I'm always really shy, and I really want to change and be more outgoing?

Question

I am very shy and bottled up when it comes to people that i dont know or hardly know, even if its people i am best friends with, i can't open myself up and be outgoing. I want to be able to say hi to people on MSN or something first, but i can't because im not outgoing enough to do that (i know, wierd) I can't call people, or answer the phone because I am so shy about it (again, wierd, i know) I want to be able to have fun and just talk and laugh and be more outgoing to people i know or dont know. I think wayyyy to much about what people will think about me when i do something, like talk, laugh, and well everything. I just cant stop thinking of what other people think of me, when i make a fool of myself (or think i make a fool or myself) I just need a real confidence boost.

Help?

Answer 1

Being shy is hard to get over but possible. Mainly, because you feel like everyone is focused on you but really, they are not that focused on you as you may think. All that matters is that you attempt to make eye contact with people and just letting things happen naturally. You have something to offer people just the same way they may. It may seem like some people were just born with that ability to socialize. Try reading some books, also look at wikihow.com off of wikipedia.com, they have some really suggestions with how to socialize.

Answer 2

i used 2 be sorta like that

basically just start saying the first thing that comes to mind when stuff happens even if you think it sounds dumb or stupid because other ppl will probly find it funny and like it

(thats how i fixed it)

Answer 3

not 2 copy the first person, but i was also like that, like my first 2 years of high school i was like that, then junior year i just tried to stop carin wat ppl think and started askin to hang out and im a senior now and im a ton more outgoin than i was

just try not to care, and if u cant stop caring, then do w/e it is you do anyways

i dont rly know how to boost ur confidence on here but just force yourself

and i added this, def get new clothes taht make you feel more comfortable to people, make yourself look neat so you dont feel like you dont look good or anything

Answer 4

i'm exactly like that too. i used to not be able to call or answer phones, but i grew out of it luckily lol. i don't really have any advice because as i said i am in the same situation as you. but, i am going to get a make over before school so it can make me feel more confident (my hair done, new clothes, new makeup). just try to do something like that. every little bit helps :) also try not to think about what other people think, because the people who think mean things aren't the ones to be around. and when you stop thinking of what other people think, you can be yourself and more comfortable around others and open up.

good luck and God Bless<3