was in the United States for more than a year. I called to see how his case is because I have not recieved anything in the mail and the lady told me that it has now been changed to 10-12 months. That is a long time. What should I do? I am a U.S. Citizen born in the United States.

I need my husband's support emotionally and physicaly. What number should I be calling, To whom should I send letters to and what else can I do to help myself? I do not want to get help from the government, but if I can't find a job I might have to.

My dr. had already told me that I should not work because too much stress can lead me to have a miscarriage. Please I am so depressed, I do not want to be around my family and constantly crying and I want to be happy for my 1st baby!

Answer 1

If you are not working and he is out of the country, why don't you go and be with him where he is?  You shouldn't be alone right now. As for not working, I mean there are a lot of pregnant women who work, working does not cause you to have a miscarriage! I worked through 2 pregnancies, yes it's stressful but you will only miscarry if something is wrong with the baby or you suffer some kind of serious trauma. The stress of everyday life is not enough to cause a miscarriage. How would countries like China and India be so populated, you think those people are stress-free?

Anyway, the re-entry ban- that's tough.  On the one hand, you might have prevented it if you knew that he was doing something illegal, you could have taken steps to get him legal as your spouse sooner. I know this because I know a few people who married people from out of the country.  Going out of the country yourself will not jeopardize your citizenship and/or your child's but if the conditions in your husband's country are not great with hospitals, medical care, etc maybe you need to stay for that reason alone. If those conditions are OK I say go where he is until you both can come back.

Answer 2

There is nothing you can do. You are now suffering the consequences of your foolish actions.

Answer 3

Oh god, this is deja vu for me, except I wasn't pregnant. My husband was "stuck" in his home country for four months, I did visit him at 2 months, but I still missed him terribly. If I were suddenly in the same situation, I know I would go and be with him. We have a two year old daughter and I am pregnant again, so I wouldnt want to be without him. We have now started a business in his country (which his parents run and benefit from) so that we have that if need-be and we are saving money here for a cushion if there is an emergency. So if something happend now, I know I would figure something out til I could get down to be with him. I personally also plan on going to school after I have this baby so that I can potentially make more money which will be helpful if we need me to be the sole-breadwinner. Personally I would stay with him, if possible, especially for his interviews/appointments with immigration. I know its a long time, but being seperate will be so much worse and make the time drag on longer than being together.

Answer 4

If he was illegal, you knew this when you made the baby.

You knew this could happen!

You aided a law breaker.

Go move to what ever country is in. Mexico?

Answer 5

Sadly there isnt much you can do.  I am going though the same thing right now I am ready to deliever in the next two weeks and we have a 3 yr old together.  He only got a 10-12 month ban from the Us ?  if that is true then that isnt bad.  It costs lots of money to hire a lawyer to keep him here believe me I checked into it and most of the time it woulnt work anyways.  The best thing is for him to go back wait out his ban and come back legally.  I can relate to  your emotional and physical upset its hard.  I am going though the same thing right now.