I had a dream a few nights ago in which a male coworker and I were involved in a relationship. It wasn't an intimate dream, just that we were dating and enjoying being together. He is 29 and I am 22; he has a girlfriend and I am engaged. My fiance and I have been together for six years.
Anyway, since the dream, I've found myself being awkward around him at work (we're RN's, working 12-hour nights). I want to be around him all the time and my heart and belly flutter a little bit every time he talks to me. I'm new on the unit and still in orientation and feel totally incompetent most of the time, but he has been very nice. He's not precepting me (thank goodness), but he still asks if I need help with anything, etc. He whispered in my ear that I was doing a good job and I about jumped out of my skin.
I can't get him out of my head and I keep looking at his MySpace and Facebook. I cried at work because I had didn't have a perfect evaluation and now I feel like I've made a fool of myself in front of him.
Anyway, I still love my fiance very much and plan to marry him soon. We've set a date of August 2009, but he is leaving to go overseas in November and will be deployed for six months.
I just want these thoughts out of my head, but I can't get them to go away. I only want thoughts of my fiance there! But, I keep having fantasies about my coworker and I being together and what our first kiss would be like.
I feel awful. I will not act on these feelings because I know that they would only lead to trouble, plus I doubt this poor coworker of mine even wants involved with me (although he did mention his girlfriend and him were on the outs and I stupidly got excited; he didn't mention it to just me, there were other people around).
How can I make myself stop having these feelings for my coworker? What do you think is going on?
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