I'm a Christian but I rededicated my faith yesterday at the Harvest Crusade at Anaheim but Im still tempted?

Question

I live in Orange County and i go to college here and it is so hard to not view girls in a sexualized way...I realize I have a problem and i'm trying to find answers to put it away so that I don't have to deal with sleepless nights anymore and I don't have to deal with problems of not looking women right in the eye.

I now realize its downright nasty and disrespectful to look at girls and women in a perverted wat and there's more to them than just **** and racks.

But I still have this strong temptation, how do I deal with it?

Do Christians deal with it regularly?

Some of my friends and mature people I know had several girlfriends and had premarital s*x and still have it...how do I not use them as an excuse and break away from sexual urges. I keep telling myself "oh they had all the girlfriends and all the s*x and now he turned his life around and got away scot free and oh he's married so he can have all the s*x he wants with his wife"....it is soooo wrong how do I break away from that type of thinking and mentality

My friends go to the beach and hang out and stuff and they take me and it is soooo hard to not look at girls and women there with almost naked bodies running around

I have this desire for companionship and intimacy...to be loved, to be hugged, to just love a woman...is it wrong?

So as a Christian, how do I deal with it? im truly struggling

Answer 1

We all have imperfect thoughts--its human.  Place each thought in Christ's hands and let Him rid of the negative in your mind.

No one has arrived!  We are all a work in progress, keep striving forward, and forgive yourself when you slip up.

Peace and love to you.

Answer 2

lock your self in a room with a bible...

just kidding

God made women and men to be desireable

if we werent like that there wouldnt be any people

pray, fast, and read the word.  If you do have s*x than you have to realize that jesus dies for us on the cross because we are imperfect

and we need the chance torepent

youll be ok

women do look good!!!  U would be wrong if you looked at men in a sexuall way.

Answer 3

Look - We are not meat, we are human! When guys look at me like that I feel just awful...and my hubby has to hold me back most of the times (seriously)

You have to RESPECT us! Yes, we might look pretty...but first off, think if the person your staring and ogling at is a BEAUTIFUL PERSON!!! (aka - kind to others!) Physical beauty is NOTHING!

We all come from a putrid drop, we are to be returned to the earth as dust and bones - nothing more. Beauty fades. I suggest you talk to your preacher as well.  

Answer 4

I live by the beach in OC also.  There are LOTS of hot girls around here.  Why question your feelings?  They're hot & barely clothed.  Big deal.  Of course you're thinking of s*x.  I'm not a "Christian" so I maybe I don't get it.  If I was a young guy I'd probably be having s*x with whoever let me :-)

Answer 5

The evil side of the world is very strong and humans are naturally weak so temptations are easy to follow, so this is where faith in your religion must be strong and takes over where you cant. Just follow what you know is right and God will take care of the rest. Evil temptation tests us all and many fail because they dont believe in themselves and God. Just do what you feel is right and remember we are only human so we do fail at times since we are not perfect