I'm So Scared That He'll Get Killed Like A Lot Of Teenage Boys..

Question

I am 17 and my best friend is 18. He is so special to me, he is like my brother. I love speaking to him and I couldn't imagine going one day without hearing his voice. We live in London and there has been so many stabbings lately, e.g Ben Kinsella, I knew lots of his friends. I am scared that one day I'm going to loose Christian to violence because it always seems to happen to the nicest calm people that have so many friends and loved ones. I will break down if I loose him but I don't know what else to do. I tell him all the time that I love him and he needs to be careful. He listens but I'm so scared. I don't wanna loose him. Am I over reacting, or causing his own fate or is this normal when you love someone so much..?

Answer 1

I guess it could be normal that u worry so much, but if he isn't in any trouble with anyone why would u be this worried. I just don't understand.

Answer 2

i completey no wot u mean but u gotta realise dat u cnt live in fear 4eva, i was in a gang an it was da worst days of my life, u neva stop thinkin "wot if" i am now out of it an it was the best fing eva, to be honest the media does not help the situation, i wrk wit kids an da only reason dey carry guns or knives is coz dey will get in da papers. it may seem like an everyday thing but really it aint if it happens it happens if not be thankful u lived another day. u cud get hit by a car or bus so dnt stress ova wot may neva happen. i lost loadsa mates wen i was wlkin da streets but u realsie dat its life an u have to carry on no mata wot, u just as likely to get stabbed as he is. watch ur own safety first rather than worry bout sum1 else. beleive it wil control ur life if u cary on. there are more nice ppl than bad remember that. x x x  

Answer 3

I think he'll appreciate your concerns to a certain extent, but too much might push him away..x I would say move house! But there's no where in this world that's safe any more...x Sad eh? Just express your feelings to him, and he'll take the precautions he needs to take. But don't let this fear ruin your life, you have a lot to live for! :)

Answer 4

Firstly, it doesn't happen to the nicest people - it mainly happens to gangsters and $hitheads and other bad people.

2. The news exagerates things... you are more likely to die from car traffic accident etc...

3. There is a lot of violence in the world t- I have seen people getting their heads kicked in by gangs, stabbed with bottles, mugged, etc... I even was almost killed myslef once I had to go to hospital and now I have a scar on my face... but in a way in was my fault because of my drunkennes..

Basically what I am saying is there are never any guarantees in life (about anything) but if your friend stays away from bad people, crime, drugs, alcohol (drinking to excess) the chances of this happening to him are very small... if he gets invloved with this kind of shitt the chabces of trouble increase geometrically

Answer 5

You are over-reacting and need to seek professional help.

Answer 6

wow you over react so much, buy him some body armour if your that worried, but i reckon you are just obsessed with this guy, and wouldd be obsessed if you lived in a tiny little tunnel under the the sea, with pixies and angels and lovely cups  tea, you'd think he was going to get a pixie preggers or choke on his cup of tea.

get over it.

Answer 7

I can see that you do love him.  There is nothing wrong with loving someone.  You are, however, over-reacting.  No one in this world has a guarantee that we will see tomorrow, including you.  Don't let your fear for his life cause you to lose your focus.  Instead focus on your friend and your love for him.  Focus on growing the relationship and look for the positive.  

I don't believe you can bring harm to anyone by simply worrying about them and I don't believe you can love someone too much.

Let him know your fears and be open to his feelings.  You are too young to have these worries and it can't be good for him to carry the burden of your concerns.

Your young.  Learn to live right now and enjoy your friendship.  Worry about life's end when your 80!  Good Luck!