I'm socially phobic, and I think it all begun with him. During my entire upbringing he told me that I wasn't normal and that nothing I did was ever good enough. He always had a way of hurting me were it hurt the most. But he has been sick his entire life, and has always been a very unhappy person, so I could never talk back to him, I didn't want to make him sad. I was afraid he'd kill himself or something if I let him know just how horrible he was treating me (and my brother and mother as well.)
As I grew older I stopped talking to him and telling him things, because he always took the joy out of everything, and I was scared he would hurt me. No we're like strangers. And I'm afraid of him. I can't look him in the eyes, I hate it when he touches/hugs me (he's never ever hurt me physically though, important to point out), I feel anxious every time I hear his voice, I feel anxious every time I hear his footsteps or anything at all really.
I always expect him to hurt me, even though there was years ago he actually said anything really hurtful to me. I can't shake the fear. What can I do to get over this? I can't talk to him about it, it would hurt him to the core if he found out what type of father he has been to me. I know he never truly meant to be such a b*****d, he is just a deeply unhappy and bitter person. What to do?
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