I'm afraid of high school?

Question

Only about one week until school starts again. I just shake at the thought of high school - I guess I'm scared. I don't have any friends or bullies in this city. Last year there were nice people I occasionally talked to but not hung out with. I didn't feel any connection with anybody/groups so I just gave up trying. I sat alone and wrote in my notebook practically everyday at lunch except when I was invited to eat with others which wasn't common. I struggle to talk to other people. All my conversations turn dead silent after a minute. I don't ever know what to talk about! Once I know people I usually feel comfortable and open but now... it seems so much harder. I don't get it! I even feel embarrassed to talk to my best friends from my old school online...

What can I do to relax myself? Trying to make myself more open seems impossible. Any advice?

Answer 1

GET OVER IT!

Answer 2

LISTEN:

The problem that you have is that you are self- conscious. People notice that . That is why people probably don't talk to you much. It has nothing to do with how you look ect. Its your personality and vibe. Try not to be nervous..because people notice that. Just be calm. Know that you are not alone. Everybody will be nervous too. Go with the flow. Its easier than it sounds. There IS someone who has the same persona as you. High School doesn't have to be like that. You're starting fresh. Your middle school years is BEHIND you.

Its a new year. Don't be too shy. Relax. don't THINK to much about it. Trust me It'll work. I was shy too.  Just know your TRUE friends at the end of the day and stick with them.

I really feel for you. DON'T LISTEN to the other answers that are not taking this question seriously. Try contacting me and emailing me..so i can help you more. By the end of your Freshman year...tell me how it goes. :]

O and join a school sport or club. You will get a lot of friends like that. It will help you connect more. :}

Answer 3

Do what I did in High School.  During every lunchtime and periods between classes, lock yourself in the bathroom stall, sit on the toilet, cover your ears, and repeat "Everything will be OK" over and over and over and over again...

Answer 4

you know, sometimes the best way to start conversations is by asking the other people about themselves. like ask about their families, their favourite TV shows, music, movies-stuff like that-then you can comment about what you like. pretty soon you will find that you will have a lot of things in common, and that's how you can make friends. good luck. oh, why only talk to the girls- boys like to talk too, you know.

Answer 5

Stop caring about what you know about high school. People aren't as bad as you label them. You don't know them and they don't know you. They probably just as nervous as you.  

Answer 6

Definitely don't be afraid of high school. There is a group of people for everyone.

When you need something to talk about turn to stuff that EVERYONE can answer and knows about, like music, books, tv, movies etc. maybe if you like the same thing as someone you can talk about it and hopefully it'll go from there. (:

And put yourself more out there, if people were nice to you before then you obviously have nothing wrong with you and no one will cringe when you try and talk to them.

Have fun in high school and the best of luck. (:

Answer 7

You need to be motivated and more positive, everyone gets this feeling at first, but promise you will get use to the feeling.  

Answer 8

Try this: Talk to other students about movies or music, or TV. These are things nearly EVERYONE can relate to and have opinions about. Show a sincere interest in what people are talking about. Smile a lot. Compliment people on the way they dress etc.Ask people about the things you wish they would ask you about.  Talk about school, you'll find a lot of kids have the same fears. Ask to study together for tests and writing reports or working on assignments. Why don't YOU do the inviting to have lunch with, talk about food you like or hate.

What are you writing in your notebook? Do you write poetry?

See? I'm interested! I really would like to know! Everyone has something to say, share, and contribute to the world. Practice these things and they will become second nature to you.