I'm a 21 year old female, who would b a good role model 4 me?

Question

my mother died of cancer when i was 7, and we wont even talk about my father or relatives. lets just say it was all very disfunctional. i havent had any real female influences in my life beside "s*x in the city" LOL. i currently work as a receptionist/clerical assistant at a real estate investment company and i am trying 2 get a degree in business. between working 2 pay 4 both my apartment/living expenses and school i've just become sooo tired. i would really luv 2 have a female role model, so is there anyone u can suggest that i can learn about, and who can b an inspiration 2 me?

it doesnt even have 2 b someone in business, but a strong female influence who i can have as a role model.

Answer 1

I would recommend Maya Angelou an American writer, she survived a really tough childhood and early adult life to become a singer, actress, activist, and writer.

Her first book I Know why Caged Birds Sing is very moving showing how regardless of our childhood we can overcome the most appalling start in life and reach our full potential.

Answer 2

benazir bhutto

oprah winfrey

the founder and ceo of zerox

Answer 3

Kim Kardashian

Answer 4

I don't think you need a role model,just a good friend or someone who will listen to you.

You're probably as strong or stronger than most of the people you'd like to emulate.

Would you consider volunteering for a support group,someone with your qualities could be a real asset?

Answer 5

What about taking a women's history course and learning about the lives of great women in history? There are plenty out there to choose from and to select a role model from...

Other suggestions:

You can look around your office and see if there's someone there in the upper ranks who impresses you. Read trade publications in an area that interests you and look for articles on prominent women.

Answer 6

Hey Baby Doll,

my mom died too and I often feel alone and empty. I haven't found an answer and I don't think there really is one.

I do agree with others here that for a role model/s, you can do well to look to include yourself as one. Just think of your highest and best self, the person you truely want to be. Try to remember your best moments when you are most happy with yourself and proud of yourself. (Maybe you yourself can be a friend and role model for a girl going through it too.)

I have found that it helps to make friends with some older women who I like and admire.

You may also want to meet other girls and women who also lost their mothers and who can definately relate, Here are some yahoo discussion groups below that you may want to check out.

Good luck and I wish you all the best. Please feel free to write me if you like.

*hugs*

sigy

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Answer 7

Sounds like you're one h**l of a role model yourself! I was nowhere near as responsible as you appear to be at your age. Way to be strong after being dealt a crappy hand at life. Keep up the good work!  

Answer 8

A negative aspect (not that there are good aspects) of losing a parent at such a young age is that you only hear the good things about them, their flaws and shortcomings are often forgotten and ignored. Whether we have role models or not, we will have to learn from our own mistakes and give ourselves permission to s***w up from time to time. It's helpful to be strong, but remember than true strength comes from vulnerability. Find a role model whose personal life is filled with love and functional relationships. Also, famous women are not good role models - we only see what they show.

Answer 9

Its hard to choose for someone, you just have to see in what you believe in and figure it out.  

Answer 10

Say.. i might not have a role model but i am who i am today because of the disfuncional life i had when i was younger and the fact i have had no real women role models in my life makes me even more determind to be that women who i have never had :) x

Answer 11

Golda Meir, Margaret Thatcher, Sarah Palin, and Condoleeza Rice.

Answer 12

i'm sorry you lost your mom , maybe a teacher , a relative you do talk to like an aunt ,your older sister (if you have one cause I don't),maybe your grandmother, hope I helped or maybe some hints .ttyl

Answer 13

CoCo Chanel

Liz Claiborne

Answer 14

well I wouldnt recommend emulating her sexual behaviour but Lil Kim is a VERY strong woman, at least she appears to be, and she has inspired me to believe in myself.....at lot....its like she thinks shes she sh***t and nothing can hold her down.....I dont know what shes like in real life but in her rapping that is defo how she comes accross...and she is fu****king talented at rapping too.....never known any female to be as original as her.....

Answer 15

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. It sounds like you've grown up in a difficult environment and have worked really hard to make the best of it. It's not easy living on your own and being in school at the same time, and it's taken a lot of strength for you to get this far.

I was fortunate to have women around me who served as role models in my family, but to be honest, they were not the best role models I could have had. I've often looked elsewhere to women I trust as role models and have had to discover what being a women means to me.

Most of my friends, peers, teachers and even employers have been mentors and role models to me. I've found it more helpful to look at a variety of women than to base my identity on a single person.

I suggest reading Phenomenal woman by Maya Angelou. It helped me a lot. It might give you some ideas.

Answer 16

Nobody.Find your own strengths,and you'll know the 'real' you.

Answer 17

Jesus

Answer 18

carrie bradshaw lol! shes a fantastic  

Answer 19

And if you try to be yourself ? I'm sure that you must be really "woman" by the eyes of the other people.

Answer 20

I'm sorry about your mom. I would have to say the Heavenly Father and Creator of all human life would and should be your first role model. He has a squeaky clean record! And he has excelled in everything He's ever done! But aside of that, if you have anyone in your family that is not dysfunctional and that has a good outlook on life and accomplishing great things, look up to them. Someone famous would have to be Maya Angelou, Oprah, or Christina Aguilera- she seems like a good role model and doing good for herslf. You don't want to look up to Britney or Lindsay.