I'm always picked last. Any Advice?

Question

my mother brought home a paper relating to school. nothing i should be worried about....

But seeing the paper about the school triggered my bad past with the school. being bullied dayin and day out. Then theres Gym. And i'm teriffied about this especially with the 8th grade comeing...

I know i'm not the most athletic. But on the out side someone would think that I have a six-pack. My arms don't have fat dangling, legs look like the popular kids legs. mine are just more harry (don't know if I should REALLY be happy about that)...

But still, I'm always picked last in gym. Its so hard and I feel like i'm gonna cry but i can't or it would be worst. If I get buff they wouldn't notice it or anything.. I have to go the extra mile to get to "notice" me....which usually is never. Because theres smeone always ahead of me..

I'm always picked last.. and it makes me really sad and depressed. Its visual proof that no one in that d**n h**l of a school likes me...i'm always picked last.

Answer 1

bro, dont worry about it, maybe if u tryed joining up for summer sports, becoming rly good at them. also if the whole friends thing is another problem, theres always camps and summer things u can join to meet new ppl. dont think school is the only place u can make friends, also, try to be more social, i feel in some of my highschool classes if i dont have friends, its just because im to quiet, and i dont talk to ppl i havnt talked to yet.

so u can always just talk to sum1 new who u havnt talked to before.

and uve only got a couple years til highschoo, alot of new kids, itd alot more fun.

Answer 2

WORK OUT

Answer 3

I used to be one of those kids too. Not because I wasn't athletic, just because I was a loner and not popular. So I came up with an idea and talked to the gym teacher. I let the teacher know of the situation and asked if she could instead make me the "picker" For some reason she listened to me and when I picked people I picked everyone that usually got picked last or next to last, you know the runts of the gym class. It was a statement that I'll never forget. Personally I think this "school yard pick" is something they should have done away with along time ago. Just keep in mind that you may have more pull then you think you do. Talk to the other kids in class that are also picked last or next to last. You may have more friends on your side if you just look around and notice that your not the only one being picked on or bullyed and if you band together its then strengh in numbers. My best friends in high school ended up to be the school nerd, the school s**t, and an over weight girl who thought that everyone in the school didn't like her. We pretty much had our own table in the cafateria and we where probably labeled as "The loosers" , but the table was a place of safety to be our selves and was respected with in its own right. You also need to learn to stick up for your self and to ignore the pestering of bully's. I'm not saying getting into physical fights. I'm just saying, telling them like it is.

Answer 4

Just because you are picked last doesn't mean kids don't like you, unless you truly have zero friends.  I had just a few friends in school, but alot of acquaintances that I wouldn't really call friends, you know?

Answer 5

Dont Sweat it nobodys perfect.

Be creative choose your own sport and start a game.

and its not that your different just converse with others, let them know that you excist.

Answer 6

My advice to you is: DO NOT WORRY SO MUCH. You are still young. It doesn't matter if you are last or first. You don't have to change yourself to fit in with the others. If no one can see the perfect side of you, then they are not worth your time.

Plus 8th grade is nothing to worry about. 8th grade for me was the best year of my life and I got straight A's in all my classes. ^^

So, if you are worried about being last, observe why you are picked last. Is it because you don't talk much? Is it because you are not "popular"? Is it becasue you are bad at the sport? If you are then you should start talking to some people. Make friends with then. And if you are not good at the activity like football or whatever you have to do, then practice, practice, practice!

Last but not least, talk to your coach or PE teacher about it. Talk to an adult, usually they have past experiences they can share with you. But mainly, you should start to be friends with the other kids so you can stand out in the group.

I went through a same process as you did. During my elementary years, I was a loner and would always be by myself. No one would ever dare to ask me to join them in a basketball game, or a kickball game or anything. But when I started opening up to people, I eventually became more "popular". I was asked to play basketball, volleyball, dodgeball, kickball, all the sports and activities in the world that I'm getting kind of sick of it. But you see, you have to open up. Being lonely would only make your life miserable. Start out by talking to someone that shares something in common wiht you. then you two would have a never ending conversation.

  Hope this helps! Good luck. If you need more advice feel free to email me at

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Answer 7

I was always picked last too, so I know how you feel.  I came to realize that I was picked last because I just wasn't good at sports.  But that doesn't mean I wasn't good at anything.  You have to find the things that you are good at and you do love, and when you do, you'll find friends that share your interests.  Gym isn't going to be fun, I'll tell you that, but it sure makes the time go by faster if you start to realize that it doesn't matter so much.