I'm a loner,,,?

Question

ok so I am a loner because I dont really like hanging around people in my age group (12-14) it's not really that I feel "supierior" or think I am "better" then every one else. it's because I feel more mature for example: I am quite I like to read, listen to music that isn't stuff like miley cirus or the jonas brothers (I hate them!!!) and I actually like to talk about things such as polotics (I am bright for my age). while my friends are a little loud (some of which are obnoxious), the aren't patient, they hate reading for fun, they like those disney channel bands or bands that just sound good even if they dont know what they're talking about, and all they talk about are s*x, drugs, or boring stories (like getting hurt; also they have never had s*x or done drugs before)...

any ways I am a bit of a loner because of this and I am worrying my mother, what should I do?

Answer 1

yep i know what your passing through

i sometimes feel like you

but i differ in some ways like the boring stories

every one has a story to tell maybe yours is still unwritten

Answer 2

join a club or something that has kids that like to do the same things that you do.

Good Luck!

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Answer 3

So what if you are a loner, its not your fault you are more 'mature'. Do what you think is right, dont worry what your mother has to say. Your a loner now but if you look at it really, Edgar Allen Poe and ect. were all loners and now they are famous!!

Answer 4

Find some friends you can actually relate to.

Answer 5

I kinda get where your coming from but it's hard at their age to have absolutely nothing in common with them. Are you a girl or a guy because if your a guy it shouldn't matter that much because most of the stuff in their heads is sports and girls. If you're a girl, although there are many girls who love disney stuff I'm sure there are some who dislike it. Find them! As for politics, at 12-15 most kids don't really have a very detailed opinion in politics.

My advice is just lighten up and try to find stuff that you can relate to with people if you ignore them they WILL think you think your better than them. And by the time your in high school people will get more mature and actually do drugs and s*x. It sucks being a loner and you might end up missing out on a lot of things. It's great that your mature for your age if your nice about it people might actually look up to you.

Answer 6

i have friends like that.

My friend (lets call her taylor) finished a book in 2 hours just so she could get the next one.

but shes also friends with people who have done drugs, smoked, and things of other nature. (if you know what i mean)

and if your worried about your mom, let that stay at home or find someone you can talk  about it with.

but don't let your differences stop you, you could have something in common that you don't even realise

Answer 7

If your not bothered by it then the best thing to do is be yourself = )  Show your mom that your happy this way or ask her if you can get involved in more adult activities, aka places where you would meet more mature people.

Answer 8

Compromise.  If you take interest in things you don't care for then people will take interest in what you like.  If you don't, I am sure I'll hear on the news, a story about you where the neighbors say "He was a loner.. Always kept to himself, until...."

Answer 9

LOL

I'm exactly like you. but I still have friends.

I mean I read for fun, converse about very controversial things such as religion etc.

I think it's the type of people you hang around with, you're not a loner, you're an introvert like me, just find better friends. Man! I hate Disney band, I'm more into oldies rock like Black Sabbath and Guns N' Roses. =D

Plus, I'm pretty mature for my age too, I'm 16.

And talking about s*x, drugs and other people's business all the time shows that they are narrow minded, plus I hate people who smokes.

Answer 10

get a gf

Answer 11

you probably are more mentally developed than most others your age, we all develop at different times around this age, so wait a bit and theyll grow up soon too, in the mean time try joining a debate club or political party club in your area to meet more kids with similar interests.

Answer 12

Just sit down and talk to your mom and tell her how you feel, for example you have a better head on your shoulders, and you like to read (which is fantastic), you're not interested in hearing about s*x,drugs, or anything the kids your age wishes to talk about, and if its ok with her, you would rather be you, than try to join in with your friends, that 10 chances to1 they have no idea what they are talking about most of the time,you would rather keep learning all you can, so when you're grown up ,you'll have enough education behind you that you can do anything you set your mind to do, explain to her also, that you are fine, as far as that goes, you just think there's more to life than what your friends thinks there is, and I'm so proud of you.Keep up the good work!You can enjoy your life the way God intended you to, w/o putting yourself thru any needless conversations that doesn't amount to a hill of beans(that doesn't make sense).God Bless You!Enjoy your life!And young man YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN ALONE!  GOD IS ALWAYS RIGHT THERE BESIDE YOU!

Answer 13

Dude, ANYTHING that is even the slightest bit different from the norm worries a mum.

Let her worry.  She will quit after a bit when she realises that you are fine the way your are.  

And bein a loner is fine.  Loners are more self sufficient, can entertain themselves, and don't easily succumb to peer pressure.

There's a lotta advantages of bein a loner.....stay just like you are.

Answer 14

if you dont make friends, your going to end up becoming a loner. Make friends now, but dont talk much. Just hang out. When you get to High School, you should be able to have more friends because most of the kids will be more mature. Just try and make it through middle school.

Answer 15

be your self find people that like the same things as you

Answer 16

Wow. You sound like me. Well, half. I love to read. But I'm not quiet. I only listen to classic, old, or unknown bands. I can get anoyed of my loud and obnoxious friends at times, too. But I find myself talking to my friends about a variety of things like:

-going green

-religion especially

-s*x

-drugs

-gossip

I have always been more mature than my other friends but from what I've learned, eventually, they will become more mature aswell. Just hang in there. And you have friends, so you're no a loner.

Good luck,

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Answer 17

mabey you can try to do stuff that they

like and you can show them some cool

stuff you like to do i know i am a mix of

you and the other people so mabey

try to do nuteral stuff and as for your

mom explain to her what you just typed

sorry its not the most straight forward advice

Answer 18

make friends with ppl who share your interests

Answer 19

Kev Hello Any One different concern peers & Parents. Reason - Lonely people r often sad. Mom no doubt has experience with this - ask.  Happy peeps get along. OK U feel Mature, great the smartest people read. Moms want U 2 stay safe thru life, Set Limits w/ immature & make friends.

Answer 20

us loner's have got to stick together,

forget your mother. they compare us to them

and they think we are dying because of it.

well we arent, just struggling with it,

my friends are like that too. well now i have nobody, but you get my point, they are no where near mature like you are. so, just go on being yourself. they will catch up

email me if you want to talk,

answer mine?

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Answer 21

dont worry- do what makes you happy.

its good that you dont fall into the mainstream since its not considered to be the most intelligent category-

Answer 22

find people like you and b friends w/ them

Answer 23

You should find people who like to read, and talk about the things you like. Try joining a club at school. I am in a club at mine called "Knowledge Masters Open" aka KMO. We are all very bright for our age, enjoy reading and such. That's where I found all my friends. If you join a club about something you are interested in, you will find people who like it as well. Hope this helps.

xoxo

Answer 24

If you are SO bright, and you POLITICS, then why can't you spell it right, or use capitalization?

And plus then you are NOT a loner because you just said 'my friends are a little'...

Answer 25

♥git new friends you can relate to duhh!!

Answer 26

highschool will be better, you'll meet other people just like you.

Answer 27

i was like that too and didnt have friends alot when i was younger cause every1 was stupid to me... there is nothign wrong with being a loner, once u find the right people to be friends with you will not feel such a loner. i was in 9th grade before i found some1 to be comfortable with and we are still friends today and talk everyday.