I'm a nanny and the oldest child is not behaving what should i do?

Question

HI, I am really in need of advice. I have been a live-out nanny for just over a month. Within the last week or so the oldest child has been misbahaving really badly. She is 5 years old. First it started out as not listening to what i say then today she starting hitting me after i placed her in timeout cause she was yelling and screaming at the top of her lungs while her baby brother was trying to sleep/ So after she hit me about 4 times and started kicking i picked her up and carried her up the stairs and put her in her room and told her she was in there cause she was not listening and was hitting. i then closed the door and she started kicking it and screaming. i had to hold the door closed ( was i wrong doing that) she finally stopped and we talked and i explained what she did was wrong. and everything seemed fine until it was time to get ready for the bus and i asked her to get out of the fridge and she said no and ran up and kicked me over and over again. what to do?

Answer 1

Don't you have a direct line to Super Nanny?

Tell the parents and ask what, in their eyes, is an appropriate way of dealing with the kid.

If it doesn't get better ask for a raise and leave if they don't give it to you.

Answer 2

I would talk to the parents about her behavior......Ask them how they handle it when she looses control. We use the 1-2-3 method in my house and the daycare I have worked at.

1- please stop yelling 2- I said stop yelling 3- you are in time out.

When my daughter was 4 she learned what a time out was and I also had to hold the door shut the first few times. You know she 8 now and gets very few time outs. I still count her. 1. This lets the child know you do not approve of her behavior

2. allows her to change the behavior

3. gives consequence for not changing the behavior

I strongly recommend everyone watch the 1-2-3 magic program. I found it at my local library

Answer 3

smack her little a**!

Answer 4

of course tell the parents.  kids go through phases or have issues regardless of how great their caretaker is.  apparently since she's having issues with her mom, as well, there's something going on with her.  whatever it is needs to be addressed consistently by both you and her parents, and that's going to require a conversation.

as a parent, i'm not going to get upset if a babysitter comes to me saying they're having an issue with my child.  but boy would i get upset if they didn't come to me and i found out about it otherwise.

Answer 5

Hi, Im a live out nanny to two families. One made up of a 8,5 and 3 year old the other made up of a 5 year old and 2 year old twins. I have also had this problem before...you were not wrong to put her in her room! She was misbehaving and she needed to be punished. You need to make boundries and stick with them. Once she learns that her behaviour is not going to be tolerated she will start to calm down. You must must talk to the parents. You need to sit down and say that you love your job and for the most part your day is great but that you have been experiencingsome trouble at times with the 5 year old, that she is being physically abusive towards you. You could also try doing a day diary, that what i do. Where you write down daily events. Everything from lunch to naps, tantrums to playing outside. Then the parents can read it together at the end of the day and either write you nots back or just simply talk to you and the child.

If you have anymore questions feel free to email me! :D