I'm an only child and my parents died, i'm an orphan and im really depressed. how do i get thru this?

Question

both of my parents just died a week ago, i was spending the night with my friend and got a call the next morning. my house was broken into and my dad tried to stop the guy but he got shot and my mom ran downstairs and got stabbed! the investigators told me this the next day when i had to go tot he hospital. so now im an orphan and im living in a foster family until my godparents get home. im only 14 and im really depressed because i was an only child. since im a teenager i understand alot more now but i dont understand why anyone would kill my mommy and daddy. i dont know how im going to get thru this. can somebody please help me!?!?!

Answer 1

I am so so sorry. It was probably meant to be that you were at your friends house. I think you should go see a theripast. try to keep your head up and talk to your closest friends about it, even if you don't really want to.

fyi I agree with the guy above me:)

Answer 2

Hello. I really understand how hard this can be. But if you put your trust in GOD and JESUS CHRIST they will lead you through this. They have always been there for me. Just live for GOD and pray and you will find that he will help you in many ways. GOD BLESS YOU! :D

Answer 3

OH!  I AM SOOOOOOOOO SORRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! D:

ohh i dont know what to say!  just IM me if you need a friend :(

just add kokiloki98 if you have yahoo messenger :(

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Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss.  You will do better with time but it is to be expected to feel like you do right now.  Hopefully your Godparents will arrive soon so you will at least be with someone that you know.  God loves you and you need to pray for strength.  Your parents will always be their  to guide you throughout life.  I wish I could reach through this computer right this moment and give you a big hug and let you know someone cares about you.  

Answer 5

yahoo anwsers isnt the way to go , get pro help

Answer 6

I can relate to your loss.  As some people have posted you need to seek professional help.  Try contacting the Office for Victims of Crime Resource Center (OVCRC), a component of the National Criminal Justice Reference Service (NCJRS) at 1-800-851-3420.  Also, I have done charity and volunteer work involving the website posted below.  

Answer 7

I would find a hobby that you can put soul and heart into. I would find a group of people who are in the same situation as you and help them. Talk to your parents on spiritual daily basis. Believe me they are still there.  

Answer 8

what i'm about to tell you is the not the standard advice from a psychiatrist and its not the advice from someone who's never experienced something like this. my advice to you is what i've done, or should have done after i've had my own problems....

that really sucks! no child should ever lose any parent! i hope those scumbags that killed your parents are sdnfkjsdnkf killed. but more importantly, the spotlight is on you. usually at this point, there are 3 ways going about this to help your mental health. 1. you continue to live life at the best of your ability but shun anyone that tries to help. can't tell you how it will play out, but i can tell you it won't be good. 2. see a therapist. but ask them not to give you medication. they are legally not allowed to give you medication unless you approve it or they believe you are in a state which needs them. by just talking to a therapist, you are letting yourself vent, and you have someone to talk to and understand what you're going through instead of you trying to reach out to stragers on yahoo answers. 3. you see a therapist, and allow them to perscibe anti-depressants, mood changers, etc.... some people they can help, while others can completely destroy you. the only reason you should be taking them, is if you have a real medical problem which needs to be addressed with drugs. for example, clinical depression as defined is a chemical imbalence in the brain. in order to fix that, certain anti-depressants are needed which will try to restore your brain to the correct balence..so to speak. but if you are trying to get the drugs, so you can try to distract you from life's problems, that's bad! and that will only lead to drug addictions. once you choose one of those 3, you then must make a game plan for yourself. for example, do you plan on trying to continue what you were doing before the tradgedy, will you try harder in school so you don't have to think about it as much, will you give yourself a more relaxed schedual so you don't stress yourself out, will you live life trying to be successful to make your parents proud, or will you live your life searching for happiness because thats all that really matters to you. you've got to figure that out on your own. what you would be looking for is an epiphany, or a sudden realization. after that, live life one day at a time. i'm not going to be the one to tell you that everything is going to turn out ok, and that life can't get any worst than it is right now. because if i did, i'd probably be lying to you. but you have to keep fighting, because in the end, thats all that matters. did you go down without trying, or did you fight for everything you care about and love, until you can't fight no more?

now if you're wandering, this is a list of the major problems i've had. i tell you this because i want you to understand that i've gone through things similar to your own, and i'm not just some crazy guy on the internet giving you some bs advice. but its also a way for me to vent to, just like you are doing by asking this question.

mother was a psychopath...tried to kill the rest of my family (eventually taken away but for the next 14 years battled my family in court)

my mother figure (grandmother) died of a rare form of non hotchkins lymphoma...type of cancer in case you don't know

my twin brother had bone cancer (he did survive fortunately)

we haven't had any friends, girlfriends, or any real social interaction with people our age and from our school outside of school in more than 10 years. because my dad eventually realized that, he wanted to compensate for that by being our best friend. even though i still didn't have any friends, we were happy (or as happy as we could get) because we were enjoying our childhood and teenage years anyway. so we didn't go to parties, go to kid's houses or anything, but we did do more things with our dad (who was a very cool guy - just ask the hundreds of beautiful women who fell in love with him and are still in love with him)

2 years ago, he was diagnosed with a type of brain cancer. he continued to go to work, even 3 days after he had brain surgery! he still performed is role as a single parent and best friend at optimal ability, until december of last year. he regressed so much because of the tumor and effects of the medications mentally. at that point, my brother and i decided to stay home from school and take car of him and be with him. he died in the beginning of february.

after math of my fathers death

my psychotic mother is still trying to claim whats left of what my dad left us

my sister is a drug addict

and my twin brother, the last person i have left in this world was forced to go 2500 miles away to a residential treatment center (in other words, a mental hospital for teens which looks like a boarding school) because when he told our incompetent guardian, our uncle, that he had anxiety towards going back to school, especially becauase he didn't have my dad to fall back on, my uncle told everyone that he was suicidal and wanted to kill people. so 7 cops made a suprise visit at 4 in the morning, handcuffed him, and dragged him to the airport. this was yesterday. now we both have nothing else to live for, no wander my uncle thinks we're suicidal...

but we gotta keep on fighting

Answer 9

am so sorry for this.. even i have lost my parents.. To survive in this world you need friends.. Please find as many as friends you can..

Find good friends...

Answer 10

I'm so sorry to hear this hun! All that you can do is pray!! I know's it's hard but you will be okay! Best wishes!

Answer 11

When God gives you lemons, you find a new God.

Answer 12

sorry just try to keep going.

Answer 13

i think there is a REASON your Q &A are private and if yoru lieing you need to think of all the kids who really lost their parents  

Answer 14

I am sorry for your lost. I know it is hard for you. U need to go and talk to someone. Talking to someone will help you out. :(

Answer 15

There will be a grieving period. It should not be avoided. Depression is a normal state of mind that can be altered at times. When my Fiance  died, I thought I wanted to die also. When reality struck I had to go it alone. the survival instinct kicks in. Remember the good, forget the bad and give yourself some time. Your life is ahead of you, Make it a good one!

Very sorry for your loss

Answer 16

I'm really sorry that happened to you.

You liberals in society - YOU are responsble for coddling of criminals.

Go onto the website http://www.fhu.com - there's a lot of spirtual stuff that could be helpful.

I'll be praying for you, as well. How can any of us go on normally with our day or evening, after reading this?

Answer 17

i know what you feel like right know

but god will help you

hopefully you get nice parents

and you'll live a happy life

i consider yourself being strong

and try to go throw this

hopes this helps

Answer 18

I'm very sorry for your lose there is no right way to get over a thing like this its not going to be a over night process you will probably never get over this but the best you can do is get over it not in a bad way just take one step at a time dont try to push through it like it nothing you can go to counceling if you have a close family member or friend talking about it help the most dont keep your feeling about it all bottled up because before you know it you will blow up on someone that you dont mean to just hang in there good luck