I'm adopted and being verbally abused.?

Question

Age: 14

I am adopted by my Great Aunt, my Biological Mother was unable to take care of me because she already had another child and was unable to care for two children. Now her other child moved to Texas to live with her father, so I see no reason why she would be unable to care for me now.

My reason for not wanting to live with my adoptive Mother is because she verbally abuses me, and does not allow me to have my own personality. I realize that she has the right to tell me what to do, but I don't believe that she has the right to control me all together. Her verbal abuse is taking a toll on my self esteem and has made me very self-conscious. I have cut myself many times because of her. She consistently yells at me because I don't communicate with her, but it's because every time I tell her anything she mocks me for is all the time. She has slapped me before and I realize it could be much worse, but spanking/slapping is still illegal. I'd like to live with my biological mother but if I have to I'm willing to go in with another family I suppose. i haven't yet talked to my biological mother about this, but I plan to.

Answer 1

Well I don't suggest you tell DCFS because they could just give you another guardian who is worse.  But I do think that you should get in contact your real mother and see what she can do.  But I think that you should not constantly make yourself the victim.  Your Aunt did not make you cut yourself, and you don't have to.  Get up and do something for yourself because you do not have to make it as bad as it is.  Tell her how you feel, talk to her, and it does not have to be an argument.  It can be a real conversation.  Don't yell either, because in her head, it is another reason to raise her hand at you and slap you in pity.  

Answer 2

You could call the Child Protective Services & report her.  Do you have scars from the cutting?  Were you treated for this?  Yes she is abusing you mentally.  Can you go to a counselor? youth pastor? They may have means of helping you get out of that situation.  Don't expect miracles when you talk to your bio mom, she may not want to talk to you or see you.  God Bless you.

Answer 3

i think that maybe you should talk to your aunt about it because obviosly your mom and aunt are close so maybe she can talk to your mom about it and i belive you should sit her down and calmy talk to her if that doesnt work

but if you  and you mom get into alot of fights then try to keep the screaming in your head because when you start screaming she will to if she starts it first and you dont follow it will make her look stupid and she will relize it hope this help

and you find what your looking for good luck

Answer 4

When you don't have your mother this world can be a mean place to live. You are 14 so you can start your countdown to being an adult.  Bury yourself in your books start working on what and who you want to be when you are an adult. Success is such sweet revenge.  

Answer 5

Are you in touch with your biological mother or any other adult?  You may want to talk to a guidance counselor, school psychologist, or anybody who can help you.  I can completely understand why you'd be so upset.  You're being very mature about it.  There are people who are foster parents who CHOOSE to bring in kids like you to give them happy homes, and they are grateful to have new kids in their family, even temporarily.  You could qualify, even though you are getting older.  You are also old enough to be legally emancipated, but that would mean living on your own, which would be a bad idea.  My suggestion?  Talk to a guidance counselor or school psychologist.  They are trained to deal with situations like this.