I'm a 16 year old mother of 2.soon to be three. Is it strange that I want to have 10 kids before I'm 30?

Question

Not married. I really don't want to be. I am a leaf. Wind blow I'm in different places. Marriage will never work out for me. but I was once engaged,.

Answer 1

i think however you want to live your life you should. but you should also have fun with the kids they grow up so fast. just be careful kids cost alot. good luck just be a good mom thats the best thing you can do

Answer 2

for one u are sooo young and u should be focusing on SCHOOL COLLEGE and a future for your children u have NOW in the world before bringing more in the world with no plans...i think u should consider looking for a mate also...and BIRTHCONTROL!

Answer 3

What are you going to do when those 10 kids go to college?  What about you going to college.  This isn't the 1800's little girl.  I think you need to take a hard look at your future and the future of those babies your popping out.  I'm married with 3 kids and struggle to give them the things they need.   What if there are special needs?  How are you going to pay for things like glasses and braces.  What if a child is born with Downs, Autism,  etc how will you pay for that?  Love is free and I don't doubt that you would love all those kids but there is alot more to raising children than love.  I sugguest you give yourself a break.

Answer 4

Not too sure if I believe you.

Answer 5

Although I only have one biological son, and I do not necessarily advocate having children in your teens----well, why the h**l not?

I LOVE being a mom.  I did not have my first until I was 37 and you know what?  I will forever regret waiting so long and not being able to have more.  I had an easy pregnancy and natural delivery and everything about being pregnant just seemed so right.  I'm still trying to talk my husband into having more even though he already had two boys  (now 18 and 27) from two previous relationships--our new son is 2.  

I often tell him (and everyone else) that he's probably lucky I had not met him sooner because he makes such spectacularly beautiful children, I would have had 10!  (They ARE all beautiful too-- the two older sons have both modeled as children and as adults and my youngest is sunny blonde with blue eyes and freckles--"classic boy next door".

I hope you have a support system though and do not intend to rely on our tax money to support you and your herd of children--that is wrong and unfair, regardless of how much you want to parent.  Still, there is nothing wrong with having many children--I come from a very large all-American family:  my dad is the oldest of 9 (French/English roots) and my mom was the oldest of 6 (German/ Dutch and HER dad/my grandfather is a minister).  My family on both sides is not poor, but not rich either--just comfortable, loving, and supportive, middle America--minister's family on one side and farmers on my dad's side.  No welfare here at all.  We've all gone on to college too.  I am the oldest of 27 grandchildren in the family and my youngest son is one of 9 great-grandkids.  Big families are wonderful.

Don't feel strange for wanting to have a large family.  Still, it's easier with a loving supportive family and a good partner to help you out (so you don't have to be the "mean parent" all the time!)  I'd advise you to find that partner before the growing number of kids under your care scares him off.  :)

I'm not talking down to you--just being realistic.  You're very young.  Do you understand the costs?  What kind of life do you want for your kids?  Even if you just want to be a mom forever, are they doomed to that too, or can you see them all--all the way through college?  I only have one and I'M worried about sports, tutors, clothes, and college over the next 18 years--and I have a partner, a college degree, a 2-income family, etc.  Can you do it?  Or is it just for you and to satisfy your own ego?

Go ahead and have 10.  Just be responsible about it.  And good luck.

PS:  To all you judgemental folks out there--there are plenty of cultures that don't bat an eye at large families or starting families at a young age.  16 is pretty young, but what's done is done.  I also don't think it's all about seeking attention either or not being loved ourselves and seeking love through our children.  I think some women are just born to be good bountiful mothers.  Once upon a time, women were valued more for having many children.  Even now, children are usually seen as a blessing, not a hardship.  Besides, little miss here may change her mind.

Don't hate so much.  Everyone is entitled to make their own choices.  We should nurture more as a society.

Answer 6

Is this question even real? If it is I think it is very strange. =) I mean lots of people want kids but 10! Before you're thirty?? I don't think your body or fiance's at this age could handle either.

Answer 7

Shut the h**l up

Answer 8

I had my first child at 17 BUT i was living with my bf of the time who is now my fiance and i was also out of school and working!

You saying your like a 'leaf' is just imature to me it says you want to have lot's of kids but dont care that there all from diffrent dads...what happens if you have 10 kids from multiple men they grow up and start asking why they all look totally diffrent??

Are you going to tell them the truth.." mummys like a leaf i just kept floating to the next man to get knocked up with the next baby"

Also being 16 and still in school who is looking after these babies? and i'm guessing you dont have a job either so who supports them?

Your not a mother your just a human incubator... the people who are raising your kids and paying for them are the real 'parents'.

Take responsability for the 3 you have, keep your legs closed or get birth control, finnish school and grow up before you even THINK of having anymore babies.

Also you said in your additional info that your not trying to get pregnant your just not using protection...get checked for AIDS and STDS you most likely have something!

Answer 9

Those poor kids.

Answer 10

You sound so immature its not even funny...its really quite ridiculous. You should not be having kids on PURPOSE at this age and yes I said on purpose cause you are if you are being irresponsible and not using protection. I feel bad for you babies cause I really doubt with you being that young that you are even giving them the attention that they need and thats really sad. I know there is no way you can support that many babies at your age unless your on welfare and even thats not enough for them. You need to go see a counselor or something! I would advise that you get on birth control as soon as you have this baby and start being a responsible person!

By the way if your a "leaf" that goes in different directions then you shouldn't be having children to drag down with you. Do they even have the same dad...ugh your gonna be one of those girls on Maury with all these men to be tested...

Answer 11

sweet heart no disrescpect. but a sixteen i think that you should slow down on the babies if you already have three i think you you should stop there for a while until you can mature a little more. with you saying your blowing in different directions and your not ready to be married i think you should wait. because these babies in return are affected by any desicions or directions you decide to blow in. think about it do you really want to be a mother of ten at 30 by your self. ask yourself how will you support them who will watch them. i am a mother of one with one on the way and i have a husband living with me and it is still hard. i could not imagine 10 kids. slow down baby girl take care of the ones you already have and put the extra kids on hold until you get out of school and are married or at least have a solid foundation for these kids!! much love

Answer 12

Wow. I can't even imagine 10 kids! I have 2 and that's plenty for me! I think you are very brave. If you can handle it emotionally and financially, I don't think it's odd. Are you married or at least in a commited relationship with the father? That makes a little bit of a difference in my eyes.

EDIT:: Seing your most recent added information, it might be a little odd. I have 4 cousins that all have different fathers but the same mother. It's been a hardship to them. It wouldn't be fair to do that to 10 kids. If you're a "leaf", that in itself will be hard on the children if you are always moving different places and doing different things. I think after this 3rd one, you should slow down a bit.

Answer 13

yes...i don't think a 16 year old kid should have one kid (of course...things happen....) nevermind 3...in my opinion

Answer 14

Well what i would say to you is that i actually find it rather sad to tell you the truth.

16 and wants 10 kids already having 2, wow!!!

From reading that alone i would be inclined to believe that you have not received much love in your life and this is a way to get it, and the more you have you might think the more love you will feel and therefore be able to give in return???

Apart from that i cannot understand why a 16 yr old girl would want 10 kids b4 30 ????

Instead of thinking of yourself and what you want, why not consider these poor children and what they need and want, after all your need or desire to have all these kids is a very selfish act i must say, and not wanting to be married etc... all i hope is that you have the same father at least for the kids sake as children look up to their parents as role models and what kind of role model are you setting for them???

Stop thinking of you and think of these innocent lives you are brining into the world...

Complete selfishness on your poart i must say, but at 16 i guess its expected isnt it !!!!

Shelly

Answer 15

yeah

Answer 16

After you have this third one.. glue your legs together!!!!!

Seriously! This is ridiculous. You're just like my mother. Oh by the way how are ya? Stop this madness!! On tha real,stop. Those kids will only end up getting hurt just like I am now. you don't have a boyfriend and you're free loading off of your friends. They must be very good friends at that. Just relax.. Breathe. Those two babies and the one on the way, you can give them all the love you want. Will have enough love to give 10? what happens if you have 10 and you're 27.. And decide,(Well I'm not 30 yet I can have more?) what would you do then?

Answer 17

I'm a single 31 yr old with just one kid and I find it hard to support us, Please share your secrets. I'd love to have more kids I agree the more the merrier as long as you are supporting them and not your parents or the government. Also how old were you when you finished school, you must be very smart to finish so early.

Assuming that this question if real.