I'm a loner & im sick of it. what should i do?

Question

i'm 14 and i started 8th grade yesterday and the first day was great. but today was pretty much horrible and i thought this year would be the best yet, but i can tell its not going to be so great. in my math class i met this new girl who is like exactly like me [not litterally] like style & all our hobbies, etc. but she is only in my one class, and she already has a TON of friends & me & her call each other best friends but it dosent seem like that; all the ppl shes friends w/ are either ppl i dont know & they dont wanna get to know me, or people i just dont like, and dont get along with. i dont care WHO she is friends with, but its like she has so much more fun w/ them && i feel so left out and like im an annoying tag along when im w/ them.

all my life when i've been w/ groups of people or friends i've ALWAYS felt left out or like an annoying invisible tag a long.

im soooo glad i met this girl cause we both know were gonna be great friends, but i dont wanna be left out all the time.

and also i dont get along w/ over half the people in my school, either they dont know me, & dont wanna get to know me, or they dont like me, & i dont like them.

i have alot of friends, but we dont really have any classes, or anything in common w/ each other and i would rather have 5 super close friends than 20 ones that i dont even know why im friends w/ them/

what should i do??

im tired of being left out when im in a group, how do i stop that w/out being annoying, and how do i stop being left out & make some ppl like me or get to know me & me get to know more ppl.

im not some weirdo at all or anything. the close friends i DO have say im awesome & anyone who dosent know me or like me hasnt started living yet.

but idk

i want my last year of middle school to be awesome, before going to high school where it will probably be HARDER to find close friends

Answer 1

start talking to other people, aim for the loners too

Answer 2

okay you should maybe talk to her and be like:

"look, you are really the only person i really want to hang out with but you have all your friends and i don't know them all so could you maybe introduce me? because i feel like i am annoying and i don't want you to feel the same way."

just try it and i hope this helped :)

Answer 3

Be yourself only try to talk to people. Read the book by Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence people. Introduce yourself. Find things ahead of time to talk about that everyone has an answer to. Hobbies, brothers/sisters/mother/father (be prepared for single parent families), divorce, boy/girlfriends, movies, etc... Once you start the rest is easy.

I started with my hobby, billiards. Plenty of people play, and it's complicated yet simple. Like chess.

You have to make the attempt but once you try you can get out of your shell. Especially since you know what you want. Also, don't say that people don't like you. Not only is it probably not true, but there are lots, and I mean lots, of people in exactly the same boat.

Break the ice. Take the first step, talk to anyone and everyone. If you only want 5 close friends that's great. But when you go to a party and none of those 5 are there, be ready to talk or go home.

Good luck.

Answer 4

okayy... you need to speak up show people who you are, and be noticed. if you wanna make friends you have to just start talking to them seeing there profile and then go on from there. and with you and your friends group just dont go near them if you dont like them, she should understand that you dont want to hang out with them. and if you do you need to let people see you dont be in the back be the center of attention. not acting dumb, be who you are but show everone who you really are too.

hope i helped

Answer 5

act cool...

keep ur head up

Answer 6

Hey I just started 8th grade too, about a week ago. Anyways I feel the same way was you except I was new last year and a lot of people just came to me and we became friends over some months. But then I overheard some of them talking about me and I just fell right back into my shell. I didn't wanna talk to them cuz its like talking to someone you don't know since I thought that I finally found friends and felt like I fit in after so long. I felt so sad and I still have a little bit of that left in me but I'm trying to learn how to move on and am praying that I'll find better friends next year in high school who will make me feel good and like I belong.

But yea some of the "friends" are still fake now and act as if they never even knew me or weren't the ones dying to be my friend. They act as if I'm just some type of awkward creature that they should stay away from and I hate it cuz they make you think that they like you and all that but then you find out that it was only temporary but I guess its whatever I mean every person that comes in your life isn't necessarily meant to be there forever, you know?

To answer your question about getting to know more poeple just be yourself don't talk excessively, since for most people its annoying. Be friendly and try to just start talking and appear outgoing and smile. Don't come up in there showing some sense of a bad attitude on your face. People will stay away from you. I've been seeing it with some of the new people this year and so far no one wants to talk to them.

As for having fun your last year, just keep you close friends close and make sure that everyone you consider a true friend is real cuz it sucks when you find out they're not. As long as you have them you should have fun. I wish I was as lucky as you who actually has close friends to be with I pretty much drifted apart from potential poeple since evreyone just decided that they didn't wanna talk to me and schedule problems =[[ Also another thing for me is that sicne everything that happened last year, its just been hard for me to just talk or something and cuz I'm ignored sometimes [not purposely though] People always tell me I'm so quiet or I never say anything and I'm trying to get past that and get back to my old self and I think I'm getting there but I still have ways to go.

Anyways enough rambling on myself, I hope everything works out for you and I hope this helped you somehow.

Good luck =]

PS: if you happen to find good ways on becoming likeable, etc. would mind sending some info to me?

Thanks and sorry again for the rambling =/

Answer 7

become a w***e

Answer 8

oh hon im so sorry  i was exactly the same way and i still pretty much am you really just need to break out of your shell and try to talk. Get involved in the conversation i am not much help cause im still like that GOOD LUCK!