I'm a female (in love with a married woman)?

Question

I met her about 7 months ago, we worked in the same place, it wasn't a love at first sight thing, i didn't really like her when we first met, but after a few weeks i started to get feelings for her. I've now let myself get into a impossible position, i'm so in love with everything about her, she's married and has been with her husband for 4 years. I'd probably be able to let her go and move on if i didn't think there was a chance she likes me too. The way she looks at me, tries to get close to me, i know it's not in my head, i really want to get over this, i don't want to be responsible for putting an end to her marriage. But i also want her to be happy. Can anyone shed some light on why she acts like this around me? Is she g*y? Or is there something else going on?

Answer 1

Keep things status quo & let her come to you when she's ready.  You can subtly let her know you're interested without coming onto her so that she doesn't feel like she'll be rejected.  If she is that interested, she will come to you when she's ready...

Answer 2

Sounds like she is curious enough to make the plunge soon.  

Please remember: cardinal rule of straight dames-  let her make first move!

Answer 3

You've put yourself in in a difficult position. Does she feel the same way about you ? How do you know she would be willing to quit her her husband for you ? You are walking on shallow waters now. Ask her what she feels towards you before taking a long ( and lethal ) leap.

Answer 4

well, from what you say, sounds like you are sensing a sexual attraction between you and her.  you are quite aware of it, she may not be, or may just be coming to terms with the whole idea...

you are headed for grief and tumultuous times, messing with a married woman.  you yourself call it an impossible situation.  and i get the idea you know that you are heading for trouble.  just think long and hard about the whole thing.  try as best you can to see the end in the beginning...

go slowly and carefully...and make sure that what may just end up being a passing romance, or meaningless flirtation, doesn't end up being a hornets' nest.  she IS married...and do you still work together?  that could put either or both of your jobs on the line...

and remember...you have not talked to this woman about this yet, i don't think...so you are not really sure if she even returns your feelings, or indeed, if she has any interest in you at all.

take care, and best wishes...you have a tough one here.

Answer 5

does she know ur g*y? she may jus see u as a girlfriend, or a friend, if she knows that ur g*y she may be coming onto u, but regardless of what shes doing, u shud respect the marriage shes in, an jus be a friend to her. ♥