I'm a virgin and my b/f isnt and I know hes gonna want s*x. What to do?

Question

We started dating yesterday and were making out and stuff like that and I was like woah, this is going a lil fast dont cha think? and he said "Im like Michael Phelps, I do everything fast" and his friends were tellin him to tear it up and when we were just about to go inside we started kissing and he was like "Oh im gonna tear you up!" annnnd... idk makin out is the farthest ive ever gone with a guy and its not that i dont want s*x, i just want it with sumone whos worth it. i dont want to end up regretting who i chose to be the lucky one i lose my virginity to.

thanks in advance

♥JiLL♥

Answer 1

stand up for your principles. unless you really want to have s*x with this guy don't. i'm an 18 year old guy and i'm still a virgin and i plan on staying that way till marriage. i don't have any regrets and i figure that anybody, including a potential girlfriend, who gives me **** over that fact isn't worth listening to or dating anymore.

Answer 2

u must be 14 right?u sound like

Answer 3

Honestly, it sounds like that is the only reason he's with you. That is way too fast for the first day! You should just tell him that you don't want to have s*x and tell him exactly how you feel about things. If he actually wants to be with you then he'll stay and respect that. If not, you're way better without him! Good luck!

Answer 4

just tell him... i think you going to fast in this relationship and you dont wanna have s*x at that time. and if he doesnt understand. hes a bad boyfriend because if he was a good one he would understand your feelings and accept it... but hun your think that your gonna loose you virginity at some point in life... and s*x is great and fun...well when your with the right guy!!

Answer 5

your a smart girl

dont have s*x with him

he sounds like his not worth it

if i were you i would wait till i get married

Answer 6

He could be used you, if you just started dating YESTERDAY, s*x shouldn't even be a question.  And if he really liked you, he would understand you're a virgin and not to pressure you.  Seriously.  Save it for someone that really respects you and that you love.

Don't feel like you have to do it, that is not the way it should be.  Actually, making a guy wait and hold off on s*x will only make them respect you more because they know you're not an easy girl--plus, he sounds like he would be the type to tell his friends ALL about your intimate moments, and what happens between you two should be no one else's business.

I suggest you hold off on s*x with him, definitely. Your virginity is a special, sacred thing that once it's gone, you'll never get back again.  And when you look back on it 10 years from now, you don't want to remember a horrible experience with some jerk.

Good luck Jill!

Answer 7

Dump him if he keeps asking for s*x, also slow it down a notch.

Answer 8

oooh definitely feel ya on this one. my boyfriend's not a virgin either and he's not one to feed around the bush about what he wants and when he wants it. interested in seeing that others say!

Answer 9

Tell him your not ready. If he doesn't understand that and breaks up with you then he was clearly only after one thing.  Good luck.

Answer 10

mmm...sounds so s**y...idk about other girls, but a guy who's aggressive, turns me on. mmm-mmm-mmm.

lol. but you don't sound too thrilled about it so go find someone who is more gentle.  

Answer 11

it sounds like he's just trying to impress his friends by getting some.  I would tell him that you dont want to go fast, and that if he cant respect that then you dont want to go out with him (only, of course, if this is true)

Answer 12

if he wants 2 be with u forreal he'l accept it n wait on you if he dusnt then drop him hunny he aint worth it n hes jus in ur way of findin dat guy who is worth it. n tell his frnds 2 bak off ur not a peice of meat n hes stupid if he listens 2 them n thinks like them

Answer 13

I wonder how old your boyfriend is. If he is older then you say.. 15 16 or older, then he may like you because he wants 1 thing. Don't let anyone tell you you should do or not do it. Just do it when you are ready. BUT make sure you use protection, condoms, birth control or both. The last thing you want to do is to get an std or get pregnant.  If when you hang out or talk on the phone, all the 2 of you seem to talk about is s*x and messin around then he probably is not the right guy for you.

I am just being honest. i am sorry if it hurts. Good luck