I'm always worried that I'm g*y or going insane...

Question

I'm a 14 year old girl, if you need to know.

It seems like I think about it all the time.

I'm always thinking if something really does turn me on or not, and it goes on and on, in circles almost.

And any little thing, I'm convinced somethings wrong with me. I'm terrified of become Bi-polar, Schizophrenic, or Manic.

What is wrong with me??

I'm getting really tired of it, but it seems like I can't stop.

I really don't feel like I can tell my parents.

They'll just tell me to shake it off, which is what I tell myself a lot too, but it doesn't work like that.

Answer 1

Hi there. I'm bisexual. I realized it over a year ago, and I think you'll agree that it's not an easy struggle. My best advice for you is to SLOW DOWN! Human sexuality is complicated, and it can take years to figure this out. But what's the rush? Just don't worry. You're questioning----it could be that you're bi, g*y, anything at all, or maybe you're still straight and you're, like I said, just questioning. Remember, take it easy, you don't have to tell your parents or anyone for that matter until you're ready, and no one in the world except you can tell you who or what you are. Peace. :) Email me if you have questions.  

Answer 2

I agree with "railrider", don't pay attention to what other people say about abnormalities in human sexuality. You seem to be stuggling with obsessive thoughts-I've dealt with my share of them and know that fears of going crazy and the like can be pretty nerve racking. Obsessive thoughts can be a symptom of OCD. Most people think of washing hands too much, germs, etc; but actually half of the disorder deals with obsessive/intrusive thoughts that produce very intense anxiety.

Relaxation techniques such as yoga, prayer, and meaningful hobbies often help people cope. You also can talk to your Doctor about going on an SSRI treatment for OCD if the thoughts seem too intense.  

Answer 3

As a retired mental health professional with 20+ years experience, I can tell you that at your age, and today's preoccupation with everyone's sexuality, it's a good mark that you're not crazy about  your sexuality.  Just shut off all the trash you hear about homosexuality and let life take it's course.  You'll be much more relaxed that way and you'll be able to recognize when a young boy is attracted to you and wants to be with you more.  My daughter went through all that too and she's doing  great now at 22 years of age.  You'll do great!  God Bless you.

Answer 4

maybe get a boyfriend and that will take your mind off it. Good luck

Answer 5

It sounds like hormones to me. You are at that age when the hormones are flying around your body making you feel strange, up one minute/down the next, causing odd dreams and temporary attractions, confusion, and worry. This will probably pass as you get a little older. In the meantime, you can ask your parents to take you to the doctor and then speak to the doctor privately. I am sure there is something out there that can help you feel better. However, a lot of your chaotic emotions are just part of growing up and getting through your teen years. Don't worry so much about them. Things will get better for you.  

Answer 6

It seems like you are a little too worried about something that isn't that big of a deal...and you probably do not have the psychological disorders that you mentioned, but are just afraid of getting them so you are imangining symptoms that really don't exist.  I think that you are just paranoid and worried about who you really are.  Just try to relax and don't put too much stress on whether or not you are g*y because it isn't a problem to be g*y!  All the answers will come to you eventually, and I don't think that there is anything wrong with you at all.