I'm a loser (helping the homeless)?

Question

I don't know how to interact with people. I'm at college and was told that in order to come out of my shell, I should join clubs. So I signed up for this "Helping the Homeless" thing where several people from my school meet with homeless people in this certain house and play games, have food, etc.

I got an e-mail telling me to meet with everyone in a certain dorm to arrange plans for tomorrow's homeless thing. When I got there, I was the only female. The five or six guys were all sophomores and were way more intelligent than me. I had nothing to talk about, came off as a snob, and am debating on whether or not to go to this thing tomorrow.

What should I do? I don't want to be the awkward girl in the corner while they're trying to play cards and cook bbq with these unfortunate people. They say interacting gets easier the more you do it, but I'm not so sure about that. It took everything I had to go meet them today... I was fighting off anxiety the entire walk there.

Answer 1

Honey you are not a loser, you are going through enormous changes that you are not use to, and this is where the anxiety/panic attacks come into it, I too suffer from them.  But believe me, if you stick with it, and yes it will take time, you will enjoy what you are doing and achieving, besides helping other people, who have been through h**l and back, you will be helping yourself, and that satisfaction alone in one huge acomplishment.

It is hard, I don't doubt that, but keep doing this as much as it is causing you anxiety at the moment, those feelings will pass, I promise you that, you cannot die from anxiety or panic attacks, but you will learn to control them, also if you keep busy this will help as well.

I wish you all the best, and yes I know it is bloody hard, and you feel left out at the moment, but give it time honey, you will feel great.

Take time in getting to know these people, ask them about their lives, what they wish to do, or tell them about your life, dreams and goals.

You may just be suprised, not only will you be helping and healing these people, the sophomores (not sure what that is as I'm from  Australia) may help you as well.  We have these things to happen to us for a reason, and I for one believe in fate.

Please honey stick with it for a while, and you will suceed.

I hope all goes well for you, and pls drop me a line and let me know how you go. ok.

So keep that head held high, and keep going forward.

Have an excellent day, and smile you are a special person, with special gifts to help others.

Minny :-)

Answer 2

If your that uncomfortable and nobody is talking to you or even acts like there liking you I would just not go.

But if there trying to communicate with you.. Keep going for awhile and see what happens

Answer 3

What you will end up geting out of helping people is more valuable to you and so don't give up. How about if you bring up the topics that you are more familiar with? Or maybe you can join more groups, and see which one/ones suit you more. For example, have you ever found that you are not as hopeless at a subject in school, only to find out later that it is just the teacher's way of teaching  and your way of learning that didn't quite match?  I am sure you will get there.

Answer 4

go!!! you made the first step by going, and you fought off your anxiety. and how do you know these guys are more intelligent then you, any way? Sometimes when a situation is kind of intimidating me and I'm not sure what to say, I at least smile. and I try to stand at an open stance and not cross my arms and legs. That way if i'm silent i'm still giving off the vibe that I'm friendly and approachable. get involved and ask questions as well. you have nothing to lose but that shell you are hiding in.

Answer 5

You should stick with it.

Not just because of the interaction but the good you'd be doing out of it.

You should also stick with it because running away from this will only make it harder the next time, you'll develop a habit of running away from things when they get difficult.

Just stay calm, first impressions aren't always great.

They'll get to know you and see how great of a person you are and vise versa. Those people might also be there for the same reason you are...that and helping the homeless.

Talk about things you like or recent movies/things you've seen/done. Ask them about their interests and if they say something you don't understand or are more knowledgeable about then embrace it, ask them to elaborate or explain. They'll be happy to explain/teach you about something.